What are signs a girl is checking you out?

[Anonymous]

Before you tell me this is a dumb question and everything about it should be very obvious, I need to tell you all that throughout most of my life I have not been very observant to my surroundings, especially with people. I blame it on ADHD. But I've gotten better as I've gotten older. Because I haven't been all that observant with body language, I don't read people very well, especially people I don't know very well (strangers). I have actually had friends tell me "she was checking you out, didn't you notice? why didn't you talk to her?''

My guess is they do it most often when the guy ain't looking. Because I feel awkward when a girl catches me checking her out.

[Sophism]

I'll try my best to explain this simply, one of my best friends has terrible ADHD and I had to do this for him too.

Basics:

- If the girl is by herself and she has her hands open down by her side, she's waiting for a guy to go talk to her.

- She's already talking with a guy, OH NOES! If she has one arm straight and the others' holding the straight one's elbow, she's unhappy with the guy in front of her and would love someone to go save her.

- If she has her shoulders back and her boobs out, she's sexy and she knows it and is looking for someone, go try it out ;)

Now, these are for if she's into you or not. Little things you can do to see what your chances are:

- Is she smiling a lot? Don't remember? Smile at her and see her reaction, if it's a cute one (smile, shyly looks away etc.) then it's good. If her face remains the same, things aren't looking to good, so you...

- Try touching her! Be careful where for the first time, make some excuse to touch her, such as "Daamn, this watch looks expensive, what is that *lightly touch + hold hand to get better look* aah, Gucci, could have guessed!", then build it up, touch her when she makes you laugh, touch her leg etc. If she doesn't move the body part away this means your chances are looking good!

- Is she nervous? Does she keep on playing with something? Does she keep on fixing her hair, rubbing her arm, moving her leg, swaying from side to side? If so, just like guys, they get nervous around people they're into, furthermore if it's not like them to get nervous, it COULD suggest they want more sexually than you're currently giving them.

- Do her friends always look at you and giggle when you walk by? Do they always look at you when you walk by?

- Does she look at you constantly? No? Try this - think of where she's sitting and move your head so you can only just see her and what she's doing out of the corner of your eye, it cannot look like you're looking at her. Observe her and check if she's looking! If she is, either she's zoning out, or more likely she's into you!

- Is she the one to start talking to you? (Instant messengers, texts etc. also count) Try going on Skype, Facebook chat whatever the f*** you use and appearing online but not talking to her. If she starts it, you have good chances.

- Does she follow you? If you're at a social gathering with lots of mutual friends, strike up a conversation then excuse yourself after a couple of minutes. Watch and see if she follows you, if she does, well it's obvious.

I got loads more of these if you'd like me to sit and think of them all I'll gladly do it, sh*t it would probably help me out too :)

[Broken36]

I like this. You should keep going. :)

[Asker]

I agree with a lot of these. I was flirting with this girl at a party and I noticed she has silver and turquoise rings on her fingers, I lightly held her hand for a moment and asked about them. It deepened the conversation and eventually we started making out. But that cuts a long long story way too short mind you. If you got any more you'd like to share let me know

[AzureGirl]

Whe I like a guy, I make an effort to talk with him and I look in his direction often, be in in class or outside of class. A good way to figure out if a girl has been watching you is to look their direction, when he looks over at me I lok down quickly or try to look busy or something.

[beerY33]

Sorry this isn't answering your question, but I'd just like to point out that a lot of people don't notice or overlook stuff like that when it's happening to themselves especially--your problem likely has nothing to do with ADHD.

[Sophism]

Due to a lack of attention people suffering from ADHD or even ADD can very easily have no idea about the concept of body language.

[beerY33]

yeaaah, I'm not gonna argue with you on this one.

[hethet123]

I usually just make eye contact with them and look in their direction a lot. I'm pretty shy though so I tend not to approach or talk to guys I'm interested in, and I am usually uncomfortable talking to them.

[awesomedude8113]

Right there with ya sista, except vise versa. I can hardly ever talk to women I find attractive. I'll look, but as soon as I'm caught I end up blushing like a school girl

[jonesjessica812]

Is it a good thing if a girl sounds nervous qhe. You talk to her?

[jonesjessica812]

If she looks at you more than once