I never had school crushes and never fell in love and I'm 25, is this normal?

[Anonymous]

While most of my friends of both genders had school crushes, I just didn't like anyone neither at school nor in college. I never developed any chemistry with anyone and never fell in love ever.

My friend tried to set me up on a date last year. I tried to pretend to have a good time and it led to my first kiss but it felt kind of gross to me, like something foreign to me. I felt nothing. I'm now a 25 year-old woman and still don't like anyone. Is this normal?

[teamvic]

I wouldn't say it's a normal thing but I also wouldn't say it's a bad thing or something to look down on

It's just you're not into anyone and or you haven't found someone that REALLY means anything to you

Which is okay

Your first kiss probably felt weird because it was with someone you didn't care too much for

[Asker]

I felt no attraction for the guy I kissed, none whatsoever. I was just trying to see what it was like going on a date and really thought things would eventually developed and I would feel it. They didn't.
That's the only reason I'm still a virgin.

[teamvic]

Well, depending on whether or not you get those sexual feelings and have ever found someone attractive it can be two things

One, you're just not attracted to people, at all. It's definitely not common but I have heard it being a thing

Or two, you just haven't found someone you like, simple as that. You can force yourself to like someone, if i went on a date with someone I didn't like at all I would've felt weird too haha. So perhaps if you do find people attractive and do have that desire to not be a virgin. I guess you just got the first the right person

[teamvic]

Got to find the right person*

[Asker]

yeah it could be either of those two reasons. I would feel disappointed if I'm really not attracted to people ever. That would suck.

[teamvic]

I mean you can literally find out easily 🤣 have you ever found anyone attractive 😂 can be anyone you've seen. Someone famous, someone you seen on TV. ANYTHING haha

[Asker]

Nope I haven't.

[teamvic]

Well then this may be the closest you'll get to losing your virginity because you're fucked,

GET IT😆

Anyway but in all seriousness perhaps you just don't care all too much for looks and like people for their personalities instead🤔

Maybe that's why you can't find anyone. Crush wise. You just haven't gotten to know anyone

Or maybe you just aren't into people as you fear

[rosemilk]

i think you're okay. you are probably just asexual.

[firenine909]

That’s fine, sometimes things take a while

[Asker]

I would like to think I just haven't found the right person. I hope that's the reason.

[firenine909]

It is. I do suggest meeting more people and guys so that you know which ones you like being with more

[Asker]

Ok yeah I'll try that.

[firenine909]

What are you like personally and what interests do you have? Guys are friendly so you can ask them pretty easily

[Asker]

I tend to be an introvert sometimes and hate huge parties or place with too much people to talk with. On my spare time, I like painting, reading or sometimes go on camping trips with my close friends.

[firenine909]

Then join a book club or an art class. Talk to a cute guy you meet at the bookstore or the library. You don’t have to do a bar to meet other men

[Asker]

and I hate alcohol

[Asker]

Thank you. I'll do that. I like bookstores.

[firenine909]

I went to one a little while back, it’s pretty fun. Even if you don’t like the guy you can practice your conversation skills.

Like asking him what book he’s reading or what he likes learning about. Tell him something interesting about yourself.

You can even read in a coffee shop and talk to a guy in line. Ask him if he’d like to sit with you and get to know him. As a girl, most guys will be happy to chat with you but most are shy to approach. You can use that to meet people

[jahaims]

You might be asexual or autistic

[laly520]

its normal