The more I care about them, the less they care about me. Why do some women act like this?

[Anonymous]

I have experienced this with 2 women. The more I treat them like they matter, the less they want me around. It bothers the shit out of me.

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+1 y

I'm not talking about a woman I just met. I'm too old for games. Either we care about each other or we don't

[Anonymous]

In my experience, all women want some form of drama in their life.

A very successful writer once defined drama as when anticipation and uncertainty intersect.

Girls live for the anticipation of (different for every girl) and the uncertainty of whether or not you're gonna facilitate it.

They want to feel like they have to do something other than exist to make you happy because they are crazy and think the world is a doll house.

You gotta learn to play the game to break the rules and one of the unbreakable ones with relationships is that there's two of you and if you act like there isn't, someone's being taken advantage of.

[hahahmm]

The problem is that women by nature like to test & probe a guy for weaknesses. So a lot of the time she may give you the impression that she wants something but actually it's a test to see if you're worthy of respect... worthy of being followed. Worthy of being trusted. She might not even always be conscious of it being a test but from a male pov it is 100% a test. So you have to know who you are with certainty and be unafraid of taking hits for following your core beliefs. Also don't make your life all about a woman! Check out my MyTakes if you want more thoughts form a traditional POV.

[Having_hope]

This is the same what I do experience. Its not a gender based, I would say... Everytime I do care and love, I notice that a guy see me as an option, text me only when they're not around friends and family. Pfff this hurts like crap. They're all playing mindgames.

[Asker]

Yeah I don't have time for games, getting too old for that shit. If I'm not the person they want caring about them that much, they should just leave me alone or tell me to leave them alone.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats how anyone afraid of commitment reacts

[DizzyDesii]

Im referring to them not you

[Asker]

That's what I was thinking

[DizzyDesii]

Yea its very common. 2021 was the last time i’d go for someone who didn't like me as equally. Fck wastin time

[sheikalana]

Not all women act like that. But in my case when I'm not too sure about a guy and he cares too much it's kind of a turn off for me giving too much attention seems a bit awkward to me it feels like the guy is trying too hard and I don't like it.

[rabbitzzz]

Thats why they made those games, but playing it also hard and goes against character. Eventually you either really don't care or you do. Weird way God created psychology.

[On_cloud_wine]

Why do you think they do it?

[Asker]

Because their parents never really gave a shit about them and then when somebody does, they don't know how to deal with it

[On_cloud_wine]

That’s one good reason.. though I heard girls who didn’t really have a father figure growing up are more attracted to a man who’s more like a father figure to them

[Ryfyle]

Correct, women love to be treated like shit constantly, they love to be the victim.

[Chthou95]

Don't play those games. Women aren't worth the trouble or effort

[RedStiletto88]

Ugh you are probably trying too hard and it gives off desperate vibes which is a HUGE turn off!!

[Asker]

I am not taking about women I just want to fuck, just met, or don't know very well.

[Asker]

I don't have time for games, getting too old for that shit. If I'm not the person they want caring about them that much, they should just leave me alone or tell me to leave them alone.

[midnightmoon05]

If they are not interested in you that way. You have to block them and move on. Nice guy in this situation will get use.

[DCooper]

Because they don't see you as a challenge.

[HeartFullOfGlue]

How do you show that you care for them?

[Asker]

Treat them like they really matter, treat them like I love them, do everything to make their life easier or happier

[HeartFullOfGlue]

And what are you doing to show this?

[Asker]

What am I doing to show this? Nothing now, but I did everything a guy that loves them should. When somebody thinks there are better options, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if they are unwilling to accept or give love.

[HeartFullOfGlue]

No, what exactly did you do to show that you cared. I need specifics.

[Asker]

Why? It doesn't matter. I'm done with them. It would be a huge list

[HeartFullOfGlue]

So I can say why she acted like that. You might have been over bearing or overwhelming her.

[HeartFullOfGlue]

Then cut the list short