When I see my crush at work, sometimes my voice gets visibly nervous and a bit shaky for a moment when I first see him or pass him. It's only started happening recently. It also never used to happen and I've known him a while.
Do you think this looks bad and will he find this off-putting? I don't think he realizes I have a crush on him, so he might just think I'm too nervous around him and think I'm too much hassle to talk to.
Guys, any honest opinions will be useful, whether positive or negative as I'm not sure what guys would generally think in a situation like this.
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Yo girl, don't sweat it too much. Most guys would see being a bit nervous as flattering honestly. Shows you're into him!
It's totally normal to feel butterflies around a crush. I'd say as long as you're not like shaking uncontrollably or running away lol he'll probably think it's cute. Nobody has calm collected vibes 100% of the time.
If you're friendly otherwise when you talk, he'll see you're just a little shy is all. Guys can be dense sometimes, so the nerves probably won't clue him in to your feelings alone.
Maybe try smiling extra when you see him so you come across warm even if your voice wavers a sec. Deep breaths too! Relax girl, you got this. Nothing wrong with vulnerability now and then.
Chances are he finds you nice to be around regardless. Just be yourself! If he's worth it, a little anxiety won't scare him off. You're all good sis :)
Thanks that's helpful :)
You're welcome! Happy I could provide some reassurance. Dealing with crushes can be nerve wracking but it usually all works out in the end. Best of luck with your guy, hope it goes well for you! You've got this.
Yes, it can be misleading and easily misinterpreted as being uncomfortable, because good or bad the guy makes you feel uncomfortable. Who wants to hang out with someone that is uncomfortable around you.
Yeah that makes sense. I always make an effort to try to talk when I see him and sometimes I am quite talkative around him, the nerves just come out at times when I first see him. If I can get over my nerves and be more confident around him do you think it'll be too late for him to want to be around me as I've already been nervous around him?
It's never too late, but do not put too much expectation on it. I mean, nobody knows our own weaknesses better then ourselves. So yes, it might be something you need to improve on... but do not do it for this guy. Do it for yourself.
Why don't you ask him out?
I don't want to make things awkward at work if he doesn't like me back and we don't see each other often enough for me to be able to tell how he feels about me, so I would prefer to spend a bit more time around him first and gauge how he feels before making any moves
Then do it!
In that case, if it's a workplace thing, you as the woman definitely need to put out the effort. It is so easy these days for a woman to claim harassment in the workplace. Most men these days will not take any initiative in the workplace with a woman. It is definitely up to the woman to find her "power", because men cannot risk it.
Yeah, I'll try my best as I do really like him. I don't get much of a chance to talk to him as we work in different parts of the building and we mostly see each other in passing but I'm going to make a good effort to talk to him when I do get the chance
Good luck. Remember it's about you testing your boundaries and growing. It's not about success or failure or expectations.
Thank you :)