My little sister's best friend made a move on me while I was asleep?

[Anonymous]

I am 23 my sister and her friend are 17. She was having her spend the night this weekend and my sisters friend has alwasy sort of hit on me when my sister is not around, but I ususally ust laugh it off/try not to be alone with her. She also likes to rub up on me and such, I admit she is a very attractive girl and sometimes this gets me a little stiffy, whcih she notices, but Is till say no and back away everytime. Well this weekend, I woke up and I was hard (not out of the usual), but she was also blowing me... It honestly took me a minute to figure out what was going on and how to react and she saw I was awake for a bit and did not stop her right away, I was so out of place and disorientaed I didn't pause because I enjoyed it (I mean it felt good and she is cute but still...), just because it took me a second to fully grasp what was happening. I of course stopped her and told her to never do anything like this again, she said, 'I know you liked it, I saw you enjoying it, next time you'll wake up inside me' with a wink.

I just dont understand what is going through this girls head, plus I dont know what to do if she does something like this again, how physical can I get in getting her to stop? She just thinks this is all a game and touches me and what not even though I am constantlly backing away and saying no. I just feel so bad for my sister, because this is not the way a good friend should behave... And i have never wished I could have a lock on my door until now, or been affraid of a teenage girl...

Also P. S. Woudl this be considered rape? In a way I mean?

[__alyssaaa]

If its not consensual and you did not want that to happen or ask for that to happen I would consider it rape. No girl or guy should act like that with another person without consent -- doesn't matter how much you're attracted or "feeling vibes" with the other person.

[Asker]

Thanks for the support. What should I do about it though? I very much doubt anyone with authority would see it that with our ages and genders... plus it is hard for me to think of it in this way, because if I really wanted to, I could throw her off or physically make her stop no problem, but then guys can't behave that way with women... ugh

[__alyssaaa]

Is there anyone, preferably an adult, you can talk to that you trust? That's the first thing I think you can do. Secondly, Straight up tell the girl to leave you alone and never do that again with asking. That's a very odd and disturbing thing to act that way without permission... She's 17 but she knows better. She's not an idiot just being very promiscuous and irresponsible.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like troll

Yes it is a rape. If you want, go talk to someone about this

Tell your sister she isn't allowed to your house anymore. If she does come. Kick her out.

[Asker]

I know it sounds that way and I was afraid people would take it that way...

Who would I talk to? I think anyone with authority would turn it on me being the aggressor because of age and gender, no one would help me out, our society doesn't work that way in my opinion, but I would still like to hear your thoughts on it.

I don't know about telling my sister any of this... this has been her best friend for years, I am afraid the messenger would get shot if you know what I mean...

[Opinion Owner]

You should talk to psychologist or your parents. I agree this is problematic but you didn't do anything wrong.

Yeah, I understand. But what kind of friend is she? She deserves to know what she did. And for you, she shouldn't come to your house anymore. What do you think?

[Asker]

A psychologist? I don't know how to go about that... But ya, maybe I can tell my parents, at least that she has been making moves on me and I can't get her to stop and I am afraid for my sister with her. I suppose I am just afraid because this girl is super close with our family, but I think my parents could help in at least keeping her away some... I just don't want my sister to find out in a way where she will hate me. If it weren't for that, this would all be over already.

[Asker]

I also am afraid that if she gets too upset, she may lie to my sister or family about this and I am very afraid that people will take her side, as like you said, this is a tough story to believe form my perspective..

[Opinion Owner]

Well yeah I meant if this really bothers you sometimes talking to a professional helps. They could advice what to do next.

Why would your sister get mad at you? Her stupid friend is the one doing creepy things to sleeping people.

[watashisena]

She likes you but I think she is still child. So u far away ^_^

[Anonymous]

LMAO. U got raped by a little girl. I shouldn't be laughing. Sorry.

[Asker]

But you would consider that to be rape? I feel like a police officer would see the complete opposite in that I was abusing her... hence my being scared. But it is silly in a way, I understand, I mean she is cute and it feels good obviously, but I can still say no and not want it I think.

[itsallover]

How is that funny?

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't go to the police about it. I think u r capable enough to stop it from happening. I wouldn't feel bad about it though cos u did say u kinda like it. Just move on and make sure it doesn't happen again unless u want to.

[Asker]

What would you suggest to stop it? I don't want anyone else to find out, especially my sister, I don't know about getting too physical in stopping her either and saying no doesn't seem to help much...

[Opinion Owner]

Well, u could lock ur room or something. And i would talk to her and tell her firmly that u want her to stop. I think she sees this as a game and u hav to tell her that u r serious and hopefully she is smart enough to listen.

[Asker]

We don't have locks on our bedroom doors unfortunately... it was never a problem until now. I was pretty upset with her last time I said to stop, I would have yelled by my sister was right next door. I agree I think she sees this as a game, I guess I will just try to be more stern from this point on, before this specific incident it was a bit more playful I suppose, so I was trying to be nice. I guess I am also afraid that she will lie to my sister and such and people will blame me for this, because my story is far less likely than me coming on to her...

[Opinion Owner]

Just be sincere and genuine and I'm sure people will believe u if it comes to that. I think u should probably keep it private although its ur choice if u need someone to talk to. Just be firm with her. To cause drama over this would be stupid, so hopefully she doesn't cause any.

[Anonymous]

yes it's rape.