Why do people have kids so young?

[red324]

I want to find a girl to go on adventures with not have a baby and be imprisoned in my own house for the next like 5 years until the kid is old enough to do things. Well maybe not that long, but still. I never really have found a girl interested in me. I think that's what most of them want. A man to pay the bills while they sit at home taking care of the kids they popped out. I don't know this isn't 1950 anymore

[CB-Raido-Time]

1 Corinthians 7:36 KJV But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

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They should be having children and having them at the earliest age possible as they once did before eugenics and eugenics brainwashing took over the entire planet. Once eugenicist got a hold and put their plans into law they were able to dismantle humanity from that point on.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Amusingly, you talk about brainwashing when you present yourself, reading a text on a literal level. Believing your own literal interpretation should program your life, actions and thoughts. And not only your life, apparently you also believe that it is your mission to brainwash others with your unashamed dumbness.

What is your banner? Let me guess... Jehovah's Witnesses? You clearly ticked the boxes of this one.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Maybe_Maybe_not I bet if he was Catholic you wouldn't be attacking him. I am reporting you!

[Alwayreckles93]

@Maybe_Maybe_not I see nothing wrong in being a Jehovah's witness

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@Alwayreckles93 Catholic means everything and nothing as catholicism is a trunk with many branches, JW is one branch, more precisely a cult deriving from catholicism but unaffiliated. I don't see the relevance of your report.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

If you see nothing wrong with JW then you are either unaware of what this cult is or you are part of this cult. How JW operates as a cult and the psychological harm they inflict on their members is public information.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Maybe_Maybe_not What? Jehovah's witness live Christian standards JW dress modesty. Unlike Catholic woman they dress all look like prostitute. I manage to get a Catholic woman fired and I am proud.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Catholic people are the worst humans ever in history. Catholic live to smoke get drunk and have sex outside of marriage. I had neighbors who were Catholic the husband was a fornicator the wife ket the house dirty and was a Karen I reported that family to HOA. It made me upset she it a virgen Marie statue in her yard absolutely disgusting.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@Alwayreckles93 I will not debate with any member of JW as they are enslaved and unaware they are. If you ever get out of this cult, you will realize what they have done to you. In the meantime, you are being blocked.

[CB-Raido-Time]

@Maybe_Maybe_not 1 John 4:14 14 And qwe have seen and testify that rthe Father has sent the Son as Savior of the world.

Jesus Christ is the true Son of God and Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior.

Do I sill sound like a Jehovah's witness to you?

Matthew 23:9 And call no man your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven.

No not catholic either.

Genesis 9:7 And you, be ye fruitful, and multiply; bring forth abundantly in the earth, and multiply therein.

[CB-Raido-Time]

1 John 4:14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent the Son as Savior of the world.

[Alwayreckles93]

CB thank you finally it is nice to see other Christian on this website.

[old_grump]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Those who have kids so young must have the brains of a soggy waffle and the foresight of a goldfish in a teacup. Your wisdom, on the other hand, is as sharp as a rubber chicken at a clown convention. Don't let those nincompoops with the planning skills of a melted ice cream cone get you down!

[CB-Raido-Time]

@Alwayreckles93 It's a pleasure and I'm happy to see a fellow Christian here as well.

[CB-Raido-Time]

@old_grump You have been brainwashed by the new me generation.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

This isn't 1950 anymore, no. In theory.

But look at this, no regions of any countries in the world live with the same cultural clock. Wherever you live, there is a chance for you to drive across the country and find people living in the 50's OR people living in 2024, this is strategy, geography and culture identifying. So, no matter time, what matters is space, when you meet people

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Ok, maybe regions of North Korea, Chechnya and Syria live with the same cultural clock. But these are places where you won't really go for dating. Given your speech, I doubt it would be efficient 😆

[Apple1996]

You ain't trapped in the house once you have kids. By having my kids young I've traveled and had more experiences than I would if would have stayed single or childless

[OddBeMe]

Sure but on the whole, its not a good thing

[Radiate143]

Because your body is screaming to reproduce when the eggs and sperm are freshest and least likely to contain faulty chromosomes.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I get where you're coming from! People have different desires; some are all about starting families young, while others prefer adventure and freedom. It's totally okay to want a partner who shares your love for adventure. 🏞️ Not all women want the '50s housewife lifestyle. Many are looking for excitement and independence too. Keep searching; your adventure buddy is out there, ready to live it up with you! 🚀

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

You are not a coach, you are not anything. Know your place botty

[Seinna]

Whut 5 years? Year and a half is enough, then you can easily take them with you wherever you go and it only gets better. Your life doesn't end when you get a child. Also, I see the opposite of what you see... people having children in their 30s. But you're 35, assuming you want a woman around your age... if she wants children in the first place, she cannot wait much longer or she may never get the chance. Us women can't rely on the possibility of having children in our 40s. That said, there are plenty of women who don't want children at all... maybe look for those rather than complain about women's natural and needed desire to have children?

[red324]

I can ever find a woman that wants to be with me, so I'm having a kid and then raising it by myself or doing that child support thing and every other week we switch back and forth, forget it. Girls, don't know how to work things out, but they sure do know how to one away. I'll go get a kid out of a foster home and take care of him or her myself and do everything myself like I've always done

[red324]

Stupid typos, can't type anything on a phone anymore.

[Seinna]

So do you want children or not? You want a child without the woman? You want the woman without the child? I'm sorry, could you clarify what you mean? I don't understand, what you're trying to say... but if you must generalize and blame half of the population then is it possible that the problem is actually with you?

[red324]

I'm just saying I don't even know because I can't even find a girl who will stick around to have one.

[nolabels]

My wife and I had our son come along when we were each 39 years old.
The fact that I didn't want any kids to begin with notwithstanding, it wore my ass out.

To my way of thinking, if folks want kids, it should be a young person's game.

[Malwi93]

how do you feel about it now

[NamerOfStars]

Because that's when you're meant to have kids. The energy you have at 18 isn't meant for staying out all night drinking; it's meant for keeping up with a baby. At 35, you'd probably find that a real struggle. Hell, I'D find that a real struggle.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

That is one way to view it, energy. But it's a misleading picture, when we are 18yo, our understanding of life is usually not of very good quality, blurry and lacking. While at 35, life experience is there and upbringing becomes way more related to wisdom. Such wisdom should bring better kids, and then better adults, for a better world. So, what is the value of energy here? 😏

[NamerOfStars]

@Maybe_Maybe_not That's assuming experience leads to wisdom. A few years in Florida will clear that delusion up RIGHT quick.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

hahaha well, that is right, but allow me correlation then if not causality

[jshm2]

Sheesh, you need to touch grass, kiddo.

People have a lot more going on than in the 1900's and life isn't so simple. To be loved, you must first be lovable, and you're clearly not. Even a one night stand can produce a child to be thrown into the foster system.

But to produce proper functional kids, you need to be proper functional adults - which many these days aren't.

[Miristheiss]

Biology dictates people reproduce and do it in full numbers. People can have kids starting at 13-14. Culture preaches to get on the pill as early as possible and sleep around and wait until 28 to 33 to have a kid and have 1 or 2.

Natural biology doesn't give a shit about western culture.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Except that we don't live in a world of nature and biology, since tens of thousands of years ago already. We invented cultures, all cultures, that is the world we live in and many of these cultures are constantly choosing ways contradicting nature. Are you unhappy to wear shoes? Are you unhappy you don't die of septicemia? It is unnatural indeed that you don't die.

But that is funny you're using a not so natural computer or phone to praise nature over culture.

[Alwayreckles93]

People should wait for marriage to have sex.

[Alwayreckles93]

I am always reporting people at my congregation.

[Miristheiss]

@Maybe_Maybe_not
We got a woke one here.
He has swallowed to propaganda that society works better, people are more fulfilled and happy if... instead of marrying young, not having sex outside of marriage and (2) people emotionally pair bond in an intense way grow their lives together and have in intact family, lots of kids, like humans have done for 1,000s of years, now 15-16 year olds should start messing up their natural hormones and go on the pill, get sexually active in high school, all the women think a career is now actually life's biggest priority, have multiple, multiple partners and fry any pair bonding ability, wait until are 30, then marry, maybe have 1 kid, put it in daycare and let a stranger raise them. Single parent homes used to be very, very rare. Now almost half of the kids out there grow up in single parent homes.

By the way, all you did was name of new tools humans have. Getting married young, having kids when a woman is very fertile and has young eggs vs. going on the pill and being promiscuous for 5 to 10 years and committing later in life after she's been with a lot of men and having far few kids with older eggs... after her pair bonding ability has been damaged... it a societal/cultural value or behavior or belief. It is not a tool being used such as shoes or computers or a disease cure.

You are erroneously trying to contrast technological improvements against cultural value systems.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Yep, I woke up this morning, like yesterday. Thank you for the reminder. You're putting propaganda in my mouth when I just talk about how humanity went from a nature-based enviro to a culture-based enviro. Okay. That's a way to tell me how confused you are about a speech lol

[MikeTheBartender]

I got a vasectomy so no kids for me, but watching people I know who had em from early 20s to damn near 50, it's hard to have em older, kids take massive energy. And considering it's an 18 year venture being a 70 year old dad threatening your daughters new boyfriend may not work, or playing catch w your kid, or just being the old dad. But to each his own, especially if you stay in shape and are good financially.

[Anonymous]

You're my age and not that young anymore. Late 20s early 30s is the perfect age to get marriedand have kids. I had my 3rd and last 5 months ago and my body hurts all the time. When I was 21 I felt great taking care of a baby.

You also need to take into consideration how old you want to be with a small child. Do you want to be 50 chasing a toddler? Or taking care of a newborn i would think not.

[red324]

I know I keep going back and forth with this, but I don't really care about having a kid of my own. If she has a kid already, fine by me.

[red324]

I already have dog that doesn't let me sit down for more than 5 minutes at a time. Drives me nuts

[Staximus]

It makes sense because you have a lot more energy to chase your kids around and do stuff with them when you're in your 20's and 30's as opposed to your 40's and 50's. Plus the chances of birth defects like autism etc are a lot less

[red324]

That's mainly the girl. A guy can have kids at like 50 still

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Lot more energy and lot less wisdom, so, yeah, dilemma? :D

[itsannalee]

Because they want it, and if they can afford it why not. Ready to have kid has notjing to do witj age. As long as they are physically, mentally and financially ready why not? I don’t see any problem here.

[Alwayreckles93]

That only happens in Christian communities but I am not sure what you are talking about. You worldly regular people have kids in your 30's. I am not sure where you are getting this from. A traditional woman isn't the right fit for you.

[Nikki1989]

So you are still this damn immature at 35 years old?

[red324]

Yep. Never found a girl that wasn't mature herself. All they've done is make me miserable over the years

[red-lipstick-girl]

S I am currently studying at university and will start working in 1 year, but if I get married and have a child, I will not work until my child reaches school age and I will make sacrifices to raise him/her with my love.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Though I could tell you that love is not about sacrifices, love is about love. When you sacrifice something thinking it is for love, a kid can feel that, and they will probably ask themselves why sacrifices instead of just loving :)

[red-lipstick-girl]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Instead of raising her without love, I will make sacrifices and raise her properly.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

In that case, yes, it makes sense. However, I don't think you are able to raise these kids without love, it seems impossible to me. From what I know of you. So, what sacrifices are you thinking of?

[red-lipstick-girl]

@Maybe_Maybe_not I will raise her properly, I will teach her love, respect, honesty and also how to deal with bad people like bullies.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

And that looks like the best teaching possible, but we may have translator problems in this conversation 😅

[red-lipstick-girl]

@Maybe_Maybe_not 🤣🤣🤣 yaaaaa

[Alwayreckles93]

@Maybe_Maybe_not How about you forget about this subjects about having kids young and you try to explain more and get into the room why you were making fun of Jehovah Witness? Are you a bigot? I found your comment very offensive so what when you encounter with one of Jehovah's witnesses individual you are going to harass and attacked them? How came you are not rude to disgusting Catholics why are you only rude to Jehovah's witnesses? It is no wonder why the congregation advice us to not associate with you worldly people. I am 100% sure must be a Catholic. Well guess what I have news for you that disgraceful Pope Francis he isn't God! Why do you worship Mr. Francis Benedict? Just so you ok now priest and the ope are regular humans sinners like you.

[Alwayreckles93]

red-lipstick-girl Maybe try raising her with love and most importantly in Christianity.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@Alwayreckles93 You are interfering with a comment from another discussion without reasons to do so. You are making up a lot of assumptions coming from nowhere, I am agnostic, unaffiliated to any church or any religion. I made fun, I make fun and I will make fun of whatever system of beliefs, be it catholicism, protestantism, orthodoxy, judaism, islam, buddhism, hinduism or any other system of belief, including cults, including polytheism, animalism, new age.

If you declare being a member of JW, then you declare being part of an organization that is a societal threat, an organization enslaving mentally people, anyone can verify this information, except you won't because you would have been swallowed by this cult.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Wow so you are saying I have been swallowed only because I followed Christian standards. Ok Christian we have a more organized lifestyle unlike Catholics love and unorganized lifestyle getting drunk clubbing and stuff.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Maybe_Maybe_not You know I am 100% right. Oh and Catholics used profanity they celebrate holidays which it comes from pagan routes.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Bootpm line you made fun of that individual for following Christian standards not only that you made fun of Jehovah Witness which honestly I felt very offended you are talking about a Christian dominated you have no clue what it's all about. That wasn't very nice of you to laugh at Jehovah Witness tness. But I guess I can debate with you since you are of the world and you will not understand because your brain is of this world your worldly brain tells you that following God Jehovah and living a Christian standards lifestyle is slavery.

[Meropatrick]

There is a lot of women who dont want to have kids. U didn't search enough. There is a lot of women who can't have kids and is looking for a partner like u who can accept her being infertile. U need to search more

[slatyb]

You are 35. Do you want to have children ever? It's ok if you don't. Just find a woman who wants the same. If you do want to have children, when?

[red324]

I don't really want them, but I don't know of too many women who want the same

[slatyb]

It doesn't matter how many you know. There are many women who also don't want children. If you don't want children, find a woman who feels the same.

[strateguy632]

Funny. Kids must be young... when born. Lol but you mean young parents but didn't write!

[Agape93]

Plan b and abortions are expensive and younger people tend to make less money

[OddBeMe]

Usually poor people make bad choices. And get caught in the welfare cycle where they get more tax dollars for every spawn.

[red324]

I worked at a place and overheard a couple girls saying how much more money they would get if they had another kid 😂🥴😳

[OddBeMe]

So stupid. Basically means they'll keep shopping at dollar tree.

[red324]

I don't think they were very old at the time. 18-20 years old. This was probably 15 years ago I was only like 23 myself

[OddBeMe]

Im sure there's a correlation of teens having kids to poverty

[beefcakebradybatson]

America's religious nuts have hijacked schools and forbidden TRUE S*x Education.

[Malwi93]

why not. if they can manage, its probably better

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

Hi. Can I barrow your time machine?

[exitseven]

unprotected sex and bad luck.

[Anonymous]

Date a girl in her early 20s.

[red324]

I agree, they're fun and aren't as likely to just want your money

[Opinion Owner]

Also, you can do all the things you said for the next 5 years and then pop out kids.

[Alwayreckles93]

red324 CORRECTION a woman your age they have careers , degrees and financially successful unlike younger woman they are gold diggers. We older woman we own a house , business , cars we don't need from a guy. Younger woman does not mean they look good. I have friends who are over 40 that look way more younger then a 20 year old. Must 20 year old woman are Karen's and nagging to much. So us mature woman we are better and financially successful.

[Alwayreckles93]

red324 woman in their 20's are not fun! They aren't Christian. And they don't live Christian standards. Eww gross some they don't even have a career.