Do you ever feel bad for rejecting someone?

[Anonymous]

I turned down a girl.. after about 3 months... She was still sad about it.. And I didn't even know her.. That means she was crushing on me from distance... she's very attractive and seems nice but I don't want to be with someone right now so I can't do anything about it... I feel so terrible after the looks she gave me.. like I feel so guilty even though I didn't really do anything 😕

[Anonymous]

Is not wanting to be with anyone a nice way of letting her down because really, you don't want to be with her?

No, I don't feel bad for rejecting anyone. I'm not dating someone to make them feel better. I rejected them because I'm not interested in them enough to want to date them. Even, if you do date her based on her feelings, the day is going to come where you wish you weren't with her because you weren't into her from the beginning. Why not just let the day come for her. One day, she will get over being rejected.

[Asker]

Yeah I like her she seems great but I can't be with her.. You're super right you can't be with someone to make them feel better... Plus people who are falling so hard at the start tend to stop caring much after they get what they want..

[Anonymous]

Question, what do people mean when they don't wanna be with someone right now..

Are you okay?

[Asker]

I have personal problems i need to work on... it's taking all my time and energy