I made a post about this on Whisper some days ago and it was the first one in a very long time that got loads of responses from females, who were mostly saying yeah, that's true and others who outright admitted they do love attention even though they know it's shallow.
So now I'm asking GaG: why do females love attention so much? Why is there such an obsession with a need to be seen and glorified? Why does that matter to females so much? Even when the attention is bad they will still like talking about it because it still means someone is acknowledging them even if it makes them "uncomfortable."
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So far I'll give a kudos to the women who are at least saying why they love attention, even if I think it’s pathetic. But of course you got the other ones who are upset and giving weak answers about guys loving it.
Many things. In today's society, many women are growing up in fatherless homes. They crave masculine love from a father figure. As they lack this, they tend to search this in others, often the wrong sort of men. Because they cannot distinguish the good man from the bad due to lack of fatherly guidance and love, they fall for the charisma of the 'bad boy' types easier. This is turn causes many emotional pain because we all know that these men are notorious. In my experience, the girls who grew up with a loving and guiding father do not feel the need to fish for attention from others. At least not on the same level as those who didn't grow up with a father.
Another big issue is due to social media. Society and social media are putting major pressure on (young) women to be desired and getting a bunch of dudes chasing them. If not, then there is "something wrong with them". Which is of course a lie.
Point 3 is that getting attention is easy. It's just easy dopamine highs. One that is very dangerous and addicting. WAY TOO MANY (young) women in today's society have made their self-esteem dependent on. If they don't get a bunch of dudes in their DMs or don't get enough 'likes' as they want, they will become insecure. And frankly, it's just EASY and QUICK self-esteem/ego boost.
And much of this is thanks to men as well. Let's face it, if we didn't have so many sex-deprived simps desperate for female validation, then women wouldn't feel the need to take advantage of it. It's because of men that things like OnlyFans and InstaThots exist. If men in their mass stop pedestalizing women, then women will be forced to introspect and find their confidence within other qualities.
OMG are you a therapist? This answer is very insightful. It does suck not having a father/father figure to show you what a good man is. It is like you wrote my story.
@CurlySew Thanks for the kind words. I'm not a therapist (although those close to me consider me to be one lol), I simply research psychology and social dynamics quite a lot. It is indeed a huge loss for both men and women to grow up without a father to teach them the ropes. And frankly, much of this is thanks to This is why especially many young men either end up going on the wrong path or look up to figures like Jordan Peterson. Not because they want to, but out of necessity. I advise you to listen to the likes of Jordan Peterson if you really want some guidance you feel like missing
@TruthBringer I definitely agree, except for the fathers part. That can be true, but I feel like as a society we're constantly blaming the bad behavior of modern women on the absence of fathers, when mothers can be just as much of an issue even if they ARE around for the kids.
So you may not have a father at home, but you have your mother. She's there so she's still responsible for your upbringing.
I agree with your point but counter point truth… if women didn’t instathot we wouldn’t have simps either… both sides are truly to blame. The thing is men are always expected to lead this change even as women claim to be strong and independent and equal. So who makes the first move?
@VanillaSalt@ManOnFire Sadly, the absence of fathers does pave the road to the faults within society. Only society likes to blame the fathers for this while often this is the woman’s fault. But you and I know that today’s society revolves around catering to women. Any finger pointed to obvious accountability is immediately labeled as “misogyny” or “victim-blaming”. Women nowadays CHOOSE to remain single AND have a child. They want a child, but want this without the father involved. Either by having a baby daddy or by a sperm-doner. So yes, they are very much contributing to this. My point is that today’s society has a LOT of weak men. Too much for our own good enabling their behavior. The efforts of high value men are being shadowed by these white knight simps. If men stopped showering these instaThots, E-girls, you name it, with the attention and validation they so much strife on, then women would need to check themselves and eventually feel forced to become better.
Attention for women is literally their oxygen. They need attention to survive from the opposite gender. There’s a reason why they post sexy pictures of themselves on the internet. This is why they like to go out on girls nights out and dress sexy and look good even when they have a boyfriend or husband at home. Why? Because women know deep down subconsciously that their value comes from the way that they look. That’s why even when the pandemic hit, with Covid and hair salons, nail salons, makeup industry were still making money hand over fist. Why? Because the beauty industry is never going to go out of business because women know there value comes from the way that they look. Simply put, an ugly women that has a career is equivalent to like a dude that’s homeless and a hobo. Both of them are useless to society. No one gives a f**k so since you know a woman’s value comes from exactly how she looks, she needs constant validation and oxygen to keep that car going so never give them attention for free. She has to pay premium to get her gasoline from you.
Understand the difference that men want sex and women want attention. A lot of guys think women want sex just like us and they do but only from a small % of men. That’s the key but there willing to take attention from anybody. Just like most men will take sex from any girl but we’re not going to put our life on the line for any girl. That’s the difference. That’s how men and women are different. Attention is so important to women because there existence is essentially validated from the way that they look so they need constant reaffirmation that there attractive from random men. It makes them feel better about themselves because a lot of women have low self-esteem but we live in a fking clown world now a days where girls get free attention all the time thanks to a lot of you fking simps out here. Of course you’re going to have girls lying on this topic because that’s what most women do.
Well contrary to your belief I’ve always had a lot of attention even though I’ve not always enjoyed or wanted it (at times I’d deliberately put more effort into making myself less attractive just to avoid it!) But yes, sometimes it’s nice - that’s human nature, nothing more. Anyhow I never set my self esteem on this kind of think, I always valued respect! I’m an outdoorsy type who like to push myself and enjoys autonomous challenges as well as teamwork in activities. I value respect and that’s where my self esteem comes from, gaining confidence to overcome challenges and gaining respect from my teammates around me. I also have a degree and a profession where I also enjoy the feeling of being respected. I’m happy dressing casually with no makeup and just enjoying life - that’s where the best part of life is for me, that’s where I feel fulfilled. But I also understand that my partner likes it when I dress up and make an effort too, so I do that for him to enjoy because it makes me feel good when he appreciates it too.
Agree with the evolutionary comment and want to add - as a female, you’re also overlooked a lot and given attention for the wrong reasons, so I tend to have periods of time where I am either revolted by attention or seek it out because I just don’t feel properly heard. For example, sometimes when I work in a team and have a great idea, I will see people automatically defaulting to the male in the group and I feel the need to counteract. I am sure this has influenced my behavior and caused me to develop habits to attract more attention. I might not be looking for male protection like in the old days, but I am trying to garner security for myself in a different way. It’s survival just in a modern setting.
They love it because they get to feel lusted after and desired. This is purely an ego thing. It's the same reason you hear so many women of color bitch about eurocentric beauty standard, even though the standard is a blend of caucasian and ethnic features; women of color want to be lusted after by ALL men. Not just some; ALL.
I can’t answer for all women. But now and then I do get into that phase where I feel like I am missing out when I stumble across other girls stories of being “That Girl.”
And for me it’s definitely when I lose sight of my own bigger picture/my goals /values etc.
I think this happens when I try to feel good through external validations rather than do the “hard work” that makes you feel good in long run.
A more technical term for this is approval addiction or perceived perfectionism I believe it was coined by Dr David Burns , I might be wrong. This I think also has to do with low self esteem as well.
It's because feeling desirable is an emotional need of many women. And this need is satisfied when they receive attention, especially from guys they like. It's why lots of women are addicted to social media and post provocative pictures of themselves; the affirming comments from simps make them feel good about themselves. It's like crack to them. When they don't get this attention, that's when they start to question their desirability and you see questions like "how come nobody approaches me" or "what can I do to get guys' attention". It's also why women insist on guys' approaching; when he does it, she gets her emotional need satisfied.
As a man, I have always needed attention from women, and I think both men and women want about the same amount of attention. Women post more selfies on social media because they know that gets a man's attention, while men show off their cars, their muscles, their sports skills, their humour, because that's what gets some women's attention. The difference is that a woman gets that attention instantly, while the man has to approach the woman, and if he has the qualities mentioned above, he is more likely to get attention.
Cars, muscles, sports and humour are also looks, impressions, perceptions. How many women would be attracted to some men if they would try to get to know them, instead of excluding them because they don't appear to possess those qualities... how many men would be fulfilled and happy in a relationship with women who are not conventionally beautiful if they would not exclude them...
Nah that's some false idea and I don't know where you get it from. Cars? Muscles? 😂 Pics and looks is what women also find attractive initially. Men just don't go around advertising themselves online and about nearly as often as women do. I'm guessing many men think women are less visual than they actually are (due to their lies).
Gaining attention serves self-evaluation. This is easier for girls in internet, you post a pic in underwear and you get it. Practically null effort job. Boys crave for attention as well, but they do it while being best ball player, best talker, having always presentable girls around him... It's more difficult to farm attention with those thing online for boys. That's why there is a disproportion among attention seeking boy and girls in social media.
All love it. They just grabbed it as their right and decided they will receive it and men must suffer and give it. Girls songs are about how much theybare enjoying, boy songs are about how much they are suffering. Can you reply to this so I can check if GAG silently blocked me? thanks
Unlike men, most women don't have much stuff going on with their lives. On average, they don't pursue higher careers or have different hobbies. In families, women's children get ignored while growing up, plus they see that their mothers have to deal with so much after marriage, where husbands are always busy working outside and they have to deal with much stuff with less fun. So seeking attention is mosts primary objective while they can. That's why almost whole Instagram, Snapchat, and TikTok videos are made by women. It makes them feel validated and wanted which they know will perish soon as they don't have any real talent.
That's not true. It's just something that many women do that many men don't: advertise themselves online and about. It's just the system of the world. Everything is nurture. Could've been vice versa lol.
I was on holiday for a few weeks (from work) and when i came back, this woman ran right up to me and asked why I didn't say anything to her on Friday. A Friday that was 3 weeks ago? Apparently I was so excited about my time off I walked right by her without noticing. Then a bunch of other guys said she'd been talking about it to them. The girl is gorgeous and voluptuous... but my time off is more important. I'm not one to give women attention. I've had some block my path, 'accidentally' run into me, shout at me in frustration etc.
Attention to women, is what sex is to men... in a sense.
it’s just that females need it wayy more. The evolutionary reason for this is that females need attention from males in order to survive. Females who craved attention from males were more likely to be protected by them AND more likely to reproduce. Females who didn’t want male attention tended to be unprotected and less likely to reproduce.
don’t listen to the guy who said it’s fatherlessness that cause women to crave attention. There are PLENTY of women who grew up with a father and still crave attention. When I was younger , I thrived off of attention. Including many of my friends. It’s a very common thing
Women who crave attention tend to be the younger , immature girls. The need for attention tends to fade as one matures.
Genuine positive attention makes anybody feel good. However men don’t need it (nor expect it) to survive in this world. To us respect is what matters.
Anyway I just wish women can expecting to get “selective” attention from men they like vs ones they don’t especially when they dress a certain way. I don’t like cat callers and creeps anymore than they do. It’s gross. However you can’t magically filter that out no matter how much you complain about it. A quit calling it part of “patriarchy”. The vast majority of guys hate that bullshit too.
Also by the way I have gotten unwanted attention before from very unattractive women (sometimes aggressively). This included women 20+ years my senior and/or women who weigh more than i do. In these scenarios these women get more leeway to do this crap just because they are women. I made me very uncomfortable but I am not losing sleep over it.
Same reason why men love sex so much to the point it is the norm to be an easy manhoe. You guys would fuck so many women if you had the opportunity. (I made a poll that confirm my point At least we ain't cheap and fuck every hole that move. I would prefere a man who loves attention over sex. All of the guy problems would be solved if guys were not so desperate for sex. This is why i am fascinated by virgin men and worship (lol) virgin men or men with low bodycount because they have great self-control.
I also dont understand why none of you guys mind female simps aka fake female red pilled girls who talk shit about women. I get much when i talk shit about women or act like a cuntservative ultra submissive woman on gag by guy since i tried it but none of you manhoes have a problem with it since it fits your agenda
Nah you're triggered by the question. Just admit that women love attention because they are obsessed with male validation. And you know what that means: women love sex just like men.
Just admit you are manh.. you are the triggered one. If the genders were reversed, you would call the asker a feminazi. I also did not say that women dont love attention. Everyone loves attention to an extent. Women also have sex for men, otherwise fake orgasms would not be a thing but i blame women for it
I may unnecassarily overreact but my points are valid. I can't stand the hypocrisy. Look at the other replies. People just want to make rant and trashtalk women
can't you read? I said there are probably women who loves attention. I personally think only incesure women with no selfrespect is obsessed with male validation. I dont need validation by used up mamhoes. The only male validation i would accept is from my partner. Why tf would you need to get attention by other men. This is cheating.
Women love sex but not as much as men. Too many women only have sex for men but dont talk about their needs but it is not man's fault and it is her fault for not saying what she likes
As i said it is ok to like attention by YOUR partner. I would love the attention from my partner but i would be scared if random stranger men give me attention
If we're talking about intercourse, than yes that may make sense about men wanting it more. But if we're talking about sex drive/craving intimacy, then there are no gender differences. Also, I'd like to add that both men and women want attention from the other because they both desire one other equally. The difference? One of them gets much more attention from the other. And we all know which one that is and why 😂. Also, one of them tends to lie a lot more regarding desiring the other. And we all know which one that is as well.
Women love sex but not as much as men? What? lol Monhoes? bla bla bla I don't have a high body count, maybe you were hurt and now every man is a manhoe?
@Yourfriend2021 nevermind her bro she's like part of a small minority lying about that. I do wish her the best though. She actually believe women have it worse than men lol.
Lol I made a fucking poll which proves my points. Your nature is whorish. It is biological. Males want to spread their seed and females want to choose the best one for their future off off-springs
Fuck off weirdos. Go fucking learn to read. I am done repeating myself for you piece of shits. If you idiots continue trashtalking me i will block you. Also nice shaming tactics. If women said who hurt you, you all would say we are feminazis. I have seen that a lot on gag lool Again idiots men love sex more than women. I made a poll as a said. It is ok if you ain't a manhoe. This was not the point. Yes women love sex too but this was not the point. You guys dont understand it. I am happy majority of men ain't like you
Read my other posts under my first post too. I overreact in my first post. Anyway if a female asker made a similar question about men, she would be stoned. So i dont understand why you all so triggered by my first post when it is even too nice when you compare it with other posts by red pill incels under gender related questions. Go waste their time and spam them, if you ain't hypocritical
I constantly hear about boyfriends or husbands being annoyed and complaining about their their girlfriends or wives wanting too much sex to their liking. Care to explain why?
I can tell the same thing about you. I dont want a hug from a trash. So dont be disgusting, bitter and triggered. Just let me alone or i will block you. So please go away. Love you too❤🚮
Narcissism plain and simple. Women have tremendous ego's. It begins in puberty. Guys start to notice their development when the hormones start flowing and from then on it's a dependent addiction with them. This is why you see women get depressed and start slummingand sleeping around when they're attention starved. They're a junkie at that point looking for their attention fix.
"This is why you see women get depressed and start slummingand sleeping around when they're attention starved. They're a junkie at that point looking for their attention fix." - Pinpoint accuracy.
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Some women get mad about this because they think the fact that they're women entitles them to attention from guys. And there is enough thirsty guys that will oblige them lol. But you're not supposed this out to them, That's why.
In my observation, it seems to simply be a biological mechanism hardwired in women. I really am unsure why - I could guess and say it has something to do with some primal "worth" meter but I can say that it is very observable and cannot be denied that it exists.
Why women love attention is the same reason why people have social media. Peer validation and social acceptance aren't just a want. Unlike other animals, humans are much more dependent on each other for much longer. Humans can't acquire food by themselves until they're a teenager with a job. But even through the history of the human species we can't even run or get away from predators for years after being born. This is why social acceptance is a biological imperative for our species. I think girls skinning it on Instagram is a cultural thing and I'm not a fan of it. If a girl I'm with has half naked pics on any internet platform I will never consider a future with that person. Ever
You mean why do people? I just got invited to a post today where the guy was shirtless asking women how he looked (want the first time been invited to a pic like that either... Was that not attention seeking? And men sending dick pics, is that not attention seeking🤔 Not all people like, are comfortable with or seek out attention, and those that do, it's not just females...
I agree more and more women seem to seek attention especially internet attention, but so are men.. The thing is sometimes some men are accusing a woman of seeking attention even when she's really not
If a woman wears make up, it's automatically assumed by some she's doing it to attract men, if she dresses nice, same... There is a difference between women getting attention and seeking it
Just because that's your assumption, that doesn't make it fact... Yes some women do it for attention, just like guys do, and some don't just like some guys don't
Why do men complain about women wanting attention when they're the ones breaking their necks to give it to them?
Everyone on this earth wants to be seen and appreciated at some point. Do some people go overboard with that need to have the attention on them? Sure they do. But I wouldn't say that it's every woman. Probably not even most. I'm not a person that enjoys attention being on me. I'd say that that was case about 90% of the time because again, I'm human lol.
"Why do men complain about women wanting attention when they're the ones breaking their necks to give it to them?"
Very well said! This is the issue with men nowadays. They are so desperate for female validation due to being so sex-deprived, that they move mountains just to get a recognition, let alone intimacy. This is why simp-shaming for example is very much needed.
@Asad1ONE1 It's both actually. A man who gets no female attention is a man who is sex-deprived. He got so much sexual tension that he needs releasing. So he becomes desperate and you see him either pay a prostitute, watch porn or pay for an onlyfans while he does his best to simp/white knight into the graces of women
Because they want us so much. Duh 🙄. The only issue is that many don't admit why. It's a power game for them (manipulation). And they actually believe they're helping their case by lying. Instead, they're doing just the opposite. It's no wonder why many men don't give women the time of day (or second). How's that turning out for them? I feel bad for the good, honest women.
Men are not generally broadcasting themselves on social media with tons of selfies to get attention. And men don't complain about what kind of attention they do get. So I think it's more of a woman thing, yeah.
They're insecure and constantly ask stupid questions like if their friend is hot etc. Easiest way to get rid of a girl is to say yes. Lol You won't see her again.
I love attention. Good attention though. I don’t like being harassed lol. Why do I love it? I don’t know. It makes me feel good. I’m wired this way. If I’m in a relationship though attention from my partner alone is more than enough.
