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When it comes to dating... Is being a VIRGIN a red flag?
28 year-old kissless virgin here. I prefer a virgin girl because she has no one to compare me with. We are on the same page. Big relief. And I think it would be fun to learn together. We would both be clean too. We all have our reasons. As long as we can understand and accept how we ended up with our virgin status then we will be fine.
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I am a virgin, and if that was a red flag for someone I most certainly would not be interested in them
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To me it says he's either waiting for marriage or had really bad luck with dating or women.
Which wouldn't phase me considering my luck with men in the past: good for him! I know for guys it's bad to be a virgin in your 20s or 30s, but screw what others think! Better than him being a manwhore or f boy
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Nope. I'm a virgin as well. I respect my fellow virgins [the real pure ones]. What I don't respect is people tossing it away. We have to be on the same page and be compatible. No two virgins are the same. Trust me when I say.
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It’s unusual, but not a red flag.
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No, it has no effect on whether she is a good girlfriend
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Not at all, as long as you're just not squeamish about sex. I oddly think women in their 30s or 40s who are still virgins to be weirdly attractive.
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I only said yes, because as a definite NON-virgin, it's something that I would really want to talk about for various reasons.
1) would ours be a sexual relationship? in any fashion?
2) would there be contempt for my history of partners?
3) would there be contempt for how my friends carry out their sexual/romantic relationships?
4) Are there religious/cultural differences that I would be expected to "embrace" as well?
5) Would we have the same attitudes toward highly sexualized media, tv shows (like game of thrones has a lotta scenes)?
6) is there an expectation of a long-term commitment aka marriage before engaging in physical intimacy?
It would be a red flag to me as someone who doesn't prioritize virginity, being with someone who perhaps does ardently. Merely because I know we come from different perspectives, and it is an obvious place for many misunderstandings contempt (from both of us). I would do it, but I would need a lot more communication about the topic. -
In some cases yes. If you're very religious or have a goal of waiting for sex until marriage it is not weird. If there is some extenuating circumstance like taking care of a sick family member when you're young and it leaves you no time to date it is not weird. However if you're a virgin cause you can't get laid due to your personality and habits that's another story. If you're needy, crazy, unhygienic, dont take pride in yourself or your appearance, are socially inept, are hostile, are stalkerish, marriage/baby obsessed etc... then the reason you may not be getting laid despite trying is because there are behaviors and negative qualities about you that need to change.
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This is nonsense. Any girl who thinks she has it better off if she's with a man who's physically been with a lot of women is a complete doofus. If he's a virgin, it could just mean that he couldn't find suitable wife material (yet.) Doesn't mean he's the frickin' Unabomber. And any girl who'd automatically stereotype a virgin man that way is as dumb as a Tide Pod eater, and deserves for herself to die a crazy cat lady.
I get bullied because I've only been with one woman, whereas supposedly most guys my age have been with at least six. Well, those women who'd bully me over it can go to Hell. My heart - and other parts of me - are not theirs to decide what the proper use of it is. Especially when they've made it clear that they only respect one thing in life: their own egos. In the end, that too shall be taken from them. - 889 opinions shared on Dating topic.
I like the idea bc I think he respects his body and cares about who he gives it to and is patient. I find it attractive. Plus I already like him or we wouldn’t be discussing it. If I like a person Finding out they are a Virgin just makes me curious it’s not a turn off.
If I don’t know them and ALL I know is they are a Virgin bc they told me lol well, this might create a different image but still I’d try not to jump to conclusions lol
I know people say being a Virgin means you can’t get sex but I think more often it will be bc if choice. If a person JUST wants sex, they’ll find a way. Lotta hit by folks out there.🤷♀️ - 917 opinions shared on Dating topic.
I'd say it's probably a red flag if the person is older than say, 25. If someone just happens to be a virgin, then it wouldn't be a big deal but the issue is that to a lot of cultures, being a "virgin" is somehow the most important thing ever and it's really no surprise that the cultures (and let's face it, the people) who heavily value "virginity" are also people and cultures that really haven't accomplished a hell of a lot relative to the rest of the world.
There was a post a while back where this young woman was railing against this guy who supposedly left her for another girl. She argued how foolish he was because she was more beautiful and was a "virgin". I actually felt sorry for her because I had a hard time imagining how clueless someone has to be to think that their beauty and their "virginity" should even begin to trump features such as intelligence, wit, compassion, ambition, and sense of humor. -
It's not a red flag to me. I'm a 25 year old virgin. Not because I can't get any, but because losing my virginity isn't something I've ever made a big priority. I'm hardly ever on the "prowl" so to speak. So I guess it's by choice.
I've always thought that I would like to lose my virginity when I'm more established in life. I'm not really in a hurry. It shouldn't even be a big deal anyway. Every girl likes different things and even a virgin such as myself knows that learning and communicating is an important part of sex.
And just because a guy or girl has experience doesn't mean their always gonna be a rockstar between the sheets.
So in my opinion, it should be the opposite of red flag, if of course they've remained a virgin for the right reasons. If a guy/girl judges someone for being a virgin then I seriously think there's probably a "red flag" with their character. - 566 opinions shared on Dating topic.
I'm a virgin. I have a crippling fear of intimacy. & I would probably get overly attached to the person to whom I lose my virginity.
So for me, being a virgin is a red flag for the two aforementioned factors. But it might be different for different virgins - 4.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.
No it makes me 20x more interested if theyre a virgin. Gives off a pure inexperienced vibe. I’d like to learn things together
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Of all the red flags dealbreakers out there.
Cheating history
Manipulative behavior
Lying
Smoking
Controlling
Substance abuse
Unemployment or low salary or poor money management or laziness
Stupidity
Hatred towards the opposite sex
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It had to be a virgin or not. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 -
I guess it depends on how old the virgin woman - for me - is. My girlfriend is 28 and is a virgin because she didn't feel love from her own countrymen because she saw how they handled their women and she was told by many friends how they behave.
My virginity was removed when I was 25 and I think that is okay, too. I don't see a need why virginity must be removed at always younger and younger ages. Being 12 years old and loosing virginity? They are kids and shouldn't do something like this. -
It is better for young people to stay virgins until marriage (both man and woman). The marriage bed needs to remain pure; studies have been done showing the following:
Relationship stability was rated 22 percent higher
Relationship satisfaction was rated 20 percent higher
Sexual quality of the relationship was rated 15 percent better
Communication was rated 12 percent better
www.artofmanliness.com/.../
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I met my boyfriend when I was 18 and he wad 20. I was a virgin, never had a real relationship and only ever been kissed twice as well had a history of sexual assault. My boyfriend had already had several serious relationships as welk as a "slut" phase.
It definitely made our relationship slightly awkward at first. It took me a while to feel comfortable and it was much slower than he was used to with most girls.
Sure I'm a mature person but I've never delt with things like how to settle conflicts or deal with each others families.
I wouldn't say dating a virgin is a red flag, but just know that it comes with its own challenges. -
No not at all, I'm a virgin myself and I secretly prefer virgin guys due to this reason.
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I mean that makes everyone a red flag, since you need to be a virgin in order to break the virgin status. Everyone has been a virgin at one point or another..
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No because virginity is a virtue.
Pious people stay virgins until marriage.
Wusses have premarital sex by following the influence of Satan and so many secular teens are listening to secular adults who are confused how to properly have Godly sex. -
Only if you're older.
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Ok, this seems rather immature. Most people say that once you're older, virginity is a red flag. How the hell does that make sense. Ok they're 25+ and never had sex, what's wrong with that?
Seriously people!
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