Would I be more attractive if I gained weight or worked out?

[Anonymous]

Im 6'1 and 145lbs i dont think im attractive and women dont either they actually treat me quite terribly and nobody believes me when I tell them how people talk to me or laugh at me

[SolsticeSnow]

I think men often jump to 'join a gym' when it comes to looking more attractive but in my opinion it's not really the best first option.

in my opinion a clean shave (unless you're one of those rare men who really suit a beard) a pressed shirt, and a confident but not arrogant demeanour is the best bet.

It's odd that women aren't treating you good as a whole. Is it possible you're giving off some sort of off putting vibe? Because I can't see why you'd struggle with women otherwise.

Are you being too in their space or maybe a bit awkward in conversation?

I suspect there may be an issue with social cues.

Do you have much in the ways of female family members? You'd be surprised the number of dudes that don't really see women as actual people and have no idea how to talk to them lol. It just takes practice.

[Asker]

I dont even talk to women anytime a woman talks to me its indirect like in public if she's with friends or alone as I would be walking past them or if they look at me they say either gross/disgusting or gay/faggot/queer. Thats it, literally. Also im 29 if I shave I look 18 and people tell me to grow facial hair then when I do they suggest I shave. So my face is fuckd lol

[SolsticeSnow]

Odd of women to be so mean. I don't think I've ever heard a grown woman slur someone for looking like they might be gay. Do you live somewhere very anti gay or something?

[Asker]

I don't think so. Like legit onetime while in Safeway (grocery store) i had to get past a woman who had her cart in the middle of the aisle after I said exuse me and she moves her cart after i pass her she says under breath to herself faggot

[sage2021]

My ex-husband was 5'9" and weighed about 145 and he looked skinny.

You need some fat on you. Do you have anorexia Nervosa or Bulimia Nervosa? Sounds like an eating disorder.
Eat some ice cream man. A lot of ice cream.

[Gent207-2]

That sounds like a healthyvweight to me

[ThrillSeeker01]

Just need to find right woman.

[Asker]

yeah yeah all women are vile theyre only sweet and affectionate to those they find attractive in 29yrs of life I've only ever been insulted bullied and laughed at by women a few even told me to just kill myself already thats how detestable I am for just existing