Caught my boyfriend get a message from a girl on Tinder?

[Iamthecutegirl]

My boyfriend of two years, went away to work for three weeks, 3 hours away from home, he came back in the weekends. While he was away he downloaded a dating App called Tinder, he didn't tell me and he didn't delete it after checking it out. He logged off when he cane home in the weekend and went back on when he left back to work (as far as I know), I didn't know any of this until yesterday I saw his phone go off and I saw a message from a girl on Tinder. I asked and he said it was nothing and it's 'only tinder', it's a joke he said. His friend was there with him at the time and he also downloaded it to his own phone (his friend is single). He tells me he was bored at the time, and he loves me and would never cheat on me. He told me he only messaged her out of curiosity to see where she lived, he told her he was bored, which I don't understand why he just didn't message me and tell me that. I don't know what to think or do? I feel uncomfortable that he felt the need to look at other girls, match them, talk to one.. that I know of and hide it from me, if it was purely for fun than why wouldn't he have just told me after? I went on myself and it looks like a hook up site for singles.. I'm really hurt and confused and not to mention I moved 24 hrs away from my home country to be with him 6 months ago. Please share your opinions or advice.

[Paris13]

Now that you have found out about 'Tinder,' sweetie, it was God's way of telling you, Protecting you, Maybe even putting a Big bug in your ear----Something is going on in Denmark. Heed HIS words, don't take this lightly. He has 'Uploaded' This, has been on This, and is even Communicating with-----Another.
This is an eye opener, once a guy you are with starts to pull antics and actions behind someone he claims he 'Would never cheat on me.' And like it or not, believe Me or not, I call this 'Cheating,' and it could go even further, not just on 'Tinder,' But in a get together that could lead to----'Tender.'
And even if you would tell me he has no intentions of carrying out anything, there is Always a chance, for now that he can do anything with a push of a button, that he is also Capable of Other things. And I know this is 'Bugging' you, or you would not be here asking for advice.
Have a talk with your soul mate, it's time to sit down and Chat. I don't feel it's fair to you,. a Big slap in your face, and Something that you should not be 'Joked' about.
If you stand for this, then you will stoop for whatever poop he would decide to throw you way when he says Again------He was bored at the time.
The way I see it, if it Starts with Tinder, where else will it go with Other media sites or Even----End?
Good luck. xx

[Paris13]

Thank you for letting me lend a helping hand here, I hope you are okay... xx

[christinalong337]

the fact that he said it's "only tinder" like it was a joke and NOT a dating website is a HUGE red flag. what a dick. when i'm bored i don't troll craigslist for hook ups or download match. com. that's a BS cop out. it absolutely is a hookup site for singles. If my guy was secretly on tinder, I'd dump him. maybe he didn't actually cheat but the entire purpose of the app is to match people up to go out... HELL NO.

[Acadia]

I think it's completely understandable for you to be hurt. He has no reason to be on any sort of dating website if he is not single. Let him know how you feel, clearly and calmly. Tell him you feel uncomfortable knowing that he has that app on his phone, and that the joke was funny while it lasted, but now to remove the app. If he refuses, you know it's more than something he just does as a "joke" or for "fun".

[jimmyksn]

Actually tinder is a friend castor app. Tinder only works within a custom distance. Tinder don't allow us to search for names or e mail or stuff like that. You don't need to worry about him. But you should check his friend (single guy). COZ if he get a gf from that app, you should worry about your bf too. And the most weird thing is the part that your bf say that the tinder app is a joke. You must ask him what's the joke? Well that's all I got

[Jackerjack]

Really it all depends. Yes he could meet a girl on there. If tube only been dating him for that long then you can't really know him to well. He could be cheating or he might nt be. Really I'd say you have to make a judgement call on this, keep him and talk to him about this. Or dump him

[Keyspirits]

he's one tricky little basturd lol. U know whats up when buddies get together? Twhy went out to score on the cuties. Toughluck ma'am..