Do you feel sorry for someone you rejected?

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weasley8 · Accepted Answer

Usually at first. If they react badly I stop feeling bad though. The reason that I said usually is that normally while creepy dangerous types show who they are after being rejected, there have been a few cases where I have known definitively before rejecting someone. Those are the cases where I don’t feel any guilt over it.

pleasestopthis · Accepted Answer

Yes, because feeling rejected sucks, but it's not enough to make me change my mind or regret my decision.

Juxtapose · Accepted Answer

Yes, who likes hurting people's feelings especially if they do something as flattering as showing interest in you?

This is all assuming the other person is behaving like an adult and not some kind of creep.

Historylover18 · Accepted Answer

Kind of a middle ground. It never feels good to know that you disappointed someone or hurt their feelings, and yet at the same time you don't want to lie to them because that makes it worse.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Yes and no. Yes I had to break their heart and no because they don't have to deal with a broken person like me

Apope16 · Answer

I dont feel sorry for rejection. I do feel sorry for rejecting someone because physically I know I could have had sex with them but for moral reasons O didn't take advantage of them. The regret comes from going against biological instinct and saying no to the sex that you desire (even if you dislike them.)

Logorithim · Answer

Yeah, I would feel sorry for her.

ManOnFire · Answer

Only if I did it in a harsh way.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Only for the sweet ones who didn't learn enough to know I was no longer available. Then, there are those tireless creeps who just won't take no for an answer until they turn around to discover my beau closely towering over them. Those twerps we don't feel sorry for at all.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, because I went out on a few dates. He seemed like a great guy! Everything inside me screemed something is off about him. I kept trying to convince myself my gut instinct was wrong. He wants to keep going out, trying to force me to be in a committed dating relationship. I have paid for half the dates and told him I want to be friends and just see what happens! He’s pushed so hard that it’s made me not like him, and made me feel my gut instinct was right. I cut off contact and I feel bad because his feelings are hurt. I don’t like doing that to anyone ever, but this got creepy weird fast!!!

mono_gram · Answer

Yes mainly because I turned him down (actually friendzoned him) within only a couple of minutes after he said so. It was over text and I sort of freaked out even though I already knew that he liked me.

He tried to seem cool about it and said that he’s been rejected before, but I thought that I at least could’ve said things in a better way.

princess_amanda · Answer

I recently just rejected someone, and I feel horrible because I've been in his shoes before when someone didn't like me. I did it in the most gentle way possible, still feel bad though. I guess that's what happens when you have a good heart.
However, I would've felt worse leading him on or just ghosting him.

winterfox10 · Answer

Absolutely! I see how hard it was for them to work up the courage to ask me out. I used to reject people flat out, but now I sometimes just go on the date with them anyhow. I figure that it's better to let the date happen, so that way the poor girl is never wondering "what if?"

GoodManDave · Answer

The few times I rejected dating a girl, no, not very often. I mean, if something terrible happened to them after, then sure. But just because I was cautious or not interested, not really. I usually respected them enough to think well of them even if I wasn’t attracted. I might feel bad in a way about having to say no sometimes, but no, not really feeling sorry for them for getting rejected.

IAmRedThunder · Answer

Yeah.. one of my closest friends was in love with me for so long. When he finally told me we were friends for 7 years by that point and I just didn’t see him in that kind of way. I feel so bad about it... but I’d much rather tell him than string him along

z2000 · Answer

All the friggin time. I have a real problem with not wanting to hurt people's feelings, and leading them on. Online dating was really exhausting to me for that reason.

Massageman · Answer

No and yes. Yes and no. It's a bad deal to have to turn off a relationship for any reason: this is a toss up as far as feeling sorry for them. If they caused the problem, you shouldn't have to feel sorry for them: empathetic, yes maybe, but not feeling sorry for them.

15Nightingale51 · Answer

Yes, absolutely! I know how strongly they must have felt to pluck up the courage to say something to me.

dtweed96 · Answer

Kind of if I felt like I needed to break someone's heart doing that but I usually avoid giving a brutal break up usually I don't typically do a break up standardly I really try to handle things for as long as I could and if I get lucky they might lose interest and ghost me

CubsterShura · Answer

Why would I? If I liked to them saying yes and pretended to be interested in them forever maybe because he only has money or good looks, wouldn't that be more miserable? Isn't it just better if he finds his soulmate instead?

sonnysunshine · Answer

It never feels good to reject someone unless you are a sociopath. But I would better to show them where I stand vs. pulling some friendzone bullshit. It’s ripping the band aide off

As a hetero male I have been romantically rejected least 20 times in my life. The worst experiences were long term agonizing false hope, friendzone bullshit. I have learned to never do that to other people.

Fortunately I got a cool girlfriend right now though.

Anonymous · Answer

No.
I rejected a guy in high school because didn't know what i wanted yet so i guess he was better off.
The second guy i rejected did not attract me and was a stalker. He reacted very badly to my rejection and called me all bad names you can think of.
The third guy i rejected was not at all attractive to me and was actually trying to flirt with me on social media, publically.

So no.

Royalsarcasist · Answer

Ofcourse. I’ve felt that pain only a few times and it sucks. Liking someone who doesn’t like you back. I feel for them, and I hate to bring that upon someone else. But it’s better than living a lie.

latinabutterfly96 · Answer

Only if they’re mature about it. I wouldn’t feel “sorry” for them but I’d definitely respect them for their politeness and sympathize with them.

bless294 · Answer

Yes, I still care for that person and we’re still good friends.

IceMoon · Answer

Yeah, of course. I feel guilty for hurting his feelings or possibly ruining his day, but at the end of the day if I don’t like him, I’m not forced to like him.

Verastophilis · Answer

Not particularly, but I always try my best to encourage them to keep trying with other women! It's not that they aren't my type or anything, it's just that I don't care for dating at this time of my life. However that shouldn't stop them for pursuing relationships with others. Many of those who have asked are amazing men. They deserve better than what I would have to offer anyway!

KissesAndKiwis · Answer

Usually yes but if they don’t take the rejection properly then no

morimeme1 · Answer

You feel sorry in the moment but should never hold on to that feeling, rejections are a part of life, you can't force someone to like you.

MLGbreezy · Answer

I personally do but it's hard to these days cause some females be fucking disrespectful with it so I just be wanting to have that same don't give a fuck attitude hut that's not me do. Always respectful

AuroraRoseat · Answer

Not at all. They wouldn't want to be with a person who doesn't desire them in the first place (I hope).

Rhonda333 · Answer

So- here is another instance of matching up a white woman with a negro man- as if this is normal. Shame. Could you not find 2 people of the same race to illustrate your question?

CherryRoseChampange · Answer

Not really, I kind of did it for me and them. We wouldn't have worked out. Ir would have been one sided or a disaster either way

Syb010 · Answer

Been in their place multiple times and I know it really sucks for a while but you will be fine after some time realizing it was just not meant to be.

Lovethedove · Answer

Everyone deserves someone who wants them so it’d be more cruel to say to a person I didn’t want

Dsg1193 · Answer

Yes only because I know I’m sensitive and I know how’d that make me feel.

genericname85 · Answer

no. why? if i didn't love them, then there's nothing for them to be had in a relationship with me anyway. i mean it feels somewhat bad but well what can you do?

MackToday · Answer

No, no matter how it affected her I wouldn't feel sorry, that's on her not on me. All in her head and I own her nothing what so ever.

markanthonypeace · Answer

In the past sometimes because of the way it happened. Now with honesty and kindness. A friend if they need assuming it's possible.

GraveDoll · Answer

No, not really. Better to be honest than carry on with a lie.

StephenCF · Answer

I wish there was someone I even had the opportunity to reject, but alas I’m never asked out. I’m always the one on the far end of the stick though 😒

Thatsamazing · Answer

Yeah sometimes. It depends why I rejected them. But guys don't have to reject girls very often since girls don't pursue guys hardly ever.

idiotmanchild · Answer

For one particular girl who I was the only guy she was going after, it was tough. I'm usually in her position so I know how much it sucks to be rejected by the only option.

ultimega · Answer

It depends on the type of person. Some dont take no for answer or get mean about it.

Mullakkajokes · Answer

All the time. Especially if they made a makeover and become hot.

imgudluv · Answer

Yes, they went out of their way to ask me out and i just rejected them.

Pulimuli · Answer

I rejected a very close friend once when she told me she had feelings for me and I only saw her as a friend. That felt bad

Anonymous · Answer

No I don't feel mush guilt anymore for People so no..

krystallpz · Answer

Yes because I don't like to hurt anyone's feelings but no because if I'm just not into it, why lead someone else on? Not fair to anyone in the long run

zagor · Answer

I once gave a girl a fake phone number and felt bad for that.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I don't because if I liked them I wouldn't have said no.

Lgmswolf024 · Answer

I feel bad that it didn't go as planned for them but I'm glad I didn't lead them on and I was honest

ChiPaPa · Answer

I haven't outright rejected anyone. I don't do long distance relationships.

sasukeuchiha7 · Answer

I don't generally cause I don't have to feel guilty or sad for not liking someone.

Lance1965 · Answer

Nope, just feel a little awkward about it but that feeling doesn't last long.

luciusmalfoy1 · Answer

Of course the picture is an black and white couple. It’s literally the Jews and Muslims who are doing it to brainwash while women... so that white men will die out.

Gabriella90 · Answer

No cause I’m into them their not my type and I am married.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

I have never rejected any girl yet in my life because no girl has approached n initiate with me.

DizzyDesii · Answer

If we ended on a nice respectable note then yes

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah a little bit but I know its not that big of a deal so the guilt isn't that bad.

Full_Metal_Jacket · Answer

I gotta say I feel sorry for men these days. No wonder male suicide rate is high.

Zion333 · Answer

Is picturing a black man considers or you did it on purpose?

Anonymous · Answer

That picture is great. She is saying "Negro, please. You have zero chance to access this luscious white pussy."

tonicandgin · Answer

Depends. Were they assholes?

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