Is that something I should keep to myself or is it important to share when dating? I haven’t been in a serious romantic relationship yet. I haven’t been on any dates and plan to start dating soon. No one ever believes me when I tell them that I’ve been single all my life. They say it’s impossible for me to have never had a boyfriend. So if it’s hard to believe, is it worth sharing? I am not ashamed of it nor do I care about being judged for it. I just don’t know how to avoid questions like “ when was your last relationship or what was your longest relationship?” I don’t like lying. So I have been on some dating apps and things on usually go far because the sex topic comes up really quickly and I automatically get turned off so I just want to start dating guys through different methods. So the conversation usually always starts off with me being asked when was my last relationship, and then I proceed to say that I’ve never been in a relationship and then that’s when the questions just keep getting deeper and deeper eventually to the part where they asked the question if I am a virgin or not.
I don’t think this is something you need to lead with. It’s only relevant after you have found a man who is interested in you, not just looking for someone with whom to have sex. It’s a topic that can be addressed when you are considering becoming physically intimate with someone, and that is something that doesn’t need to happen right away especially with a guy you barely know. Dating sites are numbers games. One thing that might help is putting on your profile something like “not interested in hookups or progressing to sex quickly.”
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No I wouldn´t bring it up until you´re in a situation where sex is coming up as an act. Before that I wouldn´t talk about such that because he could see it as an invitation to talk about sex. I also don´t think it´s something a guy needs to know to get to know you. If he asks tell him but I wouldn´t bring it up as a topic for a conversation.
I would say that's a decision on you. Being a virgin is a personal thing, but you don't ever have to share it if you don't want to. I think most people only tell they're a virgin once they decide they're ready & wanting to have their first time with their partner.
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You an't really hope to build a good relationship if it begins with telling lies. However, I would not discuss this subject unless the guy starts asking those specific questions.
You don't need to say it, if you say it before doing anything sexual then the guy will probably believe you. You certainly shouldn't lie if someone asks but don't feel pressured to bring it up out of the blue. I do think its good to mention before sex though just so he can maybe guide you and help you out.
That shouldn't be a question a reasonable guy would ask when trying to determine if someone is compatible to date. If someone asks about previous relationships you could say you have male friends but haven't met that special someone. If guys push for more information including about your sex life, it's a red flag in my opinion. If they do, I suggest you ask them why it is important.
Knowing a woman is a virgin can definitely change perspectives but personally I believe to many it changes it in a good way and they see you in a different light, to some men a woman's purity is sexy, but I wouldn't say just blur it out, look for a good opportunity to do so if you are going to mention it lol
I recommend you don't tell guys. Also, eliminate your problem with the first hot guy comes along.
If you were 20, being a virgin would be desirable. However, if a girl is a virgin after age 22, there is something wrong with her and men know that.
First off, there’s nothing wrong with being a virgin. Secondly, if you don’t like to lie, don’t until you guys get to a point where you’re talking about intimate things like that then it most likely won’t come up if that’s something you want to let somebody know pretty much from the get-go that’s up to you. It’s not good it’s not bad it’s just how you feel and if you don’t want to lie then don’t but you don’t have to say those things right from the get-go.
When I tried dating apps, I had on my profile that I had never had a relationship (or date) and that I was a virgin. It is important that the guy you date knows you're a virgin, and you have to realize that just by not having a relationship does not mean you are a virgin.
Everyone has different life circumstances. You cannot change what has happened before. You only have today. Just be yourself with no apologies because honestly you have nothing to apologize for.
You are not obligated to volunteer any information and I don't think there's anything about you that's a red flag so you shouldn't feel like you need to hide anything.
This is the exact same as asking how many sexual partners have you had.
Just be honest and don't lie or try to hide it... lying at the beginning of a relationship is SOOO wrong.. how can you reasonably expect to grow if you start with a lieIf you want to share you are a virgin is entirely up to you when it comes to dating.
I'd say after a few dates when things like morals, values and goals are discussed is a good time to bring it up
You don't need to tell them until you're ready to have sex. They don't need to ask about your past relationships, either
Nope, I don't. And I've learned it's best not to answer questions pertaining to it. If she needs to know that bad she can get lost is my philosophy.
Up to you, but if you are going to have sex; you should probably say something about it.
You should tell them so they know that's why you are not putting out.
NO! It is not..
No, not at all.
Its important to share that.
I was up front about it.
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