Are ditzy girls a turn-off?

[Anonymous]

I know a lot of people dislike how girls act dumb around guys. Istg I don't do that on purpose. And no I wouldn't say I am dumb. Just average like most people I guess? Maybe it's the lack of confidence, maybe anything else. But both around guys and girls, I come off as very ditzy and dumb. What should I do to change it? Or is it alright this way?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

There's sometimes shades within that.

I don't get on with ditzy people, generally. Especially if they have that really ditzy sounding voice - but that's mostly because I find nasal, high pitched sounds innately annoying.

That said, sometimes a ditz just presents like a ditz but is actually very sharp.

However, to me, if a ditz is really a ditz, I find them a turn-off. They usually register to me as fake or unsubstantial. I prefer people who are genuine, smart, and capable of good conversation.

Not saying you're like that, necessarily, but I would make some snap judgements about you. I would, however, be very open to being proven wrong. Always am.

If you're happy how you are, own it. Be that, strongly. If you're not happy, sit down and think hard about what you want to be like. Then slowly work your way towards doing that.

[Cherokeehp]

It’s annoying just watching ditzy girls. I honestly hate being around stupid people in general, and stupid people are EVERYWHERE. If I were a man I would not date you.

[NamerOfStars]

Well, is it just nervousness? Do you come across as better with someone once you get to know them and are more relaxed? And- perhaps most importantly- can you think? Many people confuse being smart with being knowledgeable. But you can be smart without knowing much about a given topic- or even much at all, really. Can you hear an idea, form opinions about it, and offer comments or questions? If so, you're probably fine.

[TeeSquare]

Ita ok to be the way you are. Your surely an intelligent person, and won't it be a nice surprise to anyone who looks past that initial perception and finds out the real you.

[Hazelstar99]

Why you think you are dumb? What makes you think that?

[Asker]

I'm not dumb. Not a smart-ass person either, but I am a student and I teach English (which is not my native language) part-time. So I think I have to be around average.
But still I always end up asking stupid questions when someone is explaining something to me. Let's say someone says "this bottle of coffee is cost x euros". Then out of nowhere I am like "Oh you mean a kilogram of coffee?" when he at first referred he was only talking about the small jar.

[Hazelstar99]

I think you're daring, carefree and please carry on this attitude. Like, there are things which I don't understand I would just ask because I am asking for myself and I want to understand. This doesn't make me dumb or stupid in any way. I am not afraid to look stupid. It wouldn't look nice if everyone thinks that you know a certain thing. When someone asks you about that thing and you don't know. It would give off bad impression. It's okay. You're taking yourself more seriously than you should.

[Agape93]

Yeap. I want a partner, not someone I have to explain every concept I’m talking about to.

[bamesjond0069]

I love a ditzy bimbo. 😍

[Anonymous]

Nah lol I'm hella ditzy too.

[Iron_Man]

They need to be retrained

[Avgbrisbaneguy]

Nope, some act it but are kinky AF in bed

[tartaarsaus]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Yeah sometimes