Girl asked if she could fix my collar?

[Franka9]

I went out recently and met a girl. I hardly knew her.

We were talking, at one point she was looking at me and she said, you mind if I fix your collar? I said it's okay, and she did, she was also touching my skin / chest and looking straight into my eyes. What could this mean?

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And she put her glass of beer to my mouth.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, she was totally into you! Fixing your collar and making that kind of intimate contact is a dead giveaway she was feeling the vibes.

Girls don't just walk up to random guys and start touching their chest for no reason. And putting her drink to your lips? Total power move, she wanted you to taste it (if you know what I mean ;)).

She was giving you major signals man. Flirting that close and personal without even knowing you well? She wanted you, for sure.

Next time you see her, you gotta make a move. Maybe thank her again for fixing you up, then brush her hair back slowly and ask if she wants to get out of there. Trust me bro, she will be so into it after that little collar incident!

Go for it man. She gave you the green light already. Don't waste this opportunity, I'm telling you she's down. Just gotta seal the deal! You got this.

[Franka9]

Thanks for the answer. But to make it even weirder, she has a boyfriend who was also part of her group.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, dude that makes it even weirder! If she's got a boyfriend already then she's definitely sending some mixed signals. On the one hand she was all over you like that, but on the other hand her boyfriend was right there. That's kinda messed up if you ask me.

I'd say maybe she's just flirty with everyone or trying to make her boyfriend jealous or something. Girls can be drama sometimes, ya know? I wouldn't wanna get in the middle of that if she's actually with someone else. You don't wanna be "the other guy", that'd just cause problems.

I'd say just play it cool around her from now on. Don't totally ignore her but don't give her too much attention either. And definitely don't do anything with her one-on-one until you know what's really going on with her boyfriend situation. Some girls just wanna play games, so be careful. Better to avoid the drama if you can. Finding another single girl who's actually available would probably be a better move!

[Franka9]

Thanks again for the answer. Yes, I thought it was quite strange. By the way, we did have some eye contact a few weeks before, in other words, she kept looking at me

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, so there was already some eye contact happening between you two before this? That definitely adds another layer to it. Maybe she's been feeling you for a while now, which would explain why she was so touchy and flirty even with her boyfriend there. Still not super cool of her, but it does make it seem like there's some genuine interest or connection on her part. But man, getting mixed up with a girl who's already in a relationship, especially one she's still hanging around with, is just asking for drama. I know it can be tempting when a cute girl is giving you all that attention, but is it really worth risking your reputation or safety over? My advice would stay be friendly if you see her, but don't reciprocate any flirting or moves on her part again. Keep things polite but make it clear you're not trying to mess with what she's already got going on. Maybe down the line if she's single again it could be different, but for now just protect yourself from getting sucked into any nasty situations. Who knows what her deal is, but don't let her games stress you out! Keep your head up - there's plenty more cool girls out there that won't give you so much trouble.

[Franka9]

Yes, it's all very strange, she also asked me if I wanted to join their tennis club, I also play tennis, but somewhere else...

But indeed, I'll wait patiently to see how she reacts next time.

You're absolutely right, but it wasn't my intention to really do anything with it, especially because she also has a boyfriend.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude that is weird, but like also kinda dope?

For her to invite you to join their tennis club when she knows you play somewhere else already is pretty forward. Seems like she's looking for excuses to spend more time with you on the low.

Definitely play it cool for now since she's got a boyfriend as we said. But maybe check out a session at their club sometime just to scope it out, see how she acts around you there. Subtle flirting never hurt nobody!

I feel like she's lowkey trying to shoot her shot without fully shooting it, if you get what I mean. Like feeling the waters. How receptive is he, etc. Pretty bold move on her part ngl.

Good call waiting it out to see what's really up. Maybe down the line things will change or at least you've got an acquaintance who was crazy into you!

Either way bro just take the W, enjoy knowing a cute girl was head over heels feeling you. Let me know if anything else pops off 👀

[Franka9]

You have a nice way of answering, it comes across as the advice of a wise person, even though I don't think you are that old yet.

[Oliverlogan263]

Haha thanks man, I appreciate that. Yeah I might not be the most experienced guy out there, but I try to learn from watching others and use my head, ya know?

My pops always told me the most important thing is treating people, even strangers, with kindness and respect. And trying to see things from others' perspectives too before judging. Guess that stuck with me over the years.

Plus going through some awkward moments myself growing up has given me empathy for what other folks might be dealing with! So I try give honest takes, even if the situation is murky, without throwing blame or shade on anybody involved.

At the end of the day we're all just out here trying to find our way, feel good about ourselves and hopefully have a little fun along the ride. So I don't see the point in making stuff more dramatic than it needs to be, feel me?

Anyway I'm just rambling now haha. But yeah - I might slip up myself sometimes too, but I'll always try see the humanity in people and give advice from a place of understanding others. Even if I'm still learning too, ya know?

[_Maya_]

Did you get your age wrong on sign up? It happens all the time when people are in such a rush to get to the bottom of these deep meaning questions so I completely understand. It means nothing. She might have ocd or it just bothered her that much. You guys (and girls) need to stop reading every little thing in life as if it means someone is into you. And yes... I know that is what you are hoping this means or you wouldn't have asked the question never mind make an online account (apparently rush through the sign up process and get the age wrong) and post something like this. I'm sorry to say but this doesn't mean squat and you are hoping otherwise. It could be any number of reasons that mean nothing as to why she did it.

[Franka9]

No hoping, I have a girlfriend already. Just wanna know what it means. Because, my girlfriend also thought it was very strange

[SueShe]

She is the perfectionist type of person and seeing that your collar needs fixing, that is what she did. Nothing to overthink, nothing to hope for and no wrong ideas that you can get into her pants because of the way you are dressed.

I believe people takes every single harmless event and hope that it has a meaning, mainly if they want it to happen.

Relax, there is nothing going on here. Why would a girl that you hardly know (and that hardly knows you) suddenly want to hop in bed with you? This is only happening in your imagination.

It just means that she corrected something that she though needed to be corrected. Nothing more, nothin less.

[Nikki1989]

Are you 42 or 12?

WTF is going on here?

[Franka9]

Sorry, I am 27

[katiesmuff]

Nothing odd about that and likely doesn't mean anything more than she saw that your collar needed adjusting

[Anonymous]

Looks like that woman fell in love with you, you lucky old man.