Do "good girls" REALLY go for bad guys?

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NO, they don't, and I'm going to explain:

I have a cousin who's a thug wannabe, he's been in and out of prison, he does drugs, he's robbed people and broke into houses and cars and used the money for drugs, he even gave himself the nickname :bad news", and every time he gets out of prison he gets a new girlfriend. I will not lie, the girl he gets are not bad looking at all, some of them were actually kinda hot, WHEN IT CAME TO LOOKS THOUGH, and when he's in these relationship it's all about sex and drugs that's it, he pretends to love them but he really doesn't, one of them he got pregnant by the way and he's a deadbeat dad who chose a life of drugs and crime over being an actual father, but were they "good girls", came from a good home, raised right, good education, pure history and have goals in life? No no no no no no no... no, they had problems to and it was usually drug problems, they also had trouble with their parents, the law, trouble with school, past relationship issues, but mostly they had drug problems, and they were DUMB, and I mean fucking DUMB, they would do and believe anything my cousin tells them, if my cousin said that 2+2=potato juice, these girls would take it to the grave if you tell them otherwise.

Guys, the girls who are going for these bad guys are NOT the girls you want to be with, stop looking at their looks and start realizing their personality is a fucking dumpster fire, and their looks will wear off eventually and they will have nothing left. Let them burn and look for a real woman instead, one that who's smart enough not to go for douchbags, and will actually adore you and make the perfect wife. If you're going to say that they're hard to find, well in the real world the best things in life are hard to find/get in general, but there's still plenty of actually good women out there and you will find one if you really look and work for one.

Flamesofcinder · Accepted Answer

A "good girl" I never heard off this saying however am going too use so, e psychological points here.

You sound very angry and the venom off your words suggest that your jealous and bitter towards your brother and that these girls chose a criminal over you. Now am a rocker chick (I had school issues and was always in trouble, I told teachers too eat shit and suck my left nipple, I called them whores etc etc) I had my issues in life so does that make me a bad person and less off a woman? Of course not, a good education? This is silly too me because most Americans today are dumb as door nails in terms they can’t pronounce words properly and they seem too lack common sense does that mean me as British bird (slang for female) is better than you? No of course not.

In the UK the type off girls your talking about are almost always considered too me special needs (a disorder meaning retarted which they have learning difficulties) so shaming them makes you a nasty person. Your cousin isn’t a bad boy he is a criminal they are different a bad boy here is a man that isn’t scared off self expression with a "don’t give a fuck" attitude they are always respectful off others but they have a very clear line, they don’t have criminal backgrounds and they don’t use drugs. They are always seen as masculine long haired and long bearded and covered in tattoos they look thuggish in appearance and that is where it ends. Now either your angry at your cousin or we have two very different ideas off a bad boy. A good girl is what you say too a child or dog not a grow woman it is patronising and ends up with someone getting slapped.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Finally, some common sense! But, I will have to correct you on some things. Well it's true that most secure good girls don't go for bad guys. The problem is is that many women are attracted to confidence, and some are interested in someone who's a bit edging. This has to do with attachment Style, unless I do with whether they're good people or not. And what you just learned is that unless that person is naive, you end up attracting who you really are. This is why people have to change. For themselves.

NineBreaker · Accepted Answer

There is much truth in your observation. However, in my opinion, I think this goes even deeper.

It's not an issue of good/nice vs. bad. It's more of passive vs. assertive.

Assertiveness and confidence in a man seems to be the most attractive trait sought by women. The most important element in assertiveness is risk-taking behavior. Such behavior is far more common in men and is often associated with a high level of testosterone.

There are both good and bad guys who are either assertive or passive. Here are the categories:
- Passive Good: Kind-hearted, shy, often very anxious, empathic and sympathetic. Often selfless. Lacks confidence.
- Passive bad: Indifferent, lazy, exhibits narcissism masked as low self-esteem, avoids taking risks, tends to cut corners
- Assertive good: Hard worker, level-minded, confident, does not avoid confrontation, exhibits emotional intelligence, and exhibits risk-taking behavior.
- Assertive bad: Impulsive, quick to anger, exhibits emotional instability, narcissism, megalomania, overinflated self-worth, sociopathy or psychopathy, and also exhibits risk-taking behavior.

I am of the opinion that the assertive good is the most commonly desired personality type by women. Assertive bad is far behind in 2nd place, while passive good and passive bad are close 3rd and 4th place respectively.

The women who go for the assertive bad guys almost consistently are focused more on the "assertive" part, but neglect evaluating whether a man is "good" or "bad".

SomeGuyCalledTom · Accepted Answer

Our biology doesn't distinguish between "nice" and "bad". Our biology filters everything through VALUE. As in, anything that increases chances of survival and reproduction, or that gives good emotions. If a nice guy conveys high value, girls will be attracted. If a bad boy conveys high value, then girls will be attracted. But the nice guy who's afraid to make a move won't get far. Nor will the bad boy who's empty on the inside and has nothing to offer beyond the fact he doesn't give a shit about anything (which as a short tail strategy can get certain women attracted, but soon enough they'll realise he only acts that way coz he's a loser with nothing to offer)

BattleKitten77 · Answer

These girls are not good girls. They are getting what they deserve. I hate bad boys always have. It paid off in the end. Some people love drama so they chose this. I have a friend who does not smoke drink do drugs works hard and literally finds the scum of the earth. I swear if i got a bum out of the gutter showed him off (shower optional truth be told) I would have a better guy than her. Yea its that bad. I won't bore you with the details.

I know you care for your cousin and you want him to do better but sometimes it is best for your mental wellbeing to step away. I had to with her. It was keeping me up at night. Just because someone is family does not mean you are forced to endure abuse. Also if he is breaking the law he could get you in trouble as well. Take a step back and let go and let God.

Bensbrie · Answer

Thank you buddy for at least setting things straight. There are lots of fella's who assume that "good girls" go for "bad boys" a lot. That's not true. Lots of girls who are raised proper dont for guys who get into trouble all the time. "Good girls" aren't perfect for sure, but they aren't the type of girls that wake up at 3 am in a dumpster with a guy named Phil. (Just made that scenario up lol). Nobody is perfect, but if a guy usually looks like he has burned every bridge behind him and has strapped a ticking bomb to his chest, lots of girls like to stay away. And if a girl is with a bad boy it also might be because of charm and manipulations, cause some people are deceptive!

just_a_potato · Answer

I'm a good girl and I dont like bad guys because everytime it's time to get on our knees to pray they start taking off their pants, 'are you an idiot? That's not how you pray!!' And when I try to read them a scripture in the bible they rip out a page and use it as a blunt how rude 😤

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Those dumb bitches are practice girls... the smart ones will fuck you if you let them. Financially or socially. I personally choose both... I do long term with women and short term with good looking dumb bitches.

The only thing I've done better than most both men that go for either or, or, for both like me, is judge how they're trying to trap (and what for) me and avoiding it.

But that's my response to the bulk beneath the question. To the question... girls go for what they see as their best bet. They'll cheat for it unless ideological reasons get in the way of it. They'll call it a 'mistake' only if they come crawling back because the other guy turned out to be a complete washout and fake that tricked her into thinking he was all that.

Neeceeb7 · Answer

Some nice girls do end up with bad boys but every conceivable match you can think of is gonna be out there.
But I think the real issue is to truly get to know someone and have realistic expectations of what you want and will be happy with. If you pick them because of looks or style or their party stats you kinda deserve what you get

EpicDweeb · Answer

*slow claps* well said. I will say, I've known girls that I think of as "good girls" who did fall for bad guys. BUT... it wasn't because they like the guys to be bad, but because they felt that they could CHANGE the bad guys to not be bad anymore and their empathy drove them towards the relationship with that goal in mind.

sockandshoes · Answer

finally someone gets it. i would consider myself a “good girl”, and have never and will never be attracted to “bad boys”, aka lowlife bums. they scare me most of all lol.

Anonymous · Answer

In my experience 'good' girls don't really do for bad guys. Girls who appear to be 'good' girls, but are not, go for bad guys.

Hazelstar · Answer

What's the definition of bad? Does that count if he drinks, smokes and take weed. Depends on the person I'm not attracted to bad guys

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's more like dumb girls go for bad boys and because the girl is so dumb and accepts being treated like crap, everyone feels sorry for her and thinks she must be like some kind of angel who deserves better.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think people mean this kind of bad boy tho. Plus those girls aren’t even good girls, as mentioned before me but the bad boys people usually want is the reckless type, who deep down actually has a good heart. And girls like the trill I guess and they think they can change them cuz hey, movies. So people associate every kind of “bad boy” with that I think.

samael_kmarty · Answer

I think yes good girls do end up with bad guys.
Its natural, some girls like to be dominated.
They don't want to be a equal.
girls with attitude end up hated by both good and bad guys.
Bad girls go for the good guys to make a fool of them.(I am a victim 😅😆)
And some girls never speak to guys so they never get asked.

DWornock · Answer

Girls don't actually go for bad boys; they go for hot guys. However, girls have always been easy for hot guys so they don't value them; and since they are not valued, the girls are not treated with respect. That is the defination of a bad boy.

Nice guys are not hot. Therefore, they must spend a lot of time, money, and effort to get a girl. And, when they finally do get a girl, she is extremely valuable to them. Therefore, they treat the girls well and and with respect.

lex123456789 · Answer

Just because he’s a bad guy to you doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy to her. That guy doesn’t like you, if he likes the girl he’s going to treat her differently. A lot of times the “bad guy” is not bad after all he’s just misunderstood.

MajesticTwelve · Answer

I tried it out once, and when get did something that was objectionable both morally and legally, that was the end of that experiment.

Avicenna · Answer

Usually they don't, that's true, at least not for the really bad ones.

Swat_ · Answer

I think a lot of guys do not put thenselves in the shoes of the girls enough.

If a hot bad girl approached you and started flirting with you/asking you out, and her paying for everything, most of us would obviously try.

mateynine · Answer

tl;dr version: bad girls like bad guys as a good guy you should not chase after the bad girls

purplepoppy · Answer

So true. Dogs will always attract dogs

Arielbubble · Answer

I don't get on with my mum 24-7 or my family much. I was made to feel like a loved burden most of my my life. People have different goals in life sweetie

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