What is fetishised more in your culture?

[Babygirl_S]

I know what Indians like. The first girl never had to change her eye colour but the second girl lightened her skin to be considered the epitome of beauty. The first girl gained so much popularity just because her skin tone is naturally fair and guys were comparing her to milk products 😹
I think the Indian beauty standards are toxic because most South Indian people grow up thinking they’re less attractive and many even start hating those from the northern states because it’s a lot more common for us to have at least beige/golden skin. It doesn’t help that most Bollywood actresses/actors who gain popularity among Indians are North Indian. Even South Indian cinema favours North Indian girls but South Indian guys can still become popular out there 💀 So, I’m not going to say it’s great even though it’s easier for me. However, Western standards are more brutal 💀 because it’s a lot less common to have blue/green eyes.

Fair skin

Blue/green eyes

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And because most Indian immigrants in the USA are South Indians so they might think the first girl is fake 🤡

[KostasKouvalis]

MY culture? They're all obsessed Oriental women over here in America. And a lot of our White girls like black men. As for Polish, most of them prefer their own kind.

[Babygirl_S]

Oriental? 💀

[Babygirl_S]

And really do they actually like black guys more than white guys?

[KostasKouvalis]

East/SE Asian. A lot of White men like those girls.

Some White girls like black guys more, but generally speaking, NO

[Babygirl_S]

Yes I see very hot white guys with the kind of Asian girls who will never be considered attractive in my country. Maybe they have a fetish?

[Babygirl_S]

We do have Indians who look oriental. They’re primarily from the North Eastern states. They’re not considered more attractive than more European-looking girls.
I think there’s no Indian actress like her:

https://pin.it/58cnrXR7h

[Babygirl_S]

A typical girl from the North East:

https://pin.it/39SimBtNN

Indians don’t like such eyes.

[KostasKouvalis]

Yes, I am familiar. I don't either. They're my least favorite. And those examples look even MORE East Asian than the ones I've seen. If I just randomly saw them on the street, I would never think they are Indian.

[KostasKouvalis]

But I've also seen some from the northeast who didn't look like that

[Babygirl_S]

I guess East Asian girls just have to exist to be liked by white guys. I routinely see them with very attractive white men out of their leagues

[KostasKouvalis]

Pretty much, yes. I recently read a story about a White YouTuber whose Yellow Fever was so severe, that even after he got scammed by a Filipina girl, it wasn't enough to faze him. He ended up converting to Islam and marrying a Muslim Filipina and now he's been kidnapped😂

I talked to a Cambodian girl on an erotica website before. She said that SE Asians hate and don't respect themselves. She said they have nothing to be proud of and are only good for sex. She referred to her own Cambodian husband as a "rice boy", said "White" deserves to be capitalized but "Asian" doesn't. And she kept talking about how much she'd prefer to be with a White guy.
Desperate White guys with no self respect or standards go for them because they're an easy score

[Babygirl_S]

That’s hilarious! Are they all desperate? I used to think almost every white guy likes them which was really funny because they’re not the most popular in my country. They might hear racist comments ngl

[KostasKouvalis]

It mainly seems to be White guys in America who like them and little bit in the UK maybe. Because in other White countries, they seem disliked. One of my friends was dating a Belgian girl and married a Filipina. I consider that a downgrade.

One Indian girl on here said that a White guy can get an Indian girl in Delhi, easily. She was from Delhi and was engaged to a White guy.

[Babygirl_S]

I think almost all white guys are crazy about them but Americans like them even more. A little bit in the UK? Maybe because they don’t have that many of them over there. I think most white guys love blondes with blue eyes followed by East Asians. This is wild. What about all others?

[KostasKouvalis]

I don't know about the first part, but the second part might be accurate. But I don't know trends change. I remember there was a time when every guy wanted to date Eastern European girls. Then Latinas. And even French at one point.

[Babygirl_S]

I think they have a fetish but the most popular white guys still prefer blue-eyed blondes or white girls. Look at all the hottest Hollywood actors. It’s not a coincidence that most of them are with blondes 👱‍♀️

[KostasKouvalis]

I used to as well. When I was in middle school and high school I wanted a Scandinavian wife, now I find blonde blue eyed women boring. Eye color doesn't really matter to me, but I prefer girls with black hair. Brown and red is also fine, but black is by far my favorite

[KostasKouvalis]

Did you always have a preference for White men? Does your family care?

[Babygirl_S]

I guess yes but I’ve accepted that I can only dream of the kind of white guys I like. They’re usually also liked by women of other races which they prefer so they hardly get married to Indian girls.

https://pin.it/1pA4t1hc0

I’ve never seen a white guy like this with an Indian woman.
My first crush on a white guy was when I saw him in Bend It Like Beckham:

https://pin.it/2vyTjo0wL
I also liked him after watching Twilight:

https://pin.it/58hZzyMd9

But this type of white guys at most have casual sex with Indian girls which I’m interested in

[Babygirl_S]

My family wants me to marry an Indian guy from my caste

[Babygirl_S]

*not interested in

[KostasKouvalis]

Thanks for MHO

[BoobMan]

Honestly, eye color and skin tone matter far, FAR less than body shape!

[Babygirl_S]

Interesting 🤔 because in my country even fat and fair girls are considered more attractive than thinner dark-skinned girls 💀 You should see the kind of comments Indian guys make on Instagram whenever a dark-skinned and pretty girl posts. Even the brown-skinned guys have the nerve to talk

[BoobMan]

That IS wild!

[Babygirl_S]

I think it’s wilder that white people only accept her as an ethereal beauty from India:

https://pin.it/2kOIb8QQx

[BoobMan]

No idea who that is.

[Babygirl_S]

She is the most popular Indian female celebrity in the West

[BoobMan]

I bet if I showed that picture to 10 people here I'd be REALLY lucky if even 1 person had any idea who she is. What's she been in?

[Babygirl_S]

Maybe it’s because she is old now but she was cast in Hollywood movies during her prime. I think people wouldn’t be able to name any other Indian actress either

[BoobMan]

I think the most famous one is probably the girl from the American version of The Office. Mindy Kaling.

[AI Opinion]

It sounds like you're touching on the complex and often harsh beauty standards that exist across different cultures. In Western culture, certain traits like blue or green eyes, fair skin, and specific body types are often idealized. This can create unrealistic and detrimental standards for beauty, impacting self-esteem and inclusivity. Similarly, in many cultures, there are pressures to fit into specific molds, which can marginalize those who don't naturally align with these ideals. It's always important to celebrate diversity and embrace all forms of beauty, recognizing that everyone has unique qualities that make them beautiful.

[Babygirl_S]

So they like fair skin + blue/green eyes! 💀 💀💀

[Garud]

why do you take movie actors seriously, they earn money by showing glamour.
Normal people don't earn money, they spend money to watch them.
Most of us don't watch it or take their norms seriously.

Look at the wives and husbands of fair-skinned actors/actresses, you will easily find that they married a brown-skinned person. They don't follow this BS in their own lives.

You will always find something negative on the net if you search for it

[Babygirl_S]

Really? 🤔 I think most fair-skinned Indian celebrities usually marry other fair-skinned celebrities. Only women may accept darker men.

[Garud]

look again, search the pics of the wives of all the male actors, at least 50.
Then you can notice how many of them do not have fair-skinned wives.
Look at their pics with less makeup.
Or
look at couples around you in the lower middle, middle class and gated societies and notice how many men have fair-skinned wives.

In India, fair skin means a uniform-coloured face that is not full of pimples, cuts, blemishes etc.
But in the marriage wholesale market, you will see lots of BS like them men should be millionaires and women should look like top actresses. It doesn't mean their demands will be met. Very-2 tiny % of the people agree to it.

A man who is serious about a relationship will look further than the outer shell.

[Babygirl_S]

Are you sure?

https://pin.it/7br6ZSSJi

https://pin.it/1pyf6Nab1

[Babygirl_S]

https://pin.it/zfcvdgcEH

[Babygirl_S]

https://pin.it/3FilaBnYL

[Babygirl_S]

https://pin.it/hU0WzUZVh

[Garud]

why don't you search something like :
Who are some beautiful dark-skinned Indian female celebrities?

And in these pics:
Except for Karena Kapoor, all girls are brown, dusky or dark in color and Karena's eyes are full of dark circles. They all are using tons of makeup to get the glow and uni-tone skin.
Look at shahid kapoor wife.
Ritesh Deshmukh wife.
Ranbeer Singh wife.
Bipasha Basu
Konkona Sen
Nandita Das.
Priyanka Chopra
Rani Mukherjee
Kajol
Malaika Arora
Chitrangada
Freida Pinto
Sushmita Sen

All these women are between 40-50 and are still in the industry

[Babygirl_S]

Because Indian boys like you consider even Riteish Deshmukh dark there’s a problem. Also the pics I showed were of fair skinned women. If you think they’re dusky then we know what’s the problem. Kareena in her prime had an even tone skin and was praised for her good skin. Now she has wrinkles but I don’t think she has dark circles.
The problem is Indian boys like you who think all women need makeup for achieving fair skin and consider girls like Genelia Dsouza “dusky” or even Deepika Padukone “dusky”.
It’s crazy that Alia is considered fair skinned and Deepika dusky even when there isn’t a lot of difference

https://pin.it/2WjKMaVYH

All those dark-skinned actresses you named aren’t even brown-skinned and many of them are single or married to dark-skinned men

[Babygirl_S]

Riteish Deshmukh’s wife isn’t “dusky”

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Too complicated to answer correctly, there isn't one culture at play, this is cultural blending happening here. Depending on where you live, countryside, city, big city, your social status, your region etc. There is no general agreement I can think of for a country-wide based fetish.

Well, okay there is one fetish you could expect from here:

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Usually happening on Saturday, watch out for unexpected movement any other day, there are a lot of surprises

[IslaTheWitch]

red hair... I didn't see anyone really paying attention to the skin tone or eye color... but hair color... lmao...

[Babygirl_S]

Really? I thought they were crazy about blue eyes

[IslaTheWitch]

wrong...

[stratford]

Fetishes in the UK around race are normally older white guys who thing Asian women are there just for sex.

Fetishes in western society as a whole are much more sexual - in particular anal sex has been normalised in pornography.

[Babygirl_S]

How old and what type of Asian?

[stratford]

Eastern Asian women who typically look younger for longer.

[Babygirl_S]

Yes it’s a fetish but I think the hottest white guys still prefer white girls. Maybe those old white guys like them because many East Asian girls actually have a white fetish so they don’t care if the guy is hot. They just want a white guy

[stratford]

In order to understand, you should come and live / work in the UK, so you can see for yourself.
There are people of all shapes, sizes and colors and all kinds of emotional and sexual intimacy takes place in our liberal country. The stereotypes you read about online aren't always the case.

[Babygirl_S]

I don’t think it’s a good idea. They prefer white or East Asian girls for marriage and I’m not interested in casual sex

[stratford]

You make too many assumptions

[4ngelic]

sunkissed skin

blonde hair

light eyes (blue, green, grey)

big boobs

fat ass

being very skinny

[Babygirl_S]

It’s crazy that people are mentioning tanned skin when they hate natural brown skin

[4ngelic]

i dont think western people find naturally tan darker skin girls ugly at all, i'd say it's part of the beauty standard. everyone thinks latinas are hot for ex.

[Babygirl_S]

I’m talking Indians

[meepmeeperton]

Americans don’t really seem to like pale skin, they like tan. Brown Indian women can be considered attractive here

[Babygirl_S]

But even Indian women like me have faced racism 🤡 I don’t think they find it easy to find husbands.

[meepmeeperton]

Really? I suppose it depends. I've seen a decent amount of white guys with brown Indian women.

[Babygirl_S]

Really? I don’t think so. Those couples are rarer than black girls with white guys.

[Babygirl_S]

Also, I don’t think it counts if it’s not a serious relationship. They prefer to marry white or East Asian women

[meepmeeperton]

The marriage part might be true

[Gwendoline]

red hair and blue eyes is the rarest combination in the world

[Babygirl_S]

White guys seem to like blue-eyed blondes 😹

[Gwendoline]

There's more blondes than redheads. A lot more. Anyone can dye their hair blonde but ginger is very difficult

[Babygirl_S]

All the hot Hollywood guys marry blondes lol

[Babygirl_S]

I don’t think it’s difficult.

[Gwendoline]

Only because they couldn't get a ginger lol

[DerekC321]

I've heard Indian girls with darker skin get a lot of shit. And I've heard the caste system used to be really bad... I'm not sure if it still is

[Babygirl_S]

Yes they do but it’s not like they’re liked outside India 😼

[LiamJHayden]

Light-colored eyes. I reject the idea and hate when a girl talks about my green eyes. I had zero control over that!

[Babygirl_S]

But you won the genetic lottery so enjoy 🎉

[LiamJHayden]

But being loved for that rather than who I am is not what I want.

[Arizona8]

I love blue eyes, bit brown can be pretty, too.

[alice55]

Blue eyes and tan skin

[Babygirl_S]

Tan skin? But they look down on natural brown skin

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

We didn't say cultures are logic based, because they are really not !

[alice55]

False they love it, if you speak French just go on the comment section of a video talking about Thai women and yo would see the amount of guys loving "caramel skin"
And too I have plenty of example of girls swooning over another girls (mixed Black girl) skin tones.
They don't look down on it at all.

[Babygirl_S]

They do, especially Indian girls

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Indian girls are extremely rare in France, unless for parisians maybe. So I don't know where you get your information from but it's the wrong one. There are no Indian girls so there is nothing to analyse

[Babygirl_S]

There are many in the US and the UK and post about the racism they face

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Your question asks for our culture then we answered for that culture.

[molonski2]

Depends where one is born.

[NathanDavis]

I'm not sure... foreign accents, maybe

[Jennz6]

I shaved 🪒 my kitty too or get it waxed

[Babygirl_S]

And?

[Jennz6]

@babygirl_s and what?

[Babygirl_S]

How is this relevant?

[Jennz6]

I didn’t understand the question

[nawtee_me]

I like both….