Ladies, would you date a man who wanted to be a stay at home dad?

[Anonymous]

Just curious. Testing a double standard theory.

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There are no wrong answers, everyone gets a like

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Seems most women, even progressive ones like their gender roles. Though I am surprised at the number of those that are okay with swapping

[V_Injector]

As the guy with kids I'm going to tell you that they love to fuck me. But they leave my friends with benefits's situation quick when they think they've found a guy they can lock into a relationship... then they call randomly in about 3 weeks because they need my dick in them again.

I think for women it has a little bit to do with sexy time + attainment of resources. They see me with kids already and they already know they can't get me to pay their fucking rent like some fuckng simp would. Yeah, they'll buy me dinner and give me the soft guy era treatment I deserve (drizzle drizzle), but that because of the sex, and the guy she's cheating on gave her a card to his bank account.

She's with him long term, I'm just for fun.

Maybe different if she's a 'brokey' and she finds out I'm ultra-wealthy and can easily still pay her rent and still take care of my kids... but I'm not living that experience, so I can't really speak on that as a matter of fact.

[lightbulb27]

My wife chose that path and she's very happy. Ahe loves her work and i take care of the stuff ahe doesn't enjoy and contribute to bring health to the family.

[Anonymous]

In today's economy, this would make me extremely nervous! I have no issues with a man taking on the caregiver role, but it's the harsh realities of the cost of living that terrify me. If the question of what happens if I can't work, had a feasible financial back up plan tied to it, I would happily say yes.

[Asker]

You're not wrong, thank you Joe Biden. I am thankful to live in a lowcol place so we get the luxury of her being a stay at home wife.

[dustybiker2]

I realize this is probably a bait Q but ignoring that. Sure. It's attractive to have a man want to spend time with his children. It's not an easy job for either parent. A lot of people flee from it these days.. but then in this economy most are forced to.

[Asker]

It's not a bait question, it's more about research. I'm curios and thus far I have been proven wrong

[dustybiker2]

Fair enough

[ZamerZ]

A man who wants to take care of his children and is fine with me bringing the money home for that while? Sign me up! Not that I would ever want children, but it would be a win / win situation for me since my work demands a lot of time and effort. I could never do it with a child if both of us went to work and especially not if I would stay at home with the kid.

[caitycat21]

No way. Usually men don’t actually want to be stay at home dads, they just want to be stay at home roommates with you while contributing nothing to maintaining the household.


I’ve seen so many times, women wasting their time with stay at home boyfriends that sit on the couch all day. Not for me, I’m good 🫶 my man better be a provider

[Simslover92]

Although I'd rather be a stay at home mom, if I was making the kind of income for him to be a stay at home dad, I wouldn't mind especially if I could work from home.

[Asker]

Nothing wrong with that!

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

If we could afford it, I don't see why not. I'm assuming he's doing all the housework and not just gaming all day until I get off work, right?

[Asker]

It would be the same chore list a stay at home wife would do. So yeah he would definitely be taking care of the home while you're gone.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Then sure, I don't see why not. I'm not a fan of cleaning some things and always get my partners to tackle those particular chores while I handle others that I'm ok with. If I had a stay at home husband I could just focus on work and not have to worry about most of the house.

[jahaims]

Stay at home dad implies one or more children. Depending on age and quantity, that alone is a full-time job. They are losing sleep, etc. It is reasonable to share chores depending on the circumstances. I was just pointing it out because it seems like your pov was more geared towards a stay at home husband, not dad.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Fair enough, and I think I covered that in my response when I said "most of the house." I still intend to do chores in that scenario, and if we have kids, then I'd definitely would assist in caring for them.

I work from home, so when my kids are home from school, I still take care of them even when working.

[Apple1996]

Nah I prefer to be a stay at home mom because it makes breastfeeding easier

[Asker]

Nothing wrong with that. And you're a good mom so there is that.

[Apple1996]

Thank you!

[LazerBean]

I would consider it as long as he was also capable and willing to be a sole provider if necessary. One of us definitely will have to stay home with the kids, and while I would prefer it to be me I would also be okay with it being him.

[DishLady]

If that’s his goal before we’re married… like when we first meet? No.


If we’re married and one of us has a tough year so the SAH status has to be shared or flipped, then ok.

[desidoll]

Yes, if he is a trust fund baby where he owned the house and inherits some large amount of money. I can work just to add the income and he can look after the kids.

[Screenwriter]

Nothing wrong with this if it's what you've agreed upon and the woman's salary/job is enough to support the family.

[wiltingrosepetal]

I'm gonna be a teacher. Logically I do not see the point in the man taking time away from work when my job is already spending time with children

[itsclearlynicholas]

No as I don't want offspring and that's why no ladies coming over here to me 😂😆 otherwise I may go scowl lol narrow eyed "please, please dont flirt at me" face 👀😈

[sheikalana]

Not really. Although a man who can do things around the house is great I'd still prefer him to be the bread winner and I the house wife.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Could you say, some women, or a fair chunk, are as you put it "wanting that role dynamic" aka uhh, it's a frowned word now, "submissive woman/wife/girlfriend" ? 👀♂️

[itsclearlynicholas]

To a man' 😅✌🏻

[sheikalana]

@itsclearlynicholas I can't speak for other women but that's the type of wife I prefer to be.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Girlfriend wise, what kind are you lol? Or back in the 20s day 😆😋

[sheikalana]

@itsclearlynicholas I'm not a girlfriend anymore. I'm a wife. I'm married.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Oh I getcha. Are you living up to your answers? 😔🤔

[sheikalana]

@itsclearlynicholas absolutely!

[Agape93]

No, because that implies there's kids. But if he just wants to stay at home, cook and clean and whatever all day, fine by me.

[lmkimcurious]

I probably wouldn’t if that meant I had to go to work so he could be home with them. I also don’t have kids so I can’t say from experience.

[Anonymous]

Nah, I couldn't do that. Not the kind of man I'm into. No shade on anyone who is, I think it's great if it works for you. But it's not for me.

[Oreo19848267]

Yes I would date a stay at home dad I have a disabled daughter to care for so I have no choice but to be a stay at home mom I got 5 kids

[electromagnetic]

We gotta take turns cause i wanna stay home too.

[Asker]

Hey nothing wrong with that

[mayurr]

They never will because they have to stay out of the comfort zone & work hard to earn money😂

[MzAsh]

A stay at home husband, absolutely.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Any feminists dream 😈😋👀😊♀️♀️♀️

[elizamichale1]

I don't think so

[Asker]

Why not, if it's okay for women to be stay at home mom's, why is it not okay for men to be stay at home dad's.

[elizamichale1]

When did I say it was okay for women to be stay at home mum?
I m a mum of twin boys n I never chose to be stay at home mum... n my job is also soooo hard to do plus the emotional toll of society n I still never chose tht option...

[Anonymous]

My sister is. And she rules him lmao

[Opinion Owner]

Some people like dynamics where the woman rules. But she will be in her lesbian masculine personality and he will be in his homosexual feminine personality.
Of course it’s still a heterosexual relationship. But their personality is backwards. THESE RELATIONSHIPS DO LAST FOREVER THOUGH. NEVER SEEN THESE DYNAMICS BREAK UP OR NOT LAST

I don’t personally like that cause it make a the male look like a pushover. But that’s my personal opinion. Obviously he’s not a pushover it’s just how it makes him “look”

I much rather be a biological female in my feminine personality. and he be in his leading masculine personality.
Cause it’s a sexual romantic turn on for me. I’m not saying I’m gonna be a pushover or allow him to bully me. Just saying I rather have him lead and protect, because I go wet from seeing this. 🤷🏻‍♀️
To each their own

[Asker]

Nothing wrong with that

[Amara_09]

Yes, why not?

[AmyHew1tt]

Sure. Why not?

[Katebfun]

Yes.

[Katebfun]

My Ex's buddy was the stay at home dad with 2 boys. The wife made the money, he made some $ with his art. They owned a home and the setup seemed to work for them.