How to take life more seriously?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I am wasting my life away hanging around people who don't do anything but gossip and do drugs. Then my other friends are all staying in their rooms and complain about how I'm not being a good friend when they want me to be their therapist. I feel like there's more for me. Those groups just aren't me and I don't know how I am in them because I'm not sad very much or I'm not doing drugs ever or drinking. But Does anyone know how to take life to the next level of everything?

[NathanDavis]

at the risk of assuming too much and assuming wrongly... one good idea could be to leave your parents house and fend for yourself, get your own place to rent, get a job and responsibilities, bills to pay

if you do not have purpose at the moment, at least you will have something very substantial to do, and these things will be the foundation for any further purpose you find in life

if you are not taking life more seriously... then place yourself in a position in which life will make it way more serious for you to deal with, and face it... this could be a very good first step

[Asker]

You have no idea how much I want to move out of my parents' house but currently, I can't at the moment. But I think a good idea could be to just leave my current job because all of those people I was talking about in my post are working at my job. But thanks for the advise. One reason that I want to move out soon is to be more independent. At my house, it feels like they restrict me of being dependant.

[NathanDavis]

that is more the reason to do it... leave excuses and also conformity, behind

[Shamalien]

Do your own thing and hang out with em less. Pursue something that interests you. Coding is a great skill to learn from one’s room and get a good career without pissing away 4 years and 80k. A bootcamp is 10-20k and you’ll be working at a job within the year. Pm me for more info

I was in a very similar situation. Unfortunately I didn’t really get moving until 23. Save 4 years and start on a path now. Have discipline. Make something of yourself

[Asker]

Thank you I am planning on hanging around them less. Just nothing positively affecting me in those friendships. Coding does sound interesting I might look into it. Right now I am trying to learn a language, read books about historical events and stories, and work out. Also, I have a job to hopefully get me to move out within 3 years.

I was just tired of sitting around on a facetime call being sad about extremely small problems when I could be doing things extremely productive and meaningful.

[Anonymous]

Keep busy and limit your time with them. If they are real a-holes then I'd say move on from the friendships, but if they aren't that bad you can keep them as friends but only a lot so much time to them. Maybe work a couple of jobs, or take college classes, etc.

[Markie-mark]

Learn some things that interest you and stop hanging with those bums, it's a good thing you're sober cause you can actually see the shit they do