Why does my girlfriend dress up for everything but being with me?

[nissanguy]

alright this may sound like a lame question but hear me out, OK so my girlfriend mostly everyday likes to get dressed up, but a couple times a week she likes to get really dressed up, but she always does it on days I won't see her, and if I do see her shell already be changed into sweats, I mean why does everyone else get to enjoy it, except her boyfriend? you could say I may be a bit irratated and or jelous

[Joemso]

Dude, this isn't a lame question at all. I know exactly how you feel! Many other guys do as well. When a guy lets himself go or starts to look like crap, you run the risk of the chick leaving you for another guy or cheating. You're a "bum" to people and risk getting chastised. When a girl gains 100 to 200 lbs, wears PJs 24/7, quits her job, becomes a lazy bum etc. All of a sudden it's the "guys fault" and the woman can't do wrong.

It's DEFINITELY a double standard. My last ex quit her job the second we entered into a relationship and wanted to move in with me. She started doing the PJ routine and got lazy etc. I wouldn't let her move in so everything was my fault right? So she started cheating. You can't win. I just pat myself on the back for being strong enough to tell her no. She was pretty dang attractive and was very charismatic.

Moral of the story... Get out while you can if you notice these traits. Let me tell you from experience, it gets worse, not better. It's happened to me half a dozen times. The chick flips a switch on me one day and I never get her back. So I'm forced to break it off.

But when she dresses up for everyone but you, I feel like she has lost respect for you. At least that is how I felt when it happened to me.

[quested]

bitch is sucking d*** behind your back bro... internet bitches just be lookin out for other sluts. You shouldent have to take that kind of crap. I say you tell that property of yours how to dress if not snuff that bitch and move on to the next girl. Life is too short to be with bitch that don't listen

[Minxxe]

it could be because she feels comfortable around ou and doesn't feel the need to "impress" you.

If it bothers you say something, but say it nicely. You sound almost accusatory in your question, is there something more to it, for you I mean.

My partner had a problem that I wore the same track bottoms when he used to see me at weekends only.

I explained that skirts, heels and push-up bra's are really f***ing uncomfortable and that when I'm home I like to be in something loose. When you get dressed-up and made up cosmetically it's like putting on a mask and being a different person. at times it's just so that I can cope beter with the world, some girls just feel naked without going the whole hog.

If you'd prefer to see her plastered in make up and killer heels occasionally tell her, she'd probably oblige but feel that she's not good enough for you in her natural state.

9 times out of 10 I used to do that for when going out so that people didn't look at me and say "poor bastard look what he's gotta put up with"...

[nissanguy]

I see what your saying, and it definitely makes sense, I'm not upset with her at all, I guess I just went on a little jelous rage for a moment, my girlfriend is beautiful, wether she is in sweats er whatever, she does it, but I guess what I meant was sometimes its just nice to see her looking nice, now I'm not a guy for tons of makeup, mini skirts ,and high heels. I guess I just felt like she was doin it for everyone else, but like I said I think I just felt a little jelous, but I totally underst

[remeloe]

I get what you're saying. I mean, I don't want to wear a suit and tie while I'm chilling at home. My girlfriend, however, literally finds the ugliest "comfy" clothes she can find. It looks like she's about to paint or start laying brick. We've talked about it... many times, but there is no change. Comfortable clothes don't have to be ugly. I've had ex's who wore comfortable clothes (jogging pants and tshirt or ashirt) that were sexier than most of their regular clothes. Tonight I dropped her off for dinner with her new friends and she had bought a new outfit. We went out a couple of days ago and I had to point out that her clothes didn't match. I love her, but it really pisses me off at this point. I don't know what to do, because if I mention it... AGAIN... it's not going to matter.

[ShootingStar5]

I'm with Minxxe... she's probably just really comfortable around you and feels like she doesn't have to dress up. She probably doesn't realize that it bothers you.

Talk to her about it nicely. Try to come off more on the positive than the negative when you bring it up though. Like instead of asking "why don't you ever dress up around me?" That would just make her feel bad about it. Bring it up in a way that will make her WANT to do it for you. You could try saying something like "You look so cute when you get all dressed up, I'd love it if you would do it more often for me."

[ZippityDooDa13]

I wouldn't listen to this advice at all. These aren't modern women. Modern women LOVE attention. We literally need it. His girl definitely does it for attention. Your right that she's comfortable around her man and doesn't feel the need to impress him. Yet he has to walk around egg shells to express that thats fucked up. If it was vice versa, his girl would leave his ass or cheat on him

[LrtwihArt]

She probably wants to be herself around you and know that she can dress in sweats and you'll still love her.

[soe11]

LrtwihArt
Agree with you.

[soe11]

LrtwihArt
I agree with you.
Personally I like my girlfriend looking
great when I get home.

[soe11]

• Be a positive attitude towards your girlfriend.
• You should be proud of your girlfriend rather than negative thoughts.
• Would you like your girlfriend not uptodate infront you?
• I Myself like my girlfriend looking good every day with dressing up.
• Thanks to her mother, she trained her how to be dressed at home and outside as well as every occasion and functions.
• Upto you how you want your girlfriend with you.
• You should talk to her.
• If you do not trusted her, thencleave her.

[xoxoloverxoxo]

i think its coincidence