Why does she talk with everyone except me?

[nickaboy]

I got a pretty cute co-worker I am allready working on leaving my current job. So I try to talk to her but she won't even say HI back. Just want to get to know her on the same level i know my other co- workers or make a friend but somehow saying hi back is too much too ask for

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry that this is happening to you. It's hard making friends and finding people to date. Don't let her behavior discourage you. Its just a sign that you guys aren't meant to be.

You shouldn't force something if it's not there personality wise even if she is attractive. You shouldn't waste your nice personality on someone who disregards you.

Like why be with someone who's hot but their personality is insufferable? Just seems more trouble than it's worth. You could find someone better, someone who's cute and wants to talk to you.

Personally, this is something I do at work. I keep to myself, I don't talk to anyone, and I just work. That's probably what she's doing, maybe?

Have you seen her talk to other co-workers? Does she mainly keep to herself? She's probably trying to keep it professional.

Sadly, not everyone is looking to make a friend. Also whenever you get too comfortable and friendly with coworkers usually drama ensues depending on who you are interacting with.

I don't think she's trying to be aberrant with her behavior. I think she is protecting herself, she doesn't want to get close to anyone because of past trauma.

If she doesn't want to be your friend and/or get to know you better, you have to respect that. Stay clear of her and let her be. You'll find someone else who interests you more and who's more what you are looking for. Don't settle for her.

[nickaboy]

Yesterday I deleted all dating apps for getting daily push notifications without ever matching with someone and its not about dating here I was Just curious why someone would act like that. I Think you answered the question I was trying to ask.

and for me its about finding a friend to hang out with asswell my only real friend has his own business and a girlfriend so his time is very limited.
So I barely go out.

And I tought maybe If I can find a way to get her to talk to me not even with any special intention. I might make a friend and maybe it will help me talk to other People when in the gym or going out. It is more about the experience of social skill I lack to be trained for me.

All other stuff would've been a bonus.
The fact it irritates me she act like this is cause in my school days one girl started this and no girl talked to me anymore till the end of my school days including college. I know its not school now but I Just want to know why it started one day

[Opinion Owner]

So from what I am understanding with what you wrote in your last paragraph, you were treated like a pariah at school? None of the girls talked to you and they would avoid you? At this job which you are leaving soon, you noticed this girl has been treating the same like how you used to get treated back in your school days? It was like PTSD for you. Am I correct?

[nickaboy]

Yeah kinda I don't wanna become a pariah again. I 'm trying to leave this job if it's gonna happen is not yet decided as I can't hire myself sadly.
I also got bullied a lot in school wich went hand in hand with being avoided by the females.

But it's from day one. She started working here.

[Opinion Owner]

She sounds like a bitch to be honest. She doesn't sound like a good person. She needs to work on her personality, that's awful. I'm sorry you had to come across someone like her. But know that none of this is your fault. Don't blame yourself! You are a kind person, a good man and you bestowed your kind-heart on someone that didn't deserve it. It happens to the best of us but now you know that she's poison. It's a good thing you are leaving your job though, I know you'll find a nice girl. I'll pray for you, if you don't mind me saying that. :) Ignore her, avoid her if you can and don't let this sour interaction ruin your good heart. She can stay being a bitch for no reason and she'll reap what she sowed eventually. Take time into taking care of yourself, do things you enjoy and puts a smile on your face. Let yourself heal from this, you have every right to feel upset. But when you start feeling better, if you can forgive her as well as all the awful girls and people you came across in school if you don't mind me suggesting. I always find forgiving the person/people who have wronged you and wishing them the best helps the pain and helps you move on faster. It makes you into a better person. You can still continue being a good person without feeling like you are holding on to past scars. I hope you don't mind me giving you this advice. I wish you the best! :)

[BubblyPenguin23]

Maybe she just doesn't realize she's doing it or how it's making you feel. If you want to get to know someone you should ask them more questions about their life and try to create an environment they feel comfortable in. As people we all share experiences together but we remember different things. In this instance you're focusing on her not being as welcoming as you'd like her to be. In her experience she might just have a lot going on and forget or not even realize she's doing something that upsets you. Or maybe she just doesn't know you well enough to know what to talk about with you.

I know when I get to work sometimes I'm just so in my head I don't even realize that I haven't said a thing to anybody until it gets weird. Other days I come in ready to work and excited to see my favorite people, I get loud and bubbly. Maybe you should just keep trying. Say hi when she comes in and ask her how her day/weekend/week is going. If you know anything about her life ask her how that specific thing has been recently. The more often you do it, the better the response time will be and the more she'll want to talk to you.

[academictask]

It's difficult to say for certain why someone might avoid talking to a specific person, as there could be a wide range of reasons. It's possible that the person simply doesn't feel comfortable talking to you, for reasons that may or may not be related to you. It's also possible that the person may be going through their own personal issues or have a busy schedule, and simply doesn't have the time or energy to talk to everyone.

If you are concerned about this behavior, it may be worth talking to the person directly and respectfully to see if there is a specific reason why they don't talk to you. It's important to approach the conversation in a calm and non-confrontational way, and to be prepared for any response that you may receive. Ultimately, it's important to remember that people are complex and may have their own reasons for behaving in certain ways, and it's not always possible to fully understand those reasons. It's important to focus on your own behavior and interactions with others, and to be respectful and kind to everyone, even if they don't reciprocate those behaviors.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

If she's downplaying your advances, it's a sign that she's not into you and wants you to back the hell off.
HOWEVER! If she's brushing off a simple, cordial "hello" that isn't romantic in nature, it's a clear sign that she is most definitely into you and has her guard up like Mike Tyson waiting to bite off another ear.

If option B is more akin to your situation, then your best course of action would be to keep talking to her until she drops said guard and reveals the delicate little heart struck butterfly that can't stop thinking about you 😘

Good luck babe!

[OfMiceandMen]

She may have a strict no dating coworkers policy and she looks at you as a potential guy she likes, compared to the other men at the work place. So she is avoiding you so she doesn't take it to the next level, which is become your friend and then know it can't go any further than that.

[Itisme2345]

I tend to do this... and i hate myself for this. It could be because she's painfully shy and an introvert... don't take it personally.

However, I would ask her politely whether you have ever done anything that could've offend her in some way. In that case, I guess she could give you an answer.

[Guy13]

It seems like she don’t like you but you don’t know what the co-worker told her too

[nickaboy]

Exactly what I am thinking is what did they tell her bout me that she don't even wanna greet. But then again the last cute girl. that started here didn't talk to asswell until she got. married. Wich is kinda weird to. me

[Nair447]

If you like her and she doesn't talk to you that much then try to talk with her friend and ask about her and hint her friends that you are interested and then text her that you are into her but be a gentleman ask her if she not intrested then you will not bother again for it because the more you wait to things happen the more it will get messy.

[nickaboy]

@Nairr447 I like how she looks but I'm not at the point of actually liking her yet. I need a Personality to get there thanks to my exes.

I Just think its weird

[Nair447]

You can explore her much even when you ask her for the date if it doesn't work between you two then you can always end it in a good note its not that complicated.

[hornyvirgin]

some people are just rude its really sorry that happened to you
i had somethin similiar happen i just shok it off

[Sasha0426]

She’s not interested. Don’t force it.

[Crankor]

Don't waste your time