Why is it when I’m mean, girls like me, but when I being myself, they’re not interested?

It’s like everytime I’m mean to them I can get what I want, but when I’m being myself they don’t like it. I don’t want to be an asshole with every girl I like, it’s exhausting.
Why is it when I’m mean, girls like me, but when I being myself, they’re not interested?
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