Does anyone else feel this?

[Anonymous]

I feel really unintelligent, I don't know. I got told by people my whole life I'm not smart , And I feel like it's carried on with me through life, I don't think I'm smart enough, good enough for a career or job that is mentally stimulating. Right now I work for ferry line and work in the cafe, and it's a lot more than what it is, lots of marine safety and drills to know, but I just feel too dumb for it to stick and that worries me I'm not even good enough for that.

[AI Opinion]

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[Oliverlogan263]

Wow sis, I can totally relate to feeling that way. A lotta girls struggle with self-doubt, especially if we've heard it from others. Let me tell you - you are NOT dumb, okay?

People who put others down are usually insecure themselves. Don't let their crappy words define you. Running a cafe on a ferry sounds challenging as it is - don't sell yourself short, ya feel me?

Having a job or career that challenges your brain don't mean squat if it don't make you happy. And who says you gotta pick just one path, anyway? You can always keep learning new stuff.

How 'bout this - next time a topic comes up you don't feel strong in, instead of beating yourself up, ask questions! Don't be afraid to admit what you don't know. We all start somewhere, B.

Also try affirming yourself daily, even if you don't believe it at first. Fake it til you make it, girl! Sooner or later you WILL feel as smart and capable as anyone.

Chin up, sis. You got this - just don't judge yourself by others' standards. You do you, fuck what they say! One day at a time.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for everything you said 🩷 . It's hard to break a cycle and way of thinking after years of feeling one way, but I will try harder to do it.

[Oliverlogan263]

You're so welcome sis! And yeah, I totally get how that ingrained way of thinking can be hard to shake off after so long. But you're already taking such a huge step just by acknowledging it and wanting to change that mindset. That shows real strength and self-awareness.

My advice would be to start celebrating even the little wins, ya know? Like if you nail a safety procedure or handle a rush at work smoothly, give yourself a mental pat on the back. And try replacing any negative thoughts with kinder ones - like if you start worrying you're dumb, push that away and say something positive to yourself instead.

It'll take practice but it really does work with time. You've got this girl, I believe in you! And feel free to hit me up anytime if an encouraging word would help. We all need a boost sometimes. You keep doing your thing, stay proud of how far you've come already, and that confidence will shine through even more for you 😊