Guys: Suppose you got rejected by someone you really really liked (read below for more details thanks)

[Anonymous]

Okay like I said you really really liked this girl, from the first day of school you noticed her, from then on tried to get to know her, finally asked for her number, always texting her, asking her to hang whatever...you finally get the guts to tell her you like her. Then she says she doesn't feel the same way...later she starts to like you she admits it but says she doesn't want a relationship right now. Now your done with her, but not looking for anything with anyone right now. Now...she asks you to talk to her in private and says sorry, and tells you how amazing you are all this good stuff, and tells you how she really feels about you. What would you do after that situation? would you give her another chance? Please help this is what I am trying to decide whether to do or not :)

[ItalianBro]

Only talk to him if you want to have a relationship with him. If a girl ever asked me to talk in private and only wanted to tell me how great of a person I am, apologizes, and all of the good stuff. I would than be expecting her to say that she likes me or wants to hang out with me. If she just wanted to apologizes and still had no feelings for me I would be pissed off.

If she rejected me and than later developed feelings for me. She pulls me off to the side and tells me how great of a person I am, apologizes, and all of the good stuff. I wouldn't ask her out again. I already got rejected so there is no reason to push the issue and look like a creep. If you want the guy than its your turn to put yourself out there.

[Asker]

okay well ya of course I would tell him I really like him a lot, and I would love to be in a relationship with him I just forgot to include that in ha sorry!

[ItalianBro]

I asked out a girl 2 months ago that I liked. She had a boyfriend and was almost temped to still hang out. She said "I am in a long distance relationship and I don't think my boyfriend would like it if we hung out". We just became friends since she was in my class. I still like the girl even after getting rejected. So the guy still likes you. If we are ever both single, I will ask her out again. When you like someone it doesn't just disappear. I bet he still likes you! GO FOR IT!

[Asker]

Okay, do you think he would give me a second chance? because right now he acts like he hates me, he can't even look at me. And it hurts, because he liked me so much and I know how he can really be. I don't know if he's still hurt by it, or just doesn't like me at all to the point where he hates me now?

[misterbill71]

he's hurt. but I bet he would give you a second chance...

[everythingiam92]

thats so right!

[Belgie]

There's no point in giving her a second chance, if you're just going to make the same mistake as before. You were the one always pursuing her, always texting her, always asking her to hang... That's why she didn't like you in that way.

It was only when you moved on and stopped all that, that she began to like you.

If you give her a second chance, you absolutely MUST remain as aloof as you have recently been. Act as though you could have any girl you want, and you just happen to want her for the moment. Act as though you don't need her, and she will WANT you to need her.

If you go back to the always texting, always asking her to hang mode of thinking, then you might as well tell her good bye right now.

[summerrose145]

everyone is different...
if a person is cynical and have history of breakups... he wouldn't give you a chance...
if a person is more positive one and can see that girl is really trying.. he would give you a chance infact many...
guys think that they can move on and can find another girl easily...
but they don't know that finding the girl and finding the love isn't same...

[EZlats]

Guys are stupid but we're also smart. We're smart because we won't just sit around forever trying to get a girl, we'll just move on to another one after long enough. We're stupid because we don't stop liking that girl we wanted to get with. We might claim that we don't but until we actually burn out our relationship with that girl, we do still like them.

If you can convince him that you really do want him, and hopefully if he isn't in the process of trying to get another girl, chances are you'd be able to get him back. But don't beat around the bush saying stuff like how good of a person he is, that sounds like you're still keeping him in the friend zone. Just be forward and direct, if you want to go out, say so. Or go out together and show him that you do with a kiss

[awaken03]

i believe in second chances, if this guy was totally sincere with his feelings for you he would definitely take that shot again..but if your not really sure yet of your feelings for him don't give him false hope either..give it some time try to communicate more hang-out and know each other more..after that ask your self if he really is worth it =)

[rickdm2]

I would say just to move on,he probably feels that he gave you a chance but you didn't take it. Now that he knows that you don't like him, he will move on. Later on you start liking him and you want to start talking to him, he will think that you are just desperate and that you are trying to make him a "backup".

[zman41093]

I hate it when ladies are desperate as much as they hate it when guys are. I'm going to have to say move on with this one sweetheart. Unfortunately, men don't think the same way that women think in terms of attraction. If he doesn't like you, it's because you've lost value to him somehow. Whether it's because of you rejecting him or maybe he was convinced that you are not really someone that is "attractive" (This includes looks and behavior). Unless you get that value back, its just a dead end for you. I would have personally moved on and kept you as a close friend, that is if your behavior doesn't conflict with my standards.

[Marciano]

I think everyone deserves a chance... OK perhaps two :P. No honestly, I would be happy and would defenately give her a chance. But I get how you went about it tho.

[Brando]

I would think "Wtf? Is she toying with me or what? I've already put this effort into trying to ask her out, she turns me down, I move on, and now she's suddenly changed her mind. I don't know if I want to do this again."

[Unloved_Grudge]

It depends. If the girl rejected me and waited a long time to express her true feelings, I would reject her as I would have most likely moved on.

But if she was nice about it and didn't wait too long to reciprocate interest, I'd ask her out. :)

[rizzle2]

This happened to me recently. I am giving her another chance, I just don't have the same feelings as I did before. So just keep doing what you are doing and the attraction will come back.

[Jager66]

when I was younger and foolish I would have jumped at the opportunity, now that I'm older more cynical I wouldn't waste another second on her.

[destroyer]

I wouldn't waste my time, I would move onto the next girl, I don't have time for stupid games

[playa_pan]

Possibly another chance

[misterbill71]

I would give her another chance.

[Anonymous]

it's ok.

[Anonymous]

that sounds fair.