My mom wants me to delete a bikini pic on Instagram. How do I deal with it?

[llamascandraw]

First of all, I’m 20, so I’m not a minor. Yesterday, I posted a picture of me in a bikini top and a cover-up during vacation. No cleavage was shown, and the focus was the beach setting, not necessarily my bikini top. Nothing racy about it AT ALL. Even my grandpa saw it and didn’t find anything wrong with it.

Well, today I got a call from my mom saying that she ‘really likes’ the photo I posted but ‘would be really pleased’ if I remove it because a bikini top ‘doesn’t give me a nice public image’

I said no. It’s my body, my own personal Instagram and there’s nothing wrong about what I did. There she went then with the guilt-tripping, saying that I never try to do anything to ‘gratify her’ and that she does many things for me while I can’t fulfill a single request.

I told her that I’m not gonna do it because she didn’t give me a valid reason as to why I should, so she went on with the ‘Why isn’t me not wanting it up there enough of a reason?’

She’s spamming me on Whatsapp right now, asking me if I removed it, and trying to call me because I didn’t reply. I’m ready for a full-blown argument about this soon. And no, I can’t move out due to some cultural reasons. How do I deal with this and try to reason with her?

[WonderBell99]

You have to understand that your mother grew up in a different generation with a different set of values. While it may be frustrating to have your mother police what you wear and should not, you should sit her down and have a chat with her and let her know that you are an adult who has the ability to make her own decisions.

Arguments rarely lead to anything productive. I feel your annoyance, your mother loves you and wants what is best for you, but since there is a differentiation in your views, it is always best to have a heart to heart, adult like chat and set healthy boundaries.

[Faith18letsgo]

I would write her a gratitude letter and put it in the snail mail maybe with a few flower petals or something. It shows that you care and appreciate her.

That being said I think your totally in the right here and it’s really frustrating when these wonderful women in our lives try to police our bodies because of what other people will think.

[DryGermanGuy]

Post ten more bikini pictures. She will get the message. 🤡🤡

[dustybiker]

She loves you. You’re at the age you set your limits and she has to adjust.

[panamared1]

For some reason she feels the pic reflects on her, not true, but she must feel something like that

[ArtemisSilver]

Block her on instagram. Problem solved

[Juan4574]

Women who wear bikinis are bitches.