My girlfriend is messaging a guy she met on tinder advice?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating this girl for 3 months. We met on tinder. She is convinced that im attached to my ex because we broke up a month before her and i met. We had a fight and she dumped me, over a silly lie that i slept with my ex. In the time she went on tinder and met some guy. Theyve never met in person. We got back together the next day and she blocked him. Or so i thought. she's been messaging him. She went to the bathroom and i went theough her messages (wrong i know). She was telling him that shed like to be his friend and so on. She doesn't really know anyone in the country other than me because she's new here. She lied that they stopped talking. He knows that she has a boyfriend. Should i be worried. What should i do

[englisc]

Yes. People don't make platonic friends on twitter. It's one thing when a girl has been friends with a guy for years. But when a girl cares more about remaining friends with a guy she barely knows over you, her boyfriend, she's up to something.

She keeps the old friend around because they've known each other for such a long time, longer than she's known you - she keeps the new "friend" around because she's keeping her options open. Whether she's looking to cheat or leave you for him, or he's a "plan B" guy in case you don't work out. Either way it's bad.

The main reason you should be worried though is that you think you could find a girlfriend who is solid girlfriend material on Tinder.

What was the lie about your ex all about? Who lied?

[englisc]

Typos:
*friends on Tinder
*could find a girl who is solid girlfriend material

[Asker]

I said my exs name in bed once by accident and everything changed after that. She stopped believing that im over my ex. She go an anonymous message that claimed i was still sleeping with my ex. Which i didn't. haven't spoken to her in months

[englisc]

Damn, well to be fair I can see why that bothers her. But if she's then lying that you've cheated on her with your ex she's probably a little crazy. Then this other guy thing... Just end it and move on. It's all fucked.

[Asker]

She didn't lie about the ex thing. Someone lied to her

[englisc]

Oh my bad I misread that part. Doesn't she believe you?

[Anonymous]

I'm a bit confused, did you lie about sleeping with your ex?

If so then I think she lost a lot of the trust she had and I would be worried if I was you. Becuase it could be that she says she believes you didn't but in the back of her mind she doenst really believe you.

I would say maybe she just needs a friend but it's really hard to find someone on tinder who actually only wants to be friends/has no ulterior motives.