What do you think is the worst/hardest thing about being a man and what do you think is the worst/hardest thing about being a woman?

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SomeGuyCalledTom · Accepted Answer

For working class men, the hardest thing is working themselves half to death for 50-60 years straight with no support system if they ever stumble or make even one bad decision.

For middle class men, the hardest thing is feeling trapped in the unsatisfying monotony of white-collar existence, wandering why life isn't "better" when they're already somewhat successful.

For upper class men, the hardest thing is constant paranoia of swimming with sharks who will gladly devour them at the first opportunity, and thus never fully knowing who's to be trusted. I know of multi millionaires who are incredibly secretive about their wealth because of how it attracts parasites from miles around.

Women of different 'classes' may experience similar struggles if they're part of the full time work force, but all of that for women is (in my opinion) secondary to the more universal constraints of their own biology. Periods, childbirth, menopause, perimenopause, post-menopause, and the constant emotional ups and downs that come with a fundamentally more emotional brain wiring (on average) are all constant influences in women's day to day lives, even affecting bigger picture life issues (like "do I abandon career to be there for my kids full-time?").

I think the aforementioned class struggles are felt more intrinsically by men, since thousands of years of social conditioning and biological priming has given us the de facto expectation of being the" alpha provider", the man who can go into a dragon's lair, kill the lion bare-handed, and then return to share the dragon's gold with the whole village. Women can experience those struggles too, of course, but they're less tied in with a woman's 'core identity'. When a woman fails at work, she says "well, that failed". When a man fails at work, he says "well, I failed", and he gets no sympathy or support to indicate otherwise.

But the flipside is that men's biology is more "even-heeled", we have less extreme ups and downs inside our own body and psyche, it's why men can stay friends with other men even after years of not talking, we just pick things up where they left off. Women "grow up" a lot faster biologically and emotionally, so a woman seeing an old high school friend might consider one another as totally unrecognisable. So in summation women feel more ups and downs in their internal experience (biology, hormones, pregnancy, fertility changes, etc) , and men feel more ups and downs in their external experience (their reputation amongst other men, especially colleagues and bosses; the impact that failure can have on a man's self-concept; the constant worry that they're "not good enough" to be worthy of a woman's love and lust, which itself may be tied to external factors that either reinforce or undermine a "successful" self-image)

dogsteeves · Accepted Answer

For me as a guy I hate it

I hate trying to live upto the standers that

I must be tough
Play sports
Never showed any emotions expecially never cry
I would rather wear a dress then a suit and tie to Fancy outcome but I am worried about what people would say
I need to keep my hair short people say
Always worried about saying stuff online because I will get called a mysogist pig for simple jokes
Begin the one to take action
Either be the one that looks for the girl to date since your told unless you're hunting for your girlfriend you'll be single for ever as girls don't look for boyfriend it your job to look for them
I'm always nervous to ask I walk down the mall and I am 26-27 year old man and I can't easily tell if a woman is 17-30 some times and it would be weird for society to date a -17 below girl as almost 27 year old

For women
I know life isn't greener for you but I still wish I was one
You get periods
Fear of pregnancy
Never seen as tough
Looked down upon men all the time
Sexualized at all times
Unexpected beauty standers (I believe all women are beautiful at all time no matter how you look)
Society standards for women are just as bad as men
Example (work at home mom, clean, cook, take care of the kids)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The hardest thing for men I feel like is holding their emotions in. They are used to it since they've been forced and raised to do it from a very young age. I know bottling up your emotions leads to depression and all kinds of mental disorders. I feel really bad for them and I don't agree with it. When I have kids in the future, I am going to raise my son to feel his emotions and not to shut them away. That's really messed up you guys have every right to feel your emotions and show them if you want to. I can't even imagine how hard that is.

On a side note related to emotions. I like writing. Whenever I create a male character in my story, I try to make the male character as realistic as possible. Sometimes I get hung up on the male character showing sadness and crying. I am so used to being free as a female with emotions that I don't really know how a guy would act in certain situations.

Anyway, for women. This is just me personally, I struggle with this. I don't want to be in a relationship/marriage with a man who has these strict views on how I am supposed act in the relationship and what I am supposed to do. I don know if any other women fear this. Especially if the guy is sexist.

I wasn't really raised in a healthy environment. My dad is a misogynist and I remember him saying to me that I'll end up with an abusive husband and that I'd deserve it since I don't want to cook or do womanly things. That really scared me.

I don't want to be in a relationship where I am acting perfect and treating my boyfriend/husband like a king and I'm waiting hand and foot on him while he expects it, takes it for granted, doesn't respect me, treats me poorly, abuses me. I'm afraid.

If I am in a relationship of course I'll show him I love him and do nice things and stuff. But I don't want to be this slave like I'm less just because I'm a woman and I'm obviously below the man. I want to be equal to my husband and be treated with respect.

I don't know my dad raised me like that and I'm scared that a good majority of men are like that/expect that/demand it. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than to be in a relationship like that.

LovingLoverReturned · Accepted Answer

Processes the female body is biologically subject to

Hm I am not sure for men because I'm not a man but I'd take a guess and say putting society's perception where Peter has to pay for Paul.

What women can say and it is "usually" taken as harmless joke compared to what a man can say and it gives people suspicion. In this joke. YouTube video title: women can make anything an insult.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/t_YyrMV7SuE

FilmGuy93 · Answer

For a man: the complete lack of support in any and every area of life.

For a woman: realizing that you can work your ass off to create a name and life for yourself in the world, but no one will give a shit unless you're tied to a successful man.

HorggleThorp · Answer

This is a good question, and I probably don’t have a good answer but, as a woman, and with crime on the rise, I must fear going out in public.

My boyfriend on the other hand looks visibly scary and people are frightened when they see him. He’s pretty much a lot safer than me, seeing that most rape victims are women. Most sex trafficking victims are women. Most sexual assault victims are going to also be women.

I’m scared to go out in public because of crime. This is the fault of the Democrats repealing laws like three strikes and other anti-crime laws. They SAY they care about women’s rights, but on the same token, they’re letting rapists out of prison. Hmm… I think the modern women’s rights movement has ulterior motives.

Lionman95 · Answer

For me the worst thing about being a guy quickly we're turned on by a woman that is dressed sexy. It's hard thing to not look at woman in hotpants or mini skirts no matter what.

Another hard thing is that being a guy can often mean you're part of the anti- social sex because guys often don't help each other or they aren't even interested in doing so. Some guys stay quiet even if they could help because they prefer to keep their knowledge for themselves.

I would say the biggest problems women face is constant judgement and the need to defend themselves for what ever they do, wear and how they live way more than guys need.

athelete_7 · Answer

Hardest part being a man

1. U are loved only when u provide
2. Women can cheat and sue and still end up taking ur property via divorce.
3 . U need to be tall enough at times
4 . U dont have many female freinds always talking to u
5 . Even if u talk a lady in a freindly manner they might doubt u
6 . Lack of options unless ur super wealthy and super handsome

Hardest part about being women

1 . Getting pregnant
2. Chosing right partner that doesn't love u for ur body
3. Finding genuine guys that won't cheat and leave u will still take care of children
4. in some areas finding people that support ur dream
5 . Periods ( guys would cry to go to gym if they had periods every month )
6. Being juged. ( women are always scared of being juged in that fear they sometimes even lie )

humanearth · Answer

Worst thing about Being a man (even though its not that bad), men are not able to wear anything without being judged.

Men wear anything that don't fit in the social normal, are judged

But women can wear anything (even mens clothing) and its cool, sexy and trendy.

My idea for a woman would be. That they have to put up with sick and twisted bastards when online or in person. Ask any female on gag. They will tell you that their inbox is full of sickos.

Like today I read a ladies post about this one sick fucker said he would track her down and fuck her

Heolurt · Answer

Having no kind of support or resources at all except being told to man up. Being told by a therapist the reason men are more likely to be put on waiting lists for therapy is because compared to females men aren't seen as much of a threat to themselves which is stupid because men have a higher rate of suicide than females.

There is just no kind of help out there for us men, we start our own support and females come along and protest against and force us out of our safe places.

Being born and told your a monster, you're evil, you will rape females and kids because of your gender.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Worst thing about being a man is having to deal with women acting insane 99% of the time. I seriously just don't deal with them when they have a tantrum just tell them stfu or go away depending on the circumstances.

Worst thing about being a woman is probably being born overly emotional and unable to have control of themselves and how they are utterly incompetent yet feel the need to shout from the mountain tops how strong and independent they are and then cry and scream they need a man to get them down off of the mountaintop. Lmao.

marshmallowcream · Answer

The expectations that society has of you : I. e having to cook , clean , raise/look after children and just to top things up the unrealistic standards of beauty , being expected to look good and we’ll put together all the time. I feel like it’s just an overall expectation for you to be this extraordinary human being (almost perfect)

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Hardest thing about being a guy is probably that you have to earn respect or people will not care about you and hardest part about being a woman is that after you have kids, your invisible to good men so you have to be extremely selective about who you choose. I know women who date terrible people because they are older and assume decent guys are all gone, one such woman who is a mother of a friend is scared her husband will kill her for money.

Prettysammie · Answer

I think the hardest thing for men is that they are expected to put others above themselves. Men are expected to be selfless, and brave and willing to suffer hardship and horror. To say no to that is to be a coward or less than a man. And they aren’t allowed to express their emotions and fears. These poor, brave boys who are selfless and bold. Each one a hero suffering in stoic silence. It makes me want to cry.

goebenbreslau · Answer

i have to be unconditionally gentle with women.
some girls make me feel like i'm a rapist trying to rape them when i'm showing interest in them.
i have to serve in the army.
if i earn little money, they consider me "less male".
it's a problem even when i grow out my hair. my father bullies me a lot and forces me to cut my hair.

these are just a few of the hundreds of discriminations i have experienced as a man in my country.

Anonymous · Answer

For men:

probably being expected to make tons of money, and height.

for women:

pressurized to look good because of really high beauty standards for women. being a below average looking woman is way worse than being a below average looking man.

DesiUwU · Answer

periods, being second guessed by men and mansplained to, being told by other women that i'm not "feminine" enough

alphabetacharlie123 · Answer

I think the worst of being a man is that inherently you feel like you have to sacrifice yourself for the sake of that which you love. I think the worst thing about being a woman is being constantly micro-judged by anyone around in your life, people making presumptions and what not just cuz you’re pretty or what not.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Worst thing about being a man? You have no intrinsic value to 99% of people outside of what you can provide them financially.

Toughest part about being a woman? Being able to live without sane boundaries.

HaveNoName · Answer

Hardest thing for man? To be in a monogamous marriage and stay that way and not to fall in any flirtatious trap elsewhere and to control your eyes from staring at any women exposing their body.

Midgetmcwidget · Answer

No idea they are soo nice, (apart from the nasty ones ofcourse)

TroyDT2 · Answer

About being a man: nothing About being a woman: periods and all that go with those, giving birth, getting hit on by every doofus out there, and more.

Agape93 · Answer

25% of women will be raped at least once in their life.

JustiReno · Answer

I love being a man those no bad parts sure life is hard for everyone at times but rather be man 10/10

JSmuve · Answer

The hardest part about being a man is going through life without the type of support you need.

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

dating, relationships, attraction has always required more of men than it has of women, also, men get less sympathy from people and society than women do

grega239 · Answer

I guess for men its the fact that you're on your own but thats also good in a sense. For women. Physically weaker i guess.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Being horny 24/7 and being judged for it for a man. For a woman, having little to no control over emotions and response to them due to hormones.

Chthou95 · Answer

As a man, it's having to build value to be successful in society can't think of anything that's hard for women in western society

OddBeMe · Answer

Listening to chicks tell me how hard it is being a chick.

Idiotg · Answer

Mem have it easier but women need to make them Not. Talking about tits ass lying about porn we should Do the same

Anonymous · Answer

The worst thing about being a man is the lack of affection and compliments.  For women, I would think being physically weaker.

RandomGuy1032 · Answer

For men its being horny. All men struggle with that. Women suffer from being illogical.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Not being able to get a girlfriend.

Lakeshow12 · Answer

Dealing with rejection

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