Do you feel sorry for someone you rejected?

[Anonymous]

Do you feel sorry for someone you rejected?

Yes

No

[weasley8]

Usually at first. If they react badly I stop feeling bad though. The reason that I said usually is that normally while creepy dangerous types show who they are after being rejected, there have been a few cases where I have known definitively before rejecting someone. Those are the cases where I don’t feel any guilt over it.

[pleasestopthis]

Yes, because feeling rejected sucks, but it's not enough to make me change my mind or regret my decision.

[Juxtapose]

Yes, who likes hurting people's feelings especially if they do something as flattering as showing interest in you?

This is all assuming the other person is behaving like an adult and not some kind of creep.

[Juxtapose]

Thanks for MHO.

[Historylover18]

Kind of a middle ground. It never feels good to know that you disappointed someone or hurt their feelings, and yet at the same time you don't want to lie to them because that makes it worse.

[Pinay_ako]

Yes and no. Yes I had to break their heart and no because they don't have to deal with a broken person like me

[Juxtapose]

You seem like a pretty reasonable person to me.

[Pinay_ako]

@Juxtapose Is that a compliment?

[Juxtapose]

I was implying that you don't have a reason to doubt yourself and that you seem like a decent person to get along with.

[Kaazsz]

What’s broken about you?

[Apope16]

I dont feel sorry for rejection. I do feel sorry for rejecting someone because physically I know I could have had sex with them but for moral reasons O didn't take advantage of them. The regret comes from going against biological instinct and saying no to the sex that you desire (even if you dislike them.)

[Logorithim]

Yeah, I would feel sorry for her.

[ManOnFire]

Only if I did it in a harsh way.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Only for the sweet ones who didn't learn enough to know I was no longer available. Then, there are those tireless creeps who just won't take no for an answer until they turn around to discover my beau closely towering over them. Those twerps we don't feel sorry for at all.

[Anonymous]

Yes, because I went out on a few dates. He seemed like a great guy! Everything inside me screemed something is off about him. I kept trying to convince myself my gut instinct was wrong. He wants to keep going out, trying to force me to be in a committed dating relationship. I have paid for half the dates and told him I want to be friends and just see what happens! He’s pushed so hard that it’s made me not like him, and made me feel my gut instinct was right. I cut off contact and I feel bad because his feelings are hurt. I don’t like doing that to anyone ever, but this got creepy weird fast!!!

[sonnysunshine]

And this is why it’s up to the woman, not the man to ask “where is this going” when it comes to the pace of the relationship.

That makes some guys uncomfortable but makes almost all women very uncomfortable.

[mono_gram]

Yes mainly because I turned him down (actually friendzoned him) within only a couple of minutes after he said so. It was over text and I sort of freaked out even though I already knew that he liked me.

He tried to seem cool about it and said that he’s been rejected before, but I thought that I at least could’ve said things in a better way.

[princess_amanda]

I recently just rejected someone, and I feel horrible because I've been in his shoes before when someone didn't like me. I did it in the most gentle way possible, still feel bad though. I guess that's what happens when you have a good heart.
However, I would've felt worse leading him on or just ghosting him.

[winterfox10]

Absolutely! I see how hard it was for them to work up the courage to ask me out. I used to reject people flat out, but now I sometimes just go on the date with them anyhow. I figure that it's better to let the date happen, so that way the poor girl is never wondering "what if?"

[GoodManDave]

The few times I rejected dating a girl, no, not very often. I mean, if something terrible happened to them after, then sure. But just because I was cautious or not interested, not really. I usually respected them enough to think well of them even if I wasn’t attracted. I might feel bad in a way about having to say no sometimes, but no, not really feeling sorry for them for getting rejected.

[IAmRedThunder]

Yeah.. one of my closest friends was in love with me for so long. When he finally told me we were friends for 7 years by that point and I just didn’t see him in that kind of way. I feel so bad about it... but I’d much rather tell him than string him along

[z2000]

All the friggin time. I have a real problem with not wanting to hurt people's feelings, and leading them on. Online dating was really exhausting to me for that reason.

[Massageman]

No and yes. Yes and no. It's a bad deal to have to turn off a relationship for any reason: this is a toss up as far as feeling sorry for them. If they caused the problem, you shouldn't have to feel sorry for them: empathetic, yes maybe, but not feeling sorry for them.

[15Nightingale51]

Yes, absolutely! I know how strongly they must have felt to pluck up the courage to say something to me.

[15Nightingale51]

I don't regret my actual decision. I know that I made the right choice for me. But I do regret the pain I caused to someone else

[dtweed96]

Kind of if I felt like I needed to break someone's heart doing that but I usually avoid giving a brutal break up usually I don't typically do a break up standardly I really try to handle things for as long as I could and if I get lucky they might lose interest and ghost me

[CubsterShura]

Why would I? If I liked to them saying yes and pretended to be interested in them forever maybe because he only has money or good looks, wouldn't that be more miserable? Isn't it just better if he finds his soulmate instead?

[CubsterShura]

Lied*

[sonnysunshine]

It never feels good to reject someone unless you are a sociopath. But I would better to show them where I stand vs. pulling some friendzone bullshit. It’s ripping the band aide off

As a hetero male I have been romantically rejected least 20 times in my life. The worst experiences were long term agonizing false hope, friendzone bullshit. I have learned to never do that to other people.

Fortunately I got a cool girlfriend right now though.

[Anonymous]

No.
I rejected a guy in high school because didn't know what i wanted yet so i guess he was better off.
The second guy i rejected did not attract me and was a stalker. He reacted very badly to my rejection and called me all bad names you can think of.
The third guy i rejected was not at all attractive to me and was actually trying to flirt with me on social media, publically.

So no.

[Royalsarcasist]

Ofcourse. I’ve felt that pain only a few times and it sucks. Liking someone who doesn’t like you back. I feel for them, and I hate to bring that upon someone else. But it’s better than living a lie.

[latinabutterfly96]

Only if they’re mature about it. I wouldn’t feel “sorry” for them but I’d definitely respect them for their politeness and sympathize with them.