I’m stuck in a weird best-friend zone after having “slept with her” and being rejected twice. How can I get her to be my girlfriend?

[pnkpune]

So I, P (22M) and D (22F) study together. At first, I didn’t have much interest in her but we started hanging out 1on1 and I soon caught feelings for her. We would see each other every single week and I even flirted with her a lot. We would go on long walks. She always said yes to the plans that I made so I took it as a sign of interest. Soon on my birthday I invited her to my house alone for dinner, we even danced drunk together. We even went to a tower to watch the sunset. For me it was very obvious that she liked me, I had no reason to think no. I couldn’t keep the feelings to myself and I asked her out. She rejected me saying that she’s not ready for a relationship and I respected her choice. Later, I went to her place for dinner and after getting drunk, we slept together. In the morning we passionately kissed for a couple of hours and I thought we were surely together now. Later, she asked me what I wanted, I wanted to be with her. She took time to think and said no. We agreed to be friends but this time she was acting extremely distant. Things got weird and we didn’t talk for weeks. I texted her and asked her to meet. She invited me for dinner. I again started catching feelings for her. Since we were super busy I asked her to come over for dinner every Sunday after her work to relax but she flaked constantly 3 times giving silly reasons. I had started caring too much. So I told her that we can never be just friends and I need to cut contact with her. She understood it and said I was her best friend (which she had said many times). She said best of luck to me and that she’d always be there to listen to me. I kept silent for a month and then texted her that I’ve moved on and if she wants to still talk, we could. Yesterday, she invited me over for dinner and we had a great time. This time I stopped treating her specially. We decided to do something every weekend like day trips or dinner. We get along so well. How do I make her my girlfriend?

[Guy13]

Slept together and not boyfriend most likely means something about sex with you was unsatisfactory. If so, I’m surprised she friend zones you…must trying to be nice.

[pnkpune]

Nope, the sex was awesome. It has nothing to do with that.

[boggboss]

This is so clearly not going to happen but not only that u have told her u have moved on when u clearly have not you are the fool here

[pnkpune]

I felt like I had moved on but later realised no. I wasn't lying at that moment. But I think you are right. Thanks.

[boggboss]

It seems pretty obvious you are not capable of being friends with someone u like or attracted to because u can't separate the difference

[Xoxocutekitty]

'she's not ready for a relationship and I respected her choice'

- clearly not, because you're asking the internet how to make her your girlfriend.

[pnkpune]

Respecting someones choice is accepting their decision, it doesn't automatically kill your desire. by the way, we slept together after that.

[slatyb]

You don’t. Keep seeing her if you enjoy it. Date other women too.

[Avicenna]

It’s not going to happen with her. I’d meet other women.

[pnkpune]

I'm trying on the side.

[CallmeTheKnight]

She doesn't want you, just face it.
You're insane if you think you can make someone to fall in love with you.

[driven159]

Why bother if you were not good enough then why would you be now don't waste your time