If I was toxic online with other guys.. but now aware of it, but want something serious... to be open about it with person who I will date or not?

[sthjftg]

I had just situations online, nothing in real life

[SteveSmith1985]

I think it's important to be honest with this once you find someone AND it looks like it might be developing into something serious.

In other words, this should not be 'a secret' you never tell your boyfriend. If you're serious about someone, and they seem serious about you, then yes, tell them about this. It's important to be open and honest with your partner about who you are (even the not-so-pretty parts of the past).

But you definitely don't need to tell a guy about this when you first start talking, or on a first-date or anything.

This is part of the "personal stuff you only tell people you trust". So as you become serious with a specific guy, and you're starting to learn to trust each other as you become closer... this is just one of those things you tell him about as a part of that process.

Let's say, for example, that you had a really horrible childhood full of abuse and neglect. You aren't going to tell every guy about it right away... because that's personal and private, and you'd need to trust someone before being comfortable telling a guy about that. Same sorta thing here. Don't hide it. But until you trust someone, there is no need for you to 'disclose' this.

Good for you for trying to 'turn-over-a-new-leaf'. I wish you all the best.

[sthjftg]

Thank you so much for this long answer and help... that very kind

[SteveSmith1985]

Oh you're very welcome!

[HighValue]

It is very important to be honest with a person you are in a relationship with. Wouldn't you want your partner to be honest with you?

[Avcfhcic]

Well what do you mean by toxic to them online?

[sthjftg]

Verbal abusing, in that way toxic.. I think

[Avcfhcic]

To guys on dating apps or when talking to them?
And why did you do it?

[sthjftg]

All , in long or short conversations I should say, unfortunately... and I did because I was shitty, and because I had shitty life I pour all stress and negative feelings on them and secondly because I felt that they lie to me or just didn't pay attention on what matter for me...

[Avcfhcic]

The past is the past, would you tell a partner you had a guy with a 9 inch dick, no.
If you have changed for the better, then why bring up a fragile past

[sthjftg]

I mean , I will better say.. for him better, but I don't want he leave me

[Avcfhcic]

If it were me, I'd care most about the girl I'm talking too, not the girl that was there years ago