Do you think this is wrong?

[Mariex35]

I know two guys who work at the same store. One of them I met years ago and we went out and had a hookup. Whenever I see him at the store we make small talk. After we hooked up a year later (last year) he asked to see me again.

Recently I befriended another guy at the same store and I gave him my number because I want to talk to him about something.

[Anonymous]

No. You’re overthinking it. The guy you hooked up with probably doesn’t care.

[Mariex35]

How would you know that he doesn't care?

[Opinion Owner]

it’s been a year since you hooked up with him and it was just a casual relationship. And I said he probably doesn’t I don't know for sure. If I was the guy I wouldn’t even care. It’s just a friend with benefits arrangement.

[Mariex35]

I said we hooked up once and then a year later he asked to see me again and I didn't meet him because at the time I was talking to someone else.

But then when he saw me wearing a sexy dress he asked me was I trying to make things difficult for him. And when I gave him a magazine of me and other women in sexy lingerie he said it was hot. So I don't know if that means he still wants to hook up.

[Opinion Owner]

@mariex35 yes, he wants to hook up again or wouldn’t mind doing it again. Im assuming at the time you were talking to someone else , you two didn’t have anything going on. So I would still say he wouldn’t care because you’re not his girlfriend or anything like that. I mean unless he’s obsessed with you ( which he doesn’t sound like the type), so I don’t think he cares if all you did was him a few times. You’re not his wife or the mother of his children. Well maybe not caring is the wrong word for it. I don’t think he’s mad at you about it.

[Mariex35]

We hooked up once and afterwards, he said he thought we shouldn't hook up again. And he came back a year later asking to see me again. And I told him I was surprised that he wanted to see me again. Since he said he didn't think we should again. And he said he didn't want to cheat and that he hopes he could see me after his girlfriend leaves him, but I didn't meet him again because I was talking to someone else. I told him to let me know when he wants to see me and that I'll be here if he needs me and he smiled.

[Opinion Owner]

@mariex35 it sounds like he wants sex with you more than his girlfriend. I don't know he seems kind of shady. Like he might try to play or keep you as a side chick and still be seeing his girlfriend while using you. But I don’t want to be Debbie downer. I don’t think you should wait for him to be ready to be in a relationship with him. If he really wanted you, he’d leave his girlfriend by now. Again I don’t want to be a Debbie downer.

[Mariex35]

He was saying he didn't want to cheat on her as to why he told me we shouldn't see each other anymore. This was a while ago though and I do talk to other men.

[Opinion Owner]

@mariex35 Sorry for the late reply I fell asleep. I hope I didn’t offend you after sharing something so personal with me and something you’re very worried about. Well all I can say from there is keep talking to other guys and if he really want you, he’ll leave her. Maybe he’s not sure about how he feels about. he might be a little upset, but he understands why you would talk to other guys. I mean you can’t just sit there and wait for him forever. So if he’s a good guy, he would respect your decision. And you’re not wrong for doing that. You didn’t do anything wrong.