Girls: what is the appeal of a rape fantasy? Why is that a turn on?

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I thought rape was supposed to be wicked traumatic, it's strange to think people fantasies about it. is it just that you're so attractive that the guy just HAS to have you?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It is a handsome, rugged stranger so overtaken by lust and love that he just has to have us, and he magically knows every sexual thing that gets us off and does exactly what we want, without even having to be told. And he stays, repents his crimes, cooks breakfast, gives us a million dollars, and takes the dog out for a poo before he vanishes into the ether.

It is not drunk, stinking creeps with dirty hands who pretend they didn't hear you say no, with their dudebro buddy standing in the doorway taking pictures to text all the kids in school so you get called a slut and a whore for four years. <---- That's a lot closer to the actual rape and sexual abuse experiences women have.

It's not all the big guys in your PE class sodomizing you in that shower stall with the broken showerhead that the coach never looks in, then having to deal with crapping blood for three days because you can't ask your Mom to take you to the ER. <---- That's a lot closer to the actual rape and sexual abuse experiences men have. (Taken from a personal account relayed to me.)

(And may I just say, I am sooooo glad you had to have a camera, and film, and take it down to Photomat when I was a teenager, and they wouldn't develop pictures like that.)

cheriya · Accepted Answer

That's so interesting, I never really thought of this being a turn on but I have heard of this. Personally I don't see it as one honestly- can only think of it being traumatic as you said

I assume rape fantasy is completely different from real life therefore it might be a turn on. In that sense then maybe? Apparently people fantasize as a rapist or the victim, both men and woman, in fact they fantasize about this often.

I'm sure there's an article about it somewhere- too bad this response is coming from someone who doesn't really think of it as a turn on

Framboise · Answer

I never had that fantasy.
What I think about it is that most women who have it don't really want to get rape.
They want a man who do it by surprise, forcefully but who turns out to be attractive and dominant.
I think that fantasy just have the wrong name because actuel rape has nothing to do with that fantasy

Anonymous · Answer

I actually fantasize that I'm raping my boyfriend, but he actually likes it when I'm dominant.

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