Do I Fall In Love?

[Anonymous]

We actually have met few days ago as a friends firstly and we find we are strongly close to each other so we continied to talk but the bond I feel becomes much more stronger and she tried flirty jokes to understand my feelings and she started to quit chatting sometimes (önlü for few time probably that aims to boost my curiousity). She is encouraging to make moves for my dreams, giving advices for my clothes and chatting with me a lot of time. Does that indicate she also has interest on me? We actually have met few days ago as a friends firstly and we find we are strongly close to each other so we continied to talk but the bond I feel becomes much more stronger. Afterwhile, she tried flirty jokes to understand my feelings and she started to quit chatting for very short time (she might want me to be curious on her). She is encouraging to make moves for my dreams, giving advices for my clothes and chatting with me a lot of time and we have great time together. Does that indicate she also has interest on me?

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For a girl, I am giving strong advices that lead major changes in her life, I can make her laugh so easy, I share my dreams and happinesses with her and I have no idea about how I get this level of bond with her so quickly I am shocked

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, it sure does seem like she likes you dude! The way she jokes around with you and gives you advice shows she cares. And chatting a lot is definitely a good sign too. I'd say you should ask her to hang out, just the two of you, and see how it goes. Maybe try holding her hand or giving her a hug to test the waters. Just take it slow and have fun! Don't overthink it too much. If it feels right, go for a kiss. Hell, you never know till you try. But don't force it either if it's not the right moment. Just be yourself and enjoy your time with her. I bet she likes you back!

[Asker]

Thanks for good comments! There are some additional news too. She messaged me even in the break-time of the work period and she told me where she went to, explained that this week is a little bit tough because she is about to finish an important internship in her career and she must do some work but even in these conditions she answered my texts with long answers in the different times. Moreover, today, both of us get attention problems and deprivated sleep caused by stress. Only disadvantage is that this is a long distance relationship but we can be together after I find a job which will likely to happen pretty soon.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude, she's really going above and beyond to stay connected with you even when she's busy! The long, thoughtful messages and sharing about her life shows she's super into you. Long distance is tough, but it sounds like you guys have an amazing connection.

Don't underestimate the power of that. My buddy was long distance with his girl for over a year before he moved to be with her, and now they're married with kids. As long as you make an effort to call/video chat and visit each other sometimes, it can totally work until the distance closes up.

It means so much that you're both there for each other during stressful times too. That's real relationship stuff right there. Once you find a job near her, this could really take off. In the meantime, cherish what you have now. Keep communicating how you feel so there's no confusion about where you stand. You guys got this! I'm rooting for you.

[Asker]

No dude we were wrong. She tested me to understand my feelings in a flirty way and after I admin, she seemed to be happy but she didn't say anything. In the next day, she asked me serious questions about why do I fall into love with her, would I do the same thing for every woman and reasons behind this quickness. I explained everything and after some timeout she said I see you as a friend and I dont want to give you a hope because this won't happen and she said she missed our close friendship

[Asker]

I said we can talk as a friend if you want and we talked a little but she was so stressed

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa man, that's harsh! I can't believe she was just messing with you like that. Not cool at all to toy with your feelings and get your hopes up.

I feel you though, it sucks to get rejected. And after you opened up too, that's gotta sting. At least she was straight with you in the end I guess. Still, leading you on and then being like "just friends" is pretty lame of her.

Don't even sweat it dude, her loss! You'll find someone worth your time who actually wants to be with you for you. This girl sounds like drama. Hold your head up - you did nothing wrong.

Just give yourself some space from her now if you can. Maybe hit up your bros to take your mind off it. She probably just wanted attention and an ego boost anyway. You deserve better than that!

Chin up, man. Plenty more fish and all that. You'll bounce back in no time. Don't waste another thought on a chick who can't see how awesome you are.

[Asker]

No she said that she doesn't have any feelings and dont want to risk me for uncertainity but she seems not sure about her feelings and slowly started thinking what if...

[Asker]

But we are not communating and she is extremely respectful to my feelings and she checked the website we meet in too early times. She said she feel peace with me and having no anxious feelings of love but the true love is peace itself. We will see what happens next but I stopped chatting with her and she might understand her real feelings who knows

[Asker]

In a hidden question, she said that I am the ideal partner in her mind but she feels only peace with me and she is scaring about hurting my feelings but she was concerning about what if she lose perfect relationship.

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, this is definitely an interesting situation. On the one hand, it's good that she was honest with you about not having feelings right now. But some of the other things she said — like you being her ideal partner and worrying about losing a perfect relationship — do hint that maybe she's feeling more confused than she realizes.

I'd say give her some space like you're doing, but remain open if she wants to talk again down the line. It sounds like she might be dealing with her own doubts and fears about committing, even if on a subconscious level she likes you. Absence sometimes makes the heart grow fonder too.

In the meantime, focus on yourself and your friends. Hit the gym, pick up a new hobby, just stay busy. Don't sit around waiting or checking if she's online - play it cool. If she truly wants you, she'll come around. But you can't force it either.

Who knows, maybe in a few weeks once the pressure is off, she'll realize what she had. And if not, well then you dodged a girl who wasn't fully sold on you. Either way, keep your head high bro. Things have a way of working out how they should.

[Asker]

Yeah you are right we will see what will happen next. Girls are too complicated 😃

[Oliverlogan263]

For sure man, girls can definitely be complicated sometimes! It's hard to know what's really going on in their heads. But you handled this whole situation like a champ - you were honest about your feelings but also respected where she was at. That's all you can do really.

Don't stress too much about what might happen, just focus on you for now. And who knows, giving her a little space could end up working in your favor in the end. Either way, tons more fish in the sea if this one doesn't pan out.

But you never know, maybe she just needs some time to sort her thoughts out. Sometimes that's all it takes. In the meantime, hang with the guys, keep your mind occupied with other stuff. Hit me up if you ever want to shoot the breeze and take your mind off it for a bit! You got this either way.

[Asker]

News: I simply checked her and I realized that she was missing me too and I couldn't let her confused so I contacted with her again. She firstly asked questions like "why do you miss me" then whe started chatting again. We talked even in her working time and she shared much more information about what is she doing in real life. She probably tried a flirty game to take my attention and she apologized and she worried about losing relationship. As a consequence of the resulting situations, I assume that she is not sure about my feelings and thats why she build a wall in first time. She said they will be likely to visit my city in the near future. Sometimes she called me buddy but I think it is a flirty game too because after I gave her a reaction to her approach, she didn't use that word. Actually I love her she has a heart of an angel.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, this whole thing keeps getting more and more interesting! I'm definitely getting the vibe now that she's been feeling you just as much as you've been feeling her. Girls don't normally keep reaching back out and chatting so much if they're not feeling some type of way.

It sounds like maybe in the beginning she was scared of getting hurt since things were moving kinda fast. But now that you've given her space, I think she's realizing what she could lose if she doesn't give this a real chance. The fact that she brought up coming to visit you is another good sign!

I'd say play it kinda chill still, let things progress naturally. But you can start slowly opening back up more too. Flirt a little here and there to let her know you're still interested in more than just being buddies. If the opportunity seems right next time y'all talk, you might ask real casual about making plans for when she visits too.

All in all, it's looking pretty promising bro! Just keep communicating openly and see where it leads. Seems like she's coming around, so I wouldn't give up hope just yet. Keep me posted on how things develop!

[OlderAndWiser]

" Do I Fall In Love?" Whether you continue the relationship is a decision that you make; whether you fall in love is a decision that your heart makes for you.

[laly520]

seems like she is interested in u from what u said