If you want to know why people are the way they are then you're gonna have to read those 10 pages (and then some). I'll give you a summary of what I've read and observed over the years. Some of it may be bullshit YMMV..
1. Some girls want to "tame" the bad boys.
2. Bad boys can "make" her do things she secretly wants but doesn't want to take responsibility for (sex, drugs, rock n roll?). NOTE: I'm not talking about sexual assault here.
3. Daddy issues/parental issues in general. This is pretty common despite what many women say. Hopefully that's because they don't have those issues and not because they're attempting to cover up something they feel is shameful or whatever..
4. "Good guys finish last". In this context, "good guys" usually means "pussies", "doormats", etc. "Bad" boys tend to be more confident (even narcissistic) and take the alpha role. Being a "good" guy is often misinterpreted as meaning you should be submissive, sensitive and considerate to an extreme. You *should* be sensitive, considerate and possibly submissive in the right circumstances but taking it too far tends to be a turn-off for women. That kind of stuff makes you a good "friend" but usually not boyfriend material. Basically "bad" guys have some of the desirable personal qualities that "good" guys tend to lack. The fact that they have qualities that make them poor partners can be overlooked, especially in younger women.
He's the one that doesn't give a shit so the girls think they can 'win him over'. It's a challenge. And he's exciting. And he makes them wet.
80% of girls are chasing 15% of guys - the 'bad-boyz'. The rest of everyone are standing on the sidelines.
Worse, those 15% of guys get so much pussy there's no way they're gonna commit, but the girls just keep bedding them thinking she can nail him down. Never happening, so you get the pump and dump.
Now, he's usually a few points higher in SMV, so she thinks she's that much better because he slept with her, so she turns down all kinds of good suitors for mates thinking they're not good enough. You'll even hear the famous, "I'm not going to settle" BS line.
It's a sad state of affairs out there in the dating world, and half the girls are whacked, half the guys are dumbfounded.
Because its fun to drink and do drugs, the "bad boy" won't judge. Buy those are temporary. After so much of dealing with the negative emotionally exhasting relationship. The "bad boy" becomes frustrating. If your in the friend zone im sorry, its a womans obligation to not string someone along. If she was honest to begin with that she never wants to date you, it would hurt in that moment its cruel to tell someone they have a shot at going out. And if she's not honest about her feelings, would you really want to date her anyways it seems like you have a good grasp on your qualities and you do have the upper hand on politeness and kindness but I think every girl has to go through her bad boy stage so she can love and appreciate it when she does learn her lesson and go for the nice guy
I have been with so many over emotional guys it hurts. they cried more than i do on my period in a week. some built an emotional wall and we never spoke but acted like he cared over text. I think all guys just wants a guys who doesn't care about what other people think, but are a sweetheart just for them. someone who isn't scared to say they love you or spend time with you. that's all I've ever wanted. I guess you could call that a bad boy, but its also about the mystery about them, they don't spill the beans so quick like some do and and its like a damn waterfall of baked beans, downing me.
I don’t know any girls who go for bad guys like that. If you’re talking about guys who get into trouble in class sometimes cuz they fool around a lot or say inappropriate things then yeah ig we do that cuz nice guys just seem too good to be true. Bad guys fun to chase around, and they make us I don't know feel good a little I don't know man. Good guys to me are really good people and I don’t hate them. It’s just athtbtheyre not that fun to be around cuz they assume girls would ONLY go for them I don't know. It’s really hard to explain why. But I hope this helped
I never quite understand what a bad boy is supposed to be. I only ever hear about them from guys who claim to be the opposite good guys and complain about the bad guys getting all the girls.
So, what is a bad guy? What makes him "bad"? And what does "bad" in that sense refer to?
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I don’t think girls like immature drug addict losers that treat them like shit. They just like self assured confident guys who aren’t afraid to speak their mind. My girlfriend told me that I’m very rough around the edges and that she’s loves that she’s one of the few people that have ever gotten my softer side to to speak. I’m a former Marine... did bodybuilding for years... train in MMA today... and I’m a cop. I’m not exactly the soft type just due to environment. I wouldn’t hold my girlfriends hand for years or show any affection. She continued to fight and keep showing me how much she loved me and I eventually opened up about PTSD and just a lot of stuff I don’t talk about with anyone else. To everyone else I’m sometimes an asshole who runs his mouth too often. To her, I’m something completely different. Her words were she feels special and feels as if she knows the real me while everyone else doesn’t. This is just my experience from a guys perspective and what my girlfriend has told me though.
Girls love bad boys simply because they're transitioning into good boys. The drug habit doesn't always come with bad boys. Think Jay-Z, Notorious BIG and eaze-E. They ALL start bad then turn good, naturally as they're maturing.
Also, girls think they can change the bad boy. In reality, the bad boy changes himself. So the girl thinks she is a special snowflake when she sees the bad-boy changing, thinking out of all girls he listen to her, think she's a special snowflake. When girls this good side, they forget the bad side.
Also, most bad boys have close to 0 anxiety, cos life fucked them up so hard, what's more for them to be scared off. Girls think that fearlessness is bravery. There is a difference between them and girls cannot see it
Girls don’t like bad boys. Girls like guys that are nice deep down, but that have perhaps gone through some trauma that makes them rough around the edges. Most girls don’t want a guy that goes around killing people, stealing or even doing drugs.
This guy that I mentioned tends to show strength, confidence, intelligence, etc. in good amounts, while other guys lack certain aspects that girls desire. it’s also unusual for such a guy to show that he cares for someone, so IF he cares for a woman, it’s very easy to notice. Girls like this because girls desire a guy that will stick around for a long time. The problem is that it often doesn’t work this way in real life..
It's not that they like bad boys for being bad. Rather they, unlike nice guys are confident about who they are so don't change themselves to try impress girls. Nice guys change themselves to try win a girl over so come across as pathetic losers with an ulterior motive for being nice to girls. Why would a girl respect a guy trying to impress her when she's done nothing to earn it? She wants to meet a guy knowing he is being himself.
I’ve never got the appeal. Especially when the girls then seem in shock that their bad boy treats them well... bad. How could it have been foreseen. Obviously it has something to do with rebellion but it’s never anything important like change in our world etc but alcohol or fights wow what a visionary
Because he usually will have more chiseled facial and body features as well, he is high in the hierarchy of social dominance at that stage of life, this is the sad truth, but years after he will be just at the middle at best, while the ones who studied hard and were invisible will be much better faring, it is up to you what you will do about it.
They are pumping with testosterone, they are confident , don't hold back what they want to say. Show the girl he wants her both physically and verbally. Nice guys do not do any of this, they play it safe, they don't want to be seen as creepy , they are insecure. Bad boys also are more adventurous and don't do things that every guy does. The normal average guy is boring , I am in this category. That is why I am working on becoming that bad boy lol in addition to all this , bad boys are generally more muscular , they work out so they look good. Nice guys generally just eat what they want, and don't care about their looks , thats why so many nice guys play the "girls should like guys for their personality" card often. Instead of putting in the work, they just want the girl to cater to them and when they don't they are biches.
They don't love bad boys. They love guys who just happen to be bad. Huge difference there.
It's a reflection of the girl. If she's bad she will want a bad guy. So no good guy would worry about this.
Asker, I can tell you're a bad guy just from you asking this question. Lol
I wonder that myself. It's funny because some of them get knocked up and have bastard children and then want to find a nice guy. Some think they will be protected but the thing about that is no matter how big or strong a guy is he can be taken out with a snap of a finger. Some like the constant aggression which I don't understand.
Small brain they have.. they feel insecure with innocent guys because girls are dependant objects no matter how FEMINAZI they claim.. But these girls desperately seek good boys after nearly they get dumped but no one accepts them then & they just get passed around the bad boy team for taking turns. This life is a win-win situation & I love how the laws of attraction works!
I personally do not. I am a shy type of person but I tend to like funny, outgoing people although I may not always be one myself. But I do not like bad guys.
Cause they have low self confidence and think that they need a jerk who will be sweet to them. Hoping he changes but never will.
Also he chases them which a lot of women want.
Girls don’t actually like bad boys. They like good boys who *look* like bad boys.
Because gender roles which feminisn is trying to change
They are more dominant? Girls like that they don’t like doormats.
Only younger girls a like bad boys. I hate bad boys.
Turns out, i got laid the most when i came across as funny and confident. Had a bad break up and i now come across as passive aggressive or an asshole.
I dont believe bad boys get more, i believe confident, funny guys get more.
People want what they can't have and with a bad boy you can't have a stable relationship, so they want a stable relationship with him. anyway
Bad is a hell of a lot more fun than boring goodie two shoes.
Girls love bad boys since good guys being too nice with girls brings out the out the opportunity of getting friend zoned in most propable situations and bad in the sense being naughty and playful and which is often loved by girls and brings a sense of mystery that might drive a girl crazy and that could be the possible reason.(PLEASE IF I AM WRONG CORRECT ME BECAUSE THIS IS THE OPINION I HAD IN MY MIND)
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