How come girls say they prefer the dad bod but overweight men don't get right swipes on dating apps?

[chris_987]

[AutumnSerenity]

Lmao I can sense your level of frustration through the text. Golly. Maybe it’s not even your body shape or your looks. It’s probably your style/clothes, maybe your profile makes you seem boring. Who knows? We go off of the vibes you give off. We would need the full deets to pinpoint the issue. If you’re under 5’10”, you’re going to have a rough time, I can tell you that right now.

[chris_987]

Perhaps one day girls will stop analyzing the emotion behind someone's words and just take it at face value. How could I be frustrated over something that never happened to me? I was literally on tic tok and kept on hearing girls say they like a dad bod. But that wouldn't make sense if a lot of overweight guys don't get swiped right on dating apps.

Next time try not to apply these questions to somebody personal. Just take the data and see how it maps onto your life. Like if you ended up with a guy with a dad bud, did he approach you? Was he confident? Was he funny? Then guess what. It wasn't his overweight body that attracted you to him. It was his character. I find it hard to believe that a girl would see a bear belly guy walking on the beach and think he's the hottest thing alive.

Yeah it's not personal. It's just a logical statement based on observable facts in this world.

[AutumnSerenity]

Well I can already tell you’re way too sensitive and that could be scaring women away. Are you posting these long emotional paragraphs on your dating profile? Because that would be your #1 issue right there.

[chris_987]

So you're thinking that I'm talking about myself? As if I'm the one that's overweight and not getting girls to swipe right on me?

[AutumnSerenity]

Well I never said you’re overweight, lol. I just think it might be a personality issue.

[chris_987]

And that's that's based on a feeling right? You have no facts back up this feeling?

[katiesmuff]

First of all a good looking guy like yourself doesn't need to be on any 3rd rate dating site. Just open yourself up, get out where the girls are and with a smile and nice hello you will have enough women craving an opportunity to go on a date with you.

[chris_987]

I don't know why people think these questions are about myself, can I just call out girls lying about there preferences so they don't come off as vain.

I don't know why girls always think I'm the overweight guy who doesn't get likes.

[katiesmuff]

It's just the way it was written that gives one the idea it is about you. Safest thing would be to make it quite clear it is just a general question and not about you personally. At least you know my feelings about the phones of today.

[chris_987]

No I think it's just a thing girls do, you guys always think questions stem from a personal place. I've been on this app long enough to kinda get a feel for how girls view questions.

As a guy unless it's painful obviously that's it's a personal question I never assume it is. I just answer based on the facts.

But that just the difference between men and women, you guys want to relate to everyone so you think that men are the same way, we are not the same. Men only want facts and not feelings.

[OGname2]

Are you basing this on your own personal experience or a larger pool of test subjects? Are they not getting right swipes or are they just not getting right swipes by the people they want? 🙃

[chris_987]

No, just a illogical fallacy. If a girl says she likes guys with dad bods. I'll pull up a body fat percentage chart and I'll ask her what she considers a dad bod and she'll point to the guy who's less than 20% body fat. So their premise of what they think in their mind versus what is actually going on in reality is incorrect.

So it becomes very easy to debunk the myth that girl's like Dad bods. Especially when they say things like he has to be over 6 ft. Because a 6 ft tall man that has more than 30% body fat is almost 300 lb. And no girl is swiping right on a guy that's 300 lb visibly.

It's elementary my dear.

[Apple1996]

Barely any men get swiped right on dating apps

[chris_987]

And why do you think that is?

[Apple1996]

Women are picky ig

[chris_987]

So if women are picky and they have more sex than men, who are these women choosing to sleep with?

[Apple1996]

Okay but really I have that same question for women cuz I have no idea 😅

[chris_987]

The answer is obvious. It's the same small percentage of men that take good pictures. Have somewhat of a style and put in their bio that their 6'5 even if they're not.

I don't really like to lie on my dating profile, but when I do it as an experiment it's just funny how girls will respond to the most vapit things that mean nothing. I literally once posted a picture of a celebrity and in my bio put that I like to tie up women and physically abused them. And guess what? I got the most responses I've ever gotten even though I was Banned shortly after.

So it's funny that the moderators of these dating sites ban meant for being toxic but then women complain that there aren't any masculine guys. So it's a catch. 22. They want what society tells them not to want but they can't get it because society will shame them for going after it.

[Anonymous]

Because they don't.

[chris_987]

I know they don't but a lot of girls would argue to the death that girls liking overweight guys is a thing.

Especially in a looks based economy. It's almost unfathomable that a girl would even end up with an overweight guy, so I just don't understand how they arrived at their conclusions.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not sure what girls you've been talking to but the ones I know would never date one. Same goes for overweight women for men. It's just not a thing typically.

[chris_987]

I don't know. I follow a lot of overweight girls and they have sex a lot. Not in traditional relationships, but they'll gladly be someone's side piece or be a threesome to a couple. When I question them about having a stable long-term relationship, they usually tell me that no guy meets their standard. So they don't really want to be with another overweight guy. They'd rather be with a in-shape guy, but the in-shaped guys don't want them so they're kind of stuck doing threesomes and sex parties.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah my point exactly. Overweight girls don't get the guys they want just like overweight men don't get the girls they want. Overweight men don't get sex at all really that's one difference with overweight women. They do get sex but that's about it. They don't get the relationships with the guys they want.

[chris_987]

Well most guys don't get sex because of the current dating market. It used to be that there were more virgins who were girls then guys and then it flipped because of social media. So that means if there are less men than there are women, women are outpacing the amount of sex that men get by 100 to 1 ratio, and if there are more obese women than there are obese men. That means that even overweight women get more sex than in shape men.

[Opinion Owner]

Which brings us back to your original question. Girls don't go for guys that are overweight so they certainly wouldn't get sex. It's bs whoever says that. Girls are going after the best selection of men even overweight girls are going after them even if it's just for sex.

[chris_987]

Yeah I would argue that most girls when they downloaded dating app would get a mixture of in-shape men. Kind of out of shape man and overweight men.

So let's say that she gets 100 likes and she has 100 dudes to talk from based off pictures alone. She's not engaging with the overweight guy in glasses. L if she sees an in-shape guy with muscles and has a good sense of style.

I've actually done this experiment before on hinge which is why they banned my profile. Where I had my regular pictures and I never got any swipes for a couple of weeks even on the overweight girls. But I switched my profile picture to a male celebrity like Chris Brown and then all sorts of girls started to reach out to me.

Which is how dating apps really work. The guy that's in shape and takes care of himself to the point where he looks like a celebrity and has money. That's who the overweight girls and pretty girls will swipe on and he'll probably sleep with them all so they don't really feel the need to swipe right on a lower quality guy.

[Opinion Owner]

Yep. It's no hope for the overweight guys when there are Chris Hemsworths out there on dating apps. They are always going to be picked over them.

[chris_987]

Does this supply to you? Do you only swipe right on super hot guys?

[Opinion Owner]

My boyfriend has a dad bod funnily enough. I used to go after the Chris Hemsworths types but I realized they were just fuckboys. I wouldn't swipe right on them now if I was single.

[chris_987]

But it was in your instinct to go after the more attractive guy that every girl wants. So that's just natural. But how did you end up with a guy with a dad bod if before you would have never been into that sort of thing?

[Opinion Owner]

We ended up being friends for years and decided to get together after the 11th year of being friends. He didn't always have a dad bod and he doesn't look bad with one. But it's his personality that won me over ultimately.

[chris_987]

Yeah it would have to be his personality because aren't attracted to dad bods. But that's the way it used to be before. A lot of girls would get average dudes because Tinder and all the social media stuff never existed. So the only way a girl could get guys is if he was able to charm her regardless of how he looked.

[Opinion Owner]

Yep pretty much.

[chris_987]

When I'm right I'm right. So does that mean that your body count is higher than his?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope. His count is higher. I've only been with one other guy and that's because I was sexually assaulted in college so it kept me from being with other guys after him for a long time.

[chris_987]

Yeah being sexually assaulted would most likely turn you off from guys. But if you are going after the most attractive aggressive guys then your chances of being sexually assaulted would probably skyrocket. So either way girls lose in the current dating landscape.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I guess so.

[chris_987]

Lucky your situation had a happy ending

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I am lucky. It's usually not the case with most women.

[chris_987]

Well you got to teach the younger girls the right way to choose a guy then

[Opinion Owner]

I have two younger sisters and both have chosen right by going after the nerdy type guy instead of the guy with the sixth pack so there is some hope in the younger generation.

[chris_987]

Must have been a high school love