My boyfriend is going to dress up this Halloween as Alice in Wonderland?

[girlygirl57]

um...i really don't know where to start except I don't know why he would want to dress up as her and the thing is he is def going all out with the hair an makeup and shoes etc... so I kinda got freaked out by that but I don't know what to make of it I mean he is doing it for laughs for what he has said to me an his friends but I kinda disapprove especially out in public and what not so what do I do about this situation? how should I react? should I support it or what?

[Anonymous]

I cracked up laughing when I read your note. Is he English? Those guys will dress up as women given any excuse. If he is English, don't worry at all. If he is not English, but he is in a frat, also don't worry. If he is not English and not in a frat, but outgoing, that is probably fine too. If he usually quiet and not outgoing, then I would be a little concerned.

Seriously, if he had some kind of problem, he probably would not be dressing up in public.

[girlygirl57]

Well that's good I can give a bit of a laugh through his stupidity but the thing is he is very outgoing/loud good looking to and does know how to say all the right things an when to say them soo I think he does it for the jokingly part of it but idk...i mean I jus kinda want a boyfriend that night not a girlfriend ya kno...so that's y I don't know if I should jus play along with it and like be flirtatious with it that night and pretend to not let it bother me or should I kinda let him do w/e with it and be on the side?

[Opinion Owner]

OK, if he is outgoing and likes a laugh, don't be worried at all. A lot of guys like that dress up as women for Halloween. You should join in the fun. He would probably like that. You could dress up as the Mad Hatter (a man with a moustache) or the White Rabbit. They are characters from Alica in Wonderland. I don't blame you for being worried, but seriously, this is totally normal so don't worry!

[girlygirl57]

Well I've never been in 2 the whole dressing up thing unless its in the bedroom of course but you know just lingerie and all nothing to that extreme. but like I don't know I have thing as to where halloween is for all the candy junkies and reasons for people to buy overpriced stuff for costumes. I mean maybe I'm just a negative person during this time of year with the holiday I mean I'm glad he is going to have fun that's all that really matters to me that night its jus I'm kinda guna be awkward with it.

[Opinion Owner]

Halloween can be fun. Since you don't have anything that you really want to dress up as, ask him if he would be cool with you going as another Alice in Wonderland character. I would go as the White Rabbit. You could get some bunny ears. You could even get a little bunny tail if you really feel into it! Your boyfriend sounds like the kind of guy who would appreciate it if you joined in with the fun. Everyone looks ridiculous so don't even worry about feeling awkward!

[girlygirl57]

Yea I guess ur right. I don't know I always think I will look stupid or something. I guess I jus get worked up on it. it jus shoked me when he told me what we were doing that night I was like thinking is he playing or forreal? but he is dead serious so that's why I was kinda like mhm....about it. but the only other girl that is going to be there is his besfriends girl that is prego. so I might jus chill with her while they do their thing.

[Opinion Owner]

Believe me, you can't look stupid on Halloween. Get some bunny ears and hang out with the pregnant lady and you'll be fine!

[girlygirl57]

Alright then that works thx you very much

[Ceesa]

it's still gay ;s and he likes to be a joke..will..

[girlygirl57]

It might be a joke but I'm going to be with him and he does pass for a female when he does try so I don't know if he jus gets a high off of it or what but the thing is I don't exactly want him doing all that trying to impress whoever. I mean I don't know I'm kinda jus off of it with this type of situation I jus look the other way sooo I don't know how to react or evn what to do when I'm with him that night...any suggestions?

[Ceesa]

Tell him ! No, I don't want you to be as Alice in wonderland ! It's simply embarrassing!

[dreamer010999]

Last Halloween my girlfriend dressed up as a zombie. Thing is, it wasn't a sexy zonbie, it was a realistic pale-faced, creepy zombie. And it freaked me out a bit. So I can see how this would freak you out, maybe even more. I would leave it alone and see if he has any tendencies to dress up in girl's clothes on any other day of the year, then deal with that if he does.

[Ceesa]

Lol zonbie, couldn't help but to laugh!

[jacquesvol]

link suggests Lewis Carroll, the writer of 'Alice in Wonderland' was a pedophile. I read elsewhere about witnesses to it too: link

[jacquesvol]

If he reads that he might change his idea.

[girlygirl57]

Idk he's gotn all the stuff

[Alison_D]

I think a lot of guys like the idea of dressing up girly sometimes, and Halloween is a great excuse for them to do it.

Alice in Wonderland is just about as girly as you can get. Did he wear the tights and bloomers as well as the dress? And has he dressed up again since?

[nice_guy7]

it is halloween, people are supposed to get dressed up in weird costumes. I don't get what bothers you about this.

[girlygirl57]

Its a guy in a girls costume.... that is what I'm saying I mean yea have fun with it I jus personally never did the whole halloween thing. to me its just for little kids and the thing of it is with my boyfriend he is going to do that and when he had told me I kinda was shoked at that.

[nice_guy7]

You were shocked that people dress up for halloween? where do you live? and by that I mean what planet?