Questions: Family & Friends

Which parent of yours is usually or mostly in control of anything that happens within the family? They don't necessarily need to have the big say in everything but most things. The person decisions have to go through them and the person that lays the rules. The boss, basically.

My stepdad (48m) and my halfbrother (10m) have been leaving the door open on several occasions. One of our house cats (1m) has been crying for help for two days. This happened especially when I (21m) woke up; the door was open, the dad and brother were standing outside (I thought the FBI was going to come after us), and right after when they walked back inside, my stepdad walked to the trash can and was feeling a little pissed off, and he said some two-word sentence starting with the vulgar F-word, ending with "-ing."

My mom came downstairs and I asked what's wrong to them, and (at first) I said that he was mad; my stepdad suggested, "Mad about what?" I quoted that he was saying "f-ing something" (the whole phrase, not just edited), and luckily I wasn't called out for quoting a cuss word. My mom said something about finding our cat.

I heard my cat making some noises, as I pointed out to my stepdad. He asked me, "What does that mean to you?" I said "I don't know." He said, "OK?" I referenced him to being "sad." He went on and told me, "Oh, well... I don't know what to say to you." I went upstairs afterwards as I was making a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.

So im poor rn, I hate giving money away BECAUSE, im worried that if i help other pepole with my own money my life would be worse if i put myself first, Now if i was a billionaire i would buy my parants the best house best TV and any food they could want, I would also spoil my nephews, BUT i dont have that kind of money, I quite literally live paycheck to paycheck, So does that make me greedy? I feel like i should be stable and live comfortable before i help others do that