Should I care about what people think of me and my friends?

[Anonymous]

So recently I got an old text from someone I used to hang out with who I haven’t spoken to in a year or two because of some stuff they had said. In their apology to me they had spoken about how people make fun of him for hanging out with the “weird girls” in the past and spoke about how people still brought me and my friends up to him. Me and my friends are considered weird to people mostly because of our dyed hair and the fact we’re a bunch of openly LGBTQ+ people. So I’m not really sure whether I should care or not what these people I barely talk to think of me. I’m trying not to let it get to my head but it sorta hurts

[FilmGuy93]

Let me answer your question by wording things in a way that you'll know your answer by your own reaction. I can't tell you what to think or do. So here goes;

You are the sum total of the 5 people you spend the most time around in life. Birds of a similar feather will always flock together. Your tribe will open more doors than you ever could open by yourself. Does anyone in your tribe open doors you WANT to walk through?

I'll ask that last one a different way, just for the sake clarity; do any of the people in your social circle find, tell you about, and pursue career and social opportunities that make you look and say "gee, I sure wish I had something like that for myself?" Or hey, at the very least you look at it and think that you'd at least like to check it out. Not everything will appeal to everybody, but you should at least want your preferred equivalent of whatever the opportunity is.

Because I'm going to be real with you; if every person in your life is doing stuff that you look at and couldn't give half a crap about; you really ought to start asking whether or not you want more for yourself.

[Anon621]

I personally don't think you should care what people think of you and your friends. There will always be judgmental people that have different opinions on how you should live your life but it's your life and your choices so in my honest opinion and this is not trying to come across as rude but basically if someone else feels the need to add their opinion to you or your friends choices then they are being nosey. That doesn't mean those people might have good input (sometimes their input can be good) but most of the time it's usually negatively oriented constructive criticism. Putting that into simple English: they probably don't like something about you and for some reason they feel the need to say something because it bothers them so much. In my opinion, if they're bothered about it then I think it's best to let them be bothered about it on their own.

[natured]

Look, here's a sample of me my crazy friends SO do we look normal to you? Do you even know how much people talk about us? Do you think we care? Nope, many of us have kids families, careers, houses and all that serious stuff yet look at us being all over the place not caring what people say living our life to the fullest.

[Siren777]

You're under 18. At this point you might be experimenting with life as you have so many options to be, do and have anything
So enjoy it and don't care what people think as that's only their opinion. In a few years you will look back and cringe. So go live your life with your friends and have a great time.

[ChrisMaster69]

Tell them to get to fuck and live your life how you want to.

my best friends socially are a mixed crowed. Bi and gay guy, bi girls lesbian trans and me.

We seriously do not give a shit what others think.

Also dyed is is great.

Dyed hair, Tattoos, and piercings pretty much sum up my dating history lol.

Enjoy live and live n dress how you want

[ToastyOats]

What tends to happen when people cannot come to a compromise is that they must separate. If they don't it will lead to violence. If your not actively rubbing peoples face in your life then you don't need to care but, When your out and about where their children are then you should. Just like you wouldn't go to tibet and walk around in a bikini on the street. Individual people are the least of the trouble, its mostly the media constantly whipping people up into conflict. Just saying though, i would probably not want to spend much time with my daughter if she decided not to have a family because it would hurt me too much. Better for her to get out and live life, her own way, and not force me to put on a fake smile on everytime I saw her.

[Jamie05rhs]

Your friend needs to choose whether he's going to allow the bullies to dictate what he does and who he hangs out with, or whether he's going to have the courage to be himself and make his own decisions.

You tell him, "So are you going to be my friend or not? The ball is in your court. It's your decision."

[TommyMountainFigure]

Me telling you not to let it hurt won't stop the hurt. One thing I will say though. Don't be friends with someone merely because they sent you an apology over a year later!

[FakeName123]

"In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock." . Thomas Jefferson

So no, you should not care. You should care about being yourself.

[Sabretooth]

https://allthatsinteresting.com/skylar-neese-murder

[Asker]

Oh shit

[Sabretooth]

yeah. so, you SHOULD care. we should never live live your life according t others... don't care what others think... both are extremes. if Skylar cared more about what others thought of her and her friends... she'd still be alive today. the truth is--those who go down the road that Skylar went often end up at the same destination.

[Sabretooth]

there are other stories-stories far more tragic and far more difficult than this.

[Sabretooth]

speaking of that case--it's on dateline.

[Anonymous]

People will judge you no matter what, good or bad. Take my mom for example she's a super negative judgmental prick. Imagine having to grow up with a decaying prick.

[007kingifrit]

yes, fitting in is an important part of being a society and refusing to do so will have terrible consequences on your life

[Smegskull]

Indavidual people? No.
People as a demographic? Yes.

[jzi94]

absolutely not. forget that, live your best life. stop trying to impress people.

[Tightlips]

No u shouldn't care what other people think

[ChocoBat]

Not unless you're being a a gang of dog knots

[WowwGirl]

People judge you by the people you hang out with

[Joker_]

Yeah