Are women a waste of time?

Question

I've been told by older men that a guy my age should focus on "getting my shit together" at that age because chasing women are a waste of time. I thought it was stupid at first, but i realized it is because for someone that is going to a university and is working in a full time job. I talk to girls, but the ones i want to get at play these stupid games that i have no time for. I 've also come to a conclusion that they are a distraction for a guy my age. I know because two years ago i was crazy over this girl that lead me on and my grades suffered.

Rock_Steakface · Accepted Answer

Short answer: yes. It doesn't matter what age you are and in fact it's all downhill from here as far as women go. Getting married (the supposed conclusion of long term relationships) is a surefire way to have everything you're working for right now taken from you. You're vulnerable to their (women) special brand of bullshit right now because your sex drive is high, but here's what those older guys won't tell you: sex is nothing special once the novelty wears off.

Once you've done it a few times, you'll start to wonder if all the shit you had to put up with to get it was even worth the trouble (9 times outta 10 it's not). You may feel as though you're missing out, but time is on your side. Once they hit 30, they'll be looking for a guy like you to settle down with once they've done all their partying, none of which they'll tell you about. And if you stay on the right track with your studies, you'll be able to find women much hotter than the ones that passed you over.

Good luck, young grasshoppah. May fortune smile upon you.

Alessus · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't say they are a waste of time, no, but they certainly can be a distraction, a good or a bad one. Knowing what to prioritize is a skill that many young people seem to lack. I think you should set those priorities, whatever they are, into a clear cut order and then proceed. If that means that you won't chase after women who play games or try to lead you on, so be it. But I don't think completely disregarding women is something I would do either. Though, your call.

tmiranda08 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't say waste of time but if you have goals or dreams, in most cases, a relationship can hold you back or distract you. I can see why some older guys would say that to you. They probably wish they put together their lives and waited for love to come instead of chasing which takes a ton of effort.
Then again, the hopeless romantic in me feels like doing this cuts off potential love that could have been amazing.

jesshkah · Accepted Answer

I mean.. yes and no? It's more like women shouldn't be your main focus in life. It doesn't mean that they're a waste of time, but it's less important than making sure you have a good future set up for yourself. I'm 24 so I would say I'm "your age" but you can find girls who have the same mindset, like stay on that grind until you're settled, and in that case it's not a waste of time.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

The ones your pursuing are a waste of time. You will know the right one that is worth pursuing. But if your easily distracted then yes. Focus onot whats important to you so that you can settle down with the right person. Make long term goals. Because you have too many women who don't mind trashing your future for their's.

vk99x · Answer

I think knowing in advance that dating, is in fact, a "game". That it's a numbers game and people won't always want you. So don't take it all personal.. I've noticed with a good chick, everything just kind of lays down perfectly in such a way where you don't have to work so damn hard. Good luck!

Blonde401 · Answer

Yes and no. Yes you should be focusing but no we're not a waste of time. You have to keep a balance, remember than social life is important and if you want to date, go for it but you should definitely put your career first at this time of your life and any woman who wants to be serious with you should support your dreams and ambitions, not distract you so much.

lucasnabizada · Answer

Seeing how long it takes for them to make up their FNNNGGG mind when you propose something or ask them,,,, And the time it takes for some of them to be straight up and honnest and answer messages clearly without leading you on... I wouldn't argue with you there bro...

Anonymous · Answer

Its good to chase after your career first. But its also good to chase after the girl you want to have a relationship with and furthermore. Ik some people who does that, putting their career first, and not caring about girls. They ended up being lonely. But i guess it depends on the career, whether you get it when you're still young, or when you're already old. Depends on fate.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes they are.. They don't want nothing to do with you and then when you start making that $, then they all of a sudden want something to do with you. Fuck that. Focus on your career and watch porn, or get escorts at least escorts will be honest about why they're interested in you once you become successful.

cosmosis181 · Answer

Yes, they are. What's the point in pouring all of your heart, time, resources and energy into feeding other people's egos... when you know they don't give a crap about you anyway, can't enhance your life... have the capability of DESTROYING your life... and any payoff is minimal and temporary? If that's not a losing investment, I don't know what is.🤣🤣🤣🤣

dudeman · Answer

for the most part yes. unless you want kids then honestly what use do you have from a women that you can't get from friends or prostitutes?

Bananadream · Answer

Women are not a waste of time because going on dates is fun. But u prolly don't have time for dates since ur going to school and working full time. What games do they play and how do they lead u on?

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

I don't think anyone our age should be so focused on getting dates. Really, unless you're absolutely sure you want kids right now, then being so consumed in the pursuit of love is not productive at all.

EllieLexis513 · Answer

Well, they aren't wrong, at age 23, you should be focusing on getting yourself together before bringing anyone else in your life. But that doesn't make us a waste of time lol, just that right now, they shouldn't be your focus.

fueledbythc · Answer

I think getting your shit together is way more important over chasing girls. After you get your shit together, you will notice you will have time to chase girls more.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Men are a waste of time too. People in general are a waste of time.

Anonymous · Answer

Wise old man, but yeah at your age it's a big distraction , once you have your life set in gear then it's time to start trying for them and besides they are so flaky at that age

Jeeevan · Answer

Your career should always be first, once your on track then girls.

Melcart23 · Answer

Hell yeah. Females are a waste of time, space, oxygen, skin and everything else.

Anonymous · Answer

Why not do both? Are you gonna wait to be successful so you can spend it on them? Why not lie to sluts at the local university bar and tell them you already are successful?

unknown1994 · Answer

Yes we are a waste of time (most of the time)

abundantlyrich · Answer

They are damn right. Career first then dem ladies!

Polocrew · Answer

Baha I mean I love boning hot ones

Jessicocoa · Answer

That's up to you to decide.

bcromartie · Answer

No. .

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