He kept looking at me even though he was talking to someone else?

[Anonymous]

I have a crush on this guy. So timeline: two weeks ago he was extremely awful and mean to me when i came to see him. Asked why I was there and was just being an asshole in general. Then a week after this we spoke and he was so nice he kept prolonging the conversation even when I gave subtle nudges I wanted to leave. And we spoke about deep things like the meaning of life, religion etc.

But today in class it’s like four days after our deep talk. He’s in the front of class speaking with a friend and i’m packing up my bags at the back heading towards the door. Then through my peripheral I still see him talking like his mouth is moving but he’s looking straight at me till i leave the class.

what does this even mean? like he was speaking to someone else but why did my peripheral sense his gaze straight on me

[firenine909]

He could have a crush on you or think you’re pretty. Why don’t you talk to him and ask him if he wants to hang out?

[firenine909]

He’s certainly thinking about you as much as you’re thinking about him

[Asker]

haha lol i will subtly tell him that i have a crush on him but it’s just interesting that he did that

[firenine909]

Do you want to date him? What do you want to do with him? I think that bad encounter caught his attention with you but you should tell him what you like about him and be open with him. Tell him if he looks hot or whatnot and ask to go on a date with him. Ask him if you could hold his hand and flirt with him if he accepts

[Asker]

he’s an authority figure over me so I can’t say it easily to him, i quite literally have to be subtle so I don't know it’s weird

[firenine909]

Is he like your TA or what is he? I wonder why he was behaving mean when he’s supposed to be in charge of you? Perhaps you can have him come out with you for lunch/dinner as an apology for getting on bad terms with him and with the 2 of you alone you could confess your feelings more openly to him. Like lean closely into him and look into his eyes and say he’s handsome and if he doesn’t pull away then you could kiss him

[Asker]

he’s more than my TA lol i can’t be that bold there’s a real chance he shuts everything down. one time in his office he randomly just goes i could lose my job, everything. so I don't know it’s just weird that’s the only way i can describe it

[firenine909]

Is this in college? How long do you plan on being enrolled at that school? You could always just keep into contact with him until after you graduate then confess your feelings with him and kiss him

[firenine909]

What did you do in his office that made him say he could lose everything? Did you ask him out on a date?

[Asker]

yes it’s college im leaving soon, i CANNOT kiss him lmao. literally I don't know why he said i can’t even begin to talk about all the weird things that have happened in that office it’s a lot. i don’t know why he said it he just did?

[firenine909]

What weird things have happened within that office? I think asking him out after he leaves is good because then he doesn’t have to worry about his job. If you’re late 20s then you’re more of a mature girl for college, I’m sure you can talk your way into dating him

[firenine909]

After you leave college I meant

[Asker]

he’s not leaving till he retires he’s 54, and he’s married so yea. one time in his office he called me to his office because he couldn’t see my handwriting even though he’s marked my paper about five times before that. then he’s watching me as i read the paper at some point i look out the window look back at him to see him leaning forward with his hands all over a very red face then i look down and he pulls himself back up and runs his hand through his hair like quite hard and then quickly goes back to explaining what he was before so

[firenine909]

I meant you could hit him up once you leave college, not him. Although if he’s already married then it’s a dicey situation. It sounds like he might’ve been looking up your shirt and checking out your boobs and he might’ve accidentally saw them up your bra when he was looking at them real closely which is why he was embarrassed. At the very least he’s interested in you so when you’re out of college you could go out for drinks and then you could tell him that you find him hot and tease him a bit

[whosnumber_1]

Well, the fact that he was an asshole to you originally should raise an eyebrow id think

[Asker]

i mean yea but i have a crush on him so im like blind to his red flags

[whosnumber_1]

Don't compromise yourself just because you think he is cute love.

[Asker]

and we do have a significant age gap he’s 54 i’m 21 so go figure

[whosnumber_1]

Well then there's no excuse really for him to be an ass to you. Know what I mean.

[whosnumber_1]

Hopefully I was helpful. Thanks for the mho.

Let me know how it all pans out!

[Asker]

you’re welcome not really sure what mho is lol. I was leaving the school so I don't know he tells me see you later even though he knows i’m leaving i say when he says when you come to my office so I don't know if im ever gonna go

[whosnumber_1]

The see you later part was probably just being being polite, but what do you mean when you come to his office?

There is a big age gap between you and this guy I guess?

[Asker]

i know but he told everyone else bye have a good summer so I don't know like why tell me see you later? i said when that’s when he said when you come to my office so I don't know. he’s 33 years older than me lol

[Asker]

and he’s my professor

[whosnumber_1]

Are you considering making a move on him?

[Asker]

i may go to his office but the most i’ll do is ask for a hug but I don't know if he’s even attracted to me because like i know the way he looks at my body but he gaslights and manipulates me anytime he does weird things so I don't know it’s up in the air I don't know if i should go but i can’t stop thinking about him. i lowkey wish he just told me bye have a good summer like he did everyone else like what do you mean see you later 😭😭😭

[whosnumber_1]

I think your setting yourself up. You should pm me

[Asker]

followed you

[Anonymous]

If his attention always seems pointed at you, that could be a sign of interest.

[Asker]

good to know lol

[Tomislav7]

means he's a creep or a serial killer

[Asker]

lmfao? creep how😭

[Tomislav7]

staring at you

[Asker]

yea I don't know and it’s like again he’s fully talking to someone else i see his mouth moving but he’s looking at me?