No reply but posting to snap story?

[Anonymous]

Had a first date last week, trying to plan our second. We were just texting for a bit and when I asked if we were going to make it out for dinner this weekend, she quit replying but added a selfie on her Snapchat. Safe to assume that's a no?

[HollyK21]

I’m sure she’ll get to you, she’s just leisurely about the conversation and response time. If she doesn’t reply at all, then I would assume she’s just not that into you unfortunately..

[Asker]

Is it appropriate to unfriend her on Snapchat and Facebook then if she doesn't reply? Isn't it awkward to stay friends with someone who ignores you?

[girls4lyfff]

it’s definitely appropriate

[Asker]

How long do I let her lead me on? There's an event in 3 weeks that we're "planning" on going to even though I expect her to be a no show.

[HollyK21]

Sorry for the late response! But yes, I think it’s appropriate to delete her from those platforms. Also, don’t “let” her lead you on. If you see she is actively showing she isn’t interested the same way that you are, then to hell with the event and getting your hopes up. There are way too many fish in the sea!

[Asker]

She was totally different today. All day we were snapping back and forth just like how we did before we met

[HollyK21]

Please be careful! Her actions could be a sign of inconsistency, and you shouldn’t be too welcoming to that kind of pattern. You have a chance now to really assess the situation, and possibly walk away before you’re feelings are too strong and it’s much harder..

[Asker]

Please excuse me if this is inappropriate, but is it possible it was "her time of the month?"

[HollyK21]

No it’s not inappropriate to ask! It’s possible that she’s on her cycle, but it doesn’t excuse poor behavior. If you use that as a reason now, you could find yourself making excuses for much bigger situations in the future..

[girls4lyfff]

either she’s not interested or she doesn’t really feel like texting at that moment.