What makes a woman become an "incel". Is it her or society?

[Anonymous]

a lot of women will blame her being unattractive but there are few people so unattractive nobody will f*** you. Based on a lot of these women's inability to interact with the opposite gender would you say it's personality disorders that these women have?

[Vesuvius87]

The equivalent to a man being unable to attract women and not get sex (incel) is really a woman that can't ever get commitment aka a marriage proposal from a man. We have a different scoring system. We don't score by having sex with several men but rather finding a man that offers marriage, landing a keeper. Some of us that have no luck with that are really Insing, which means involuntarily single. We don't wish to be single. We want to get married but can't ever attract marriage-minded men.

[Billlewis]

While I can certainly relate to this, a long term commitment is a far cry from the maddening frustration of not being able to achieve the basic, fundamental desire of physical intimacy with the opposite sex. I've often said that the worst part of being a woman is that you have to deal with men, but at the very least, you can still have sex most of the time.

[Vesuvius87]

@Billlewis
Men and women aren't really the same and face different struggles. Many of us don't want a long-term boyfriend that gives us sex but no commitment. Being seen good enough to be his girlfriend he claims to love but not his wife.. for me is an insult for our self worth and even confidence as a woman.

[Asker]

If it I meant to type "Insing" I would have.😆

[Anonymous]

The female equivalent of an incels is a feminist. And the things that make a man become an incel are the same things that make a woman become a feminist... victim mentality, lack of self-accountability and a deep seated hatred for the opposite sex.

[Asker]

There's a difference between calling yourself one and being called one. Not every "incel" hates the opposite gender. Just the ones that call themselves that generally.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm using the term incel the way it is popularly used today, not its true meaning (involuntarilly celibate).

[Anonymous]

A femcel is a woman who claims to suffer from inceldom.

Femcel

[ChicoFromThe305]

No lie this picture is hilarious 😂

[Opinion Owner]

The male equivalent of femcel is mancel.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I thought it was just a normal incel lol

[Opinion Owner]

The culture, norms, and hunches that permeate femcel communities are known as femceldom.

[rachel776b]

there's no such thing

[Asker]

Absolutely there is. You must've not been on this site very long.

[rachel776b]

i have been here for many years. it's the only place they talk about it, and i have never once heard anyone talk about it irl

[DarkWinterNights]

A quick google search has a Canadian News site, PsychologyToday and a bunch of Reddit posts citing “Femcel”. Seems it’s becoming a thing.

[rachel776b]

@DarkWinterNights those aren't primary sources, they have specific editorial (or political or financial) agendas and are inherently unreliable

[Billlewis]

Women don't become incels. Only guys do.

[Vesuvius87]

Insing is actually the term for some of Is women. We can easily get a ONS, friends with benefits or a boyfriend if we wanted to... big deal any man can offer me that but we can't get a marriage proposal (aka commitment; a keeper) from a man.

[Vesuvius87]

**for some of us women
So we got nothing in the end. Dating for years isn't what we want. A man won't give us the most important thing for us.