Girls, Lets be real here do muscular guys get more girls?

[Anonymous]

I'm a firm believer now that woman definitely go to muscular men over any other type of man

[AmandaYVR]

Muscles are attractive. Muscular, good looking men will get attention and interest.

But muscles alone are not enough for many girls. So it's an advantage, but doesn't guarantee compatibility or connection. A guy with muscles and character is the holy grail.

[Asker]

that does not give me hope xD.

[AmandaYVR]

You want hope? Then begin your query with some, or at least more of an open mind. Actually, forget that. Learn to rephrase the negativity in your head, and before you post on here. You might be surprised how this conscious effort can influence the outcome of the feedback, and help, you receive.

Starting with "Let's be real..." and "I'm a firm believer now that..." puts us in a position of either just agreeing with you, or arguing with you that you're wrong and trying to convince you that there are different opinions in the world. It's just not... enticing, you know? How many angry blues are there on here? Plenty. It's made the pinks, who already insecure and scared to express themselves, even more reticent to engage because they don't like arguing with angry guys. But if you want encouragement, and support, from the pinks especially, you have to learn to open up a bit and welcome some positivity. (Also, I don't like replying to anons. I put no or little effort in on most of those, because they so often are crickets, or angry, or rude, in response.)

So, maybe I should have picked up on what was going on with you and be even more sensitive. I wasn't inspired to, honestly, by your phrasing, but I'm getting a feel for you now, so I'll try again.

Muscles don't mean fuck all to some people, especially girls. To some, their equate to a hell of a lot of hard work, vanity, a guy being agro/alpha... stuff like that. Maybe this is partly why some girls aren't into them. I think another integral reason is that it intimidates them, and even if the guys seems nice, like he might be none of those things except into working out, she doesn't even really try to get to know him because she thinks it's too much pressure to be the female equivalent of him, and it makes her feel insecure about herself, like she won't be worthy; he won't like her.

[AmandaYVR]

There are guys who work out for reasons that have little to do with 'getting girls' (though "let's be real..." it's nice to be noticed, not invisible, sometimes. It's a way for men to feel strong, capable, less vulnerable out on the streets (guys are actually attacked more than women are, but you don't hear about this as often, as it's so 'the norm.') It's a way to maintain equilibrium, burn off angst, bring some order and structure to what can be a chaotic life and world. Despite some of the common tropes and stereotypes, not all guys spends hours idolizing themselves in mirrors, and post thousands of photos of them in their gym, or wherever they work out. It's just something they feel relaxed, and in their element, doing.

But... some girls don't think of it like this. And so for the reasons I've listed, and probably a few more I didn't, muscles don't matter to everyone (or they don't want to work for them; or they don't understand what they mean to different people), and so guess what? There are girls out there for guys like you. I'm not one of these people who believes everyone has 'the one', this magical second half, and you just have to find them, or let some higher power work their magic for you. No, I'm more about action, free will, effort, and the like. It sucks for you guys that we all still live in a world where the bulk of girls are refusing to make a first move (even though they actually ideally would like to be in an ideal relationships - notice my wording there), so sorry my friend, but it's going to be up to you to make the first approach. Find a girl who isn't that fit, maybe she's chowing down on something really tasty or sweet and is really enjoying that. She'd like a guy who says, "Hey, you know what we should go get right now?" Enthusiasm, positivity, hopefulness... they all count too. Quite often, more than muscles do.

[Asker]

ya know that was a awesome answer and i really appreciate your feedback, and i just want to say i was just originally trying to be a little funny ya know, but that didn't go as planned lol.

[AmandaYVR]

You're welcome.
Yeah, humour often doesn't translate. You have to make it more obvious.

[Asker]

i suppose so lol

[ZS007]

I don't know I also firmly believe that guys prefer thin women. sucks for both of us I guess 🤣

[Asker]

its not like that for all men i like girls of any size personally speaking if we connect we just do ya know lol

[Nikki1989]

Muscles do nothing for me. 😉

[Asker]

dont do that dont give me hope xD