She wanted to split a snack... was this just being nice?

[Anonymous]

We were on a break at a conference. She waited until everyone else had left and then asked me (kind of in a whisper) if I wanted to split a danish. My initial thought was that this was a sign she wanted to maybe kick our friendship up a notch and want to ask her out. But now I'm second-guessing. Would you split something with just anyone?

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Since we don't work together but do know a lot of the same people professionally, it's kind of a weird gray area. I did ask her to lunch and it looks like that's going to happen. I guess that's a good sign. But now, do I buy?

[jamesgoldman]

Could be an uptick could just be she wants to not spoil her appetite or avoid the calories of the full danish

Offer to buy her a drink as a way to test the water, see that reaction and work from there

[BoopBoopBeep]

Yes. But that doesn't mean she's not also interested in you.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You plan on buying because you invited her. If it's not a date to her and she seems weird about it (you paying), just nonchalantly say "you can get next time then". My friends and I do that all the time. Then she won't think it is something it doesn't have to be

[Asker]

Thanks, good call on letting her get next time, it's nice to have an adjustment like this in my back pocket if needed.

[Anonymous]

Second guessing would be an understatement.

[Asker]

Do you read her action as obvious, either way? It sounds like you think I should've gone for it then? I'd love your opinion since you're also about her age.