Girls, Ladies, would you drink alone with a guy friend?

[Anonymous]

This is regarding my friend's wife. My friend (the husband) was out of town on a business trip. All people here are in their mid to late 20s including me.

It was week #3 and the wife was feeling very bored. They have a mutual guy friend... so she made plans to meet up with him at a restaurant for dinner and drinks. The mutual guy friend is not super-close just a 'trusted friend' they have in town. He showed up to dinner, with another guy.

Dinner and drinks led to the wife getting semi-drunk. So the two guys offered to drop her at the apartment around 10 pm. At the apartment, she invited them in and they drank several more beers and hard alcohol like whiskey, rum, gin, vodka etc. She had sent a pic of the table while drunk texting and it was filled with bottles.

The 3 of them partied at least till 5 am and she was definitely wasted.

So ladies, how comfortable would you be in this situation?

[Xoxocutekitty]

I had a guy friend like this. We're technically friends but he has since moved across the country so we catch up once a year and it's not particularly frequent.

Do we drink everything under the sun pretty late into the evening? Yup. Does my husband like it? Not really. Have this friend and I ever hooked up? Technically yes when we first met and werent sure if we were gonna date or not.

That said, we mutually agreed that sex together was actually a pretty terrible experience for both of us (he's submissive and like most females I am too). There's no romantic connection since we're super different people but we respect (and roast) each other's viewpoints as friends who have genuinely seen each other go through some shitty years of their early 20s and come out OK.

So for you, I guess the question is how confident are you that your wife sees her guy friend in this way, and how confident would you be that her OG friend, would intervene if the other guy made a pass or instigated something inappropriate.

[Asker]

Thanks for your reply.

I know its confusing... but to be clear, she is not my wife. I guess there are 5 characters in this story: Husband, Wife, Friend A (Trusted friend), Friend B (additional guy), and me.

I was not involved in the story other than the wife texted me about this episode while she was drunk.
Friend A and Friend B partied with the wife.

After pondering on it for a while, my gut feeling says she may have cheated or be in a special relationship with her husband.

Reasons:
1) She loves to party and has dated a few people in the past. I think her dick count may be 5 and only 1 was a serious relationship.
2) Her circle of close female friends have people who have cheated on their husband or boyfriend.
3) She is a very sexual person. Has tried various positions and places. Owns multiple toys. Likes going to sex stores and strip clubs.
4) She is relatively 'open-minded' in the sense that nudity and sex are not a big thing
5) She has done some wild things while being drunk even after being married. She was at a club for one of her friend's bachelorette and was drunk AF. She grinned on some guy for fun. Later, she pulled up her mini skirt and twerked while flashing the entire dance floor. She wasn't wearing underwear. She has a huge ass and its her best feature as per her.
6) She can get very flirty in person. I was in town for a week and hanging out with her. She made a lot of sexual jokes and passes to the point I felt a bit uncomfortable.

I know her husband and he is a somewhat nerdy guy. I would not expect him to be in a relationship with a girl like that unless something changed. I typically don't waste time on such issues, but I wasn't sure if my friend maybe has no clue or I am overthinking this. Wanted to know someone else's (a girl's perspective on it).