Does it make you feel guilty when you reject someone?

[Monalisa77]

Yes

No

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+1 y

what if u do like them but there r some things that put u off and have to end it

[D_Bone_Steak]

No. And why not? Because fuck them, that's why! I don't owe them shit. Bitch might be chatting up my ear and then some dude comes up and says "Yo... I'd appreciate it if you'd quit talking to my boy's girl dawg" and I have to ask myself, "Should I be spitful and fuck his boy's girl?" Why she even talking to me or trying to turn me onto her?

I'm just giving one example of some bullshit you as a male will run into with these bitches. They always seem to have a dude already. You know how many chicks I banged and then she wants to come out crying about how she's cheating on her baby's daddy? I'm tired of it, and hell no I don't see any of those women as a good proposition for anything other than just fucking. Who do they think they are? Best pussy in the world... her friend is hawter and I'll probably fuck her too.

Look, it's not my fault they hand over the puss just like they did to every guy before and after me... while she might expected us to think we had something special... that wasn't special. I mean every weirdo has fucked her and WTF... she's just not special!

She did it to herself. She put herself in a place where nobody wants to lock her down except the lowest of the low... She can now only find long-term

dick with INCEL quality dick. Enjoy bitch. I'm a go fuck your friend now.

[Monalisa77]

Im talking about someone genuine

[D_Bone_Steak]

Let me re-try then with this new perspective...

Yeah the answer is going to be about the same. You have to think from my shoes... all these women are fucked up and under the influence of... whatever you want to call it (it's a social influence), so yeah they are not worth the effort.

What does she bring to the table and what do I stand to lose in order to gain whatever she brings? See my point? The juice is not worth the squeeze. The only guys that think so are salivating at the mouth just for pussy. That's fine... but once they get that and post-nut clarity kicks in and they decide to just space ghost... you blame them? She is a deficit on everything from time to finances.

Bottom line genuine or not... it's a female and that is a liability. Yeah yeah... she might have some of that soft warm pussy... but then what after that? It's more trouble than it's worth.

[D_Bone_Steak]

She will have 2 other guys lined up after me if it don't work out... If I try to make it work out she will cheat on me with those 2 other guys and all the others she finds along the way. Best to just hit it and quit it.

[Monalisa77]

I'm not any of those women

[D_Bone_Steak]

Lady... that's what they all say. I'm sure you're different just like all of the rest say, I'll give you that benefit of the doubt. But think about it in general... your average guy is standing there looking at a sea of women that are just the worst of the worst anyone could add to their lives... and then there is you that is truly different... you don't stand out because of all of them.

You can't blame a dude for assuming you're just like the rest. You're going to have to prove yourself if you really want that kind of devotion... especially in the world we live in today. YOU, yes you, will have to do the work... the chase... the effort.

Otherwise go to the next guy just like all the rest of the girls do.

[dynamicyandere]

I used to feel guilty for rejecting someone or breaking up with someone.


But, not anymore, because I now do it with the intention of doing what’s best for them.


For example, if I’m not interested in a relationship, I let them know early on, so that they don’t get led on and waste their time chasing me if they could use that time pursuing someone who is interested.


I’m sparing them their time.


As for breaking up, it’s better to cut things off early if things aren’t working out.


The higher you climb, the harder you fall. So, before they get even more attached, it’ll be better to break things off earlier, rather than later, to spare them a worse heartbreak.


I’m thinking about what’s best for them and what’s considerate to them.


So, with that focus — a focus on their future and well-being, I don’t feel guilty rejecting people anymore.

[devilish-cutie]

yes, i hate it... i mean i might not feel really "guilty" but i do feel really bad. I also had bad experiences where men take it so badly and hate on me and constantly expect me to give them a chance. I dont get why men think I owe them a chance/a date or something. Like I dont find you attractive, you are repulsive to me - is that what they want me to say? (I never say this, Im clear but kind in my rejections). And then everyone keeps saying women dont care about looks so they think oh you dont know me, just get to know me, you can't reject me without getting to know me! Like NO! I dont find you physically, sexually attractive so NO, like you are ugly to me

[Monalisa77]

Well the last guy who flirted with me probably didn't think anything of it till it started

[IslaTheWitch]

Guilty is a feeling that appears when we know we do something wrong.

Is saying another person we don't share their feelings wrong?

I don't see it that way. I'm honest and save them from investing time and emotions into something that doesn't exist.

So no, I don't feel guilty when I say I don't reciprocate their feelings or hopes. But sometimes their reactions make me feel guilty...

[OlderAndWiser]

The alternative is to pretend to be interested in a girl when I am not. That is more disrespectful than being honest with her.

[Summeroflove]

It just depends on the situation. Sometimes. Sometkmes not.

[NoOneEver]

It would depend on the person…


If they were a kind person with only good intentions but I knew that we don’t have enough in common to keep me interested, then I would end up feeling bad.


If it’s a person that is just bad news altogether who maybe has target me for a relationship because they seem to have this mind state where they think I’m an easy target… No I don’t feel bad for those types…


I don’t get pursued often so it’s not something I have to worry about really..

[sawno]

I feel bad hurting them yes, I also have tactics to make sure I am not in that spot. There are a few things you shouldn't do when dating and I sometimes do them on purpose if its someone I see as just a friend. That way she won't get feelings for me. Can be signalling early on I am not interested, talking about someone else I am interested in early on, joking that she is in to me way to early on so she doubles down on not being in to me. Whatever suits the moment since its very organic in the way I do it, but so far its been very effective.

[Monalisa77]

So u wouldn't stroke a girls hand and stare at her if u wasn't interested?

[sawno]

Indeed I wouldn't, but I almost never meet girls in real life. Completely stuck in a men's world, the only female interaction I get currently in my daily life is when I visit the physiotherapist. Every other girl I know is online. So for me its more a case of online dynamics rather than staring or not.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I feel bad for them. Not sure if guilty is the right word. I didn't do anything wrong, but it sucks to get rejected. Most of the times they aren't even hard rejections, just a softer "well we could be friends". Still sucks for them though

[Fireguy17]

I try to do it in as nice a way as possible, so they don't wonder.
While it can be an uncomfortable conversation, sometimes you find that they might be thinking the same thing.
I had that happen to me.
I was figuring out what and how to tell her, but she called me and broke it off.
I was actually cheerful on the phone, I think that threw her off a bit, but I never told her that I was planning on doing the same thing.
We both knew that it just wasn't going to go any further.

[NathanDavis]

nope... I don't reject anybody, I just kindly let them known that I do not feel the same way about it... or that I don't even know them, in some cases lol

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I don't feel guilty for it because it's better than stringing their heart along if I don't feel the same way as they do. Stringing someone along will cause a much more painful heartbreak than one from just rejection.

[MsBell2018]

If I'm approached & I'm not interested or not available, I'll politely say so. There's no reason to feel guilty if you're honest. Feel guilty if you lie, play games, lead them on, etc

[molonski2]

Honestly , I don't like it at all , if they are a nice person , but I just know it's not happening I do feel guilty.

[Billlewis]

I hope every single woman who responds to this question answers 'No'.

[Monalisa77]

Why? It made me feel bad xos it was only cos he smoked and he was really nice

[Billlewis]

Because men in general need to recalibrate their expectations for the current era, and one of the best ways to accomplish that is to be repeatedly rejected, until we become accustomed to this marketplace.

[Monalisa77]

Pretty sure this guy had been rejected before, he was 31 and didn't aound like he had many gfs

[Yannae]

It kind of did, because I didn't see anything wrong with some of the women I've rejected. Feeling weird about how I thought I was supposed to feel something towards them but nothing happened.

[pickles77]

Not so much. If it’s not gonna work out it’s not gonna work out for either of us and it’s would be unfair to lead someone on and not reject them. Of course this doesn’t mean you can’t end on good terms either which is what I often do.

[Ms_Facesitter]

It makes me feel sad, but not guilty. If I don't feel anything for him, I don't feel anything for him. Happens.

[KittygosMeoWW]

No, I’ve been rejected plenty of times in and out of relationships. Everyone has a preference and an idea of who their partner is. I’d rather know/tell them up front and not waste their time.

[LiamJHayden]

No. If I am not interested it would be unfair to me, and really to her, to pretend. Why feel guilty about doing what is best for both?

[Starrrboy]

Yes!.. terrible lol.. I'm one of those innocent souls 😅..

[Clyde_123]

No, Id feel more guilty if I lead him on.

[Monalisa77]

Well yes, it wasn't that i didn't like them its just certain things put me off

[Minahh]

You shouldn't feel guilty about rejecting someone. Never. Be polite tho.

[InspireGlow678]

Yes, it depends on the kind of person I'm rejecting

[Jltakk]

Was never lucky enough to have been afforded the opportunity to.

[Anonymous]

Not anymore. I'm pretty numb to feelings on both ends now.

[Nikki1989]

No, not my problem.

[laly520]

no, better be honest than lie and force it

[systemsareyo]

It has and it does, slightly. Not long term lol 😆

[Anonymous]

I guess it did, but not that guilty.

[smashleyy]

Sometimes

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes.

[Jamie05rhs]

"what if u do like them but there r some things that put u off and have to end it"
What do you mean?

[Monalisa77]

Like u guys have a connection but they do something u dont like even if its not something they oersonally done to u

[Jamie05rhs]

@Monalisa77 What did he do?

[Monalisa77]

Its a hypothetical situation

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, what would it be hypothetically, then?

[douride2]

Not really.

[MissBoogus]

Yes :(

[roy_ricky09]

Nope

[Luckycharms12]

A little

[eagle1951]

nope