Women, when you get catcalled, do you feel unsafe?

[Anonymous]

I'm not a catcaller but I know there's lots of hate for it and I wonder on the feeling it creates on the other person, is it a fear? Disgust or disturbance perhaps? 🤔

[Laciejordan]

I've never felt unsafe. The only time I've been catcalled was at outdoor fairs, so there's always people around and the guys are usually intoxicated (which isn't saying a lot on my part 🤣) I really don't get offended by it, I see it more as guys just being guys.

[Asker]

That's fair enough I guess lol

[red324]

You look like Amanda seyfried

[GOLDFISH_smile]

I feel less safe than I did before getting cat called!

Cat calling is not acceptable behavior in most "safe" areas. The fact someone thinks it's acceptable wherever I am right then makes me aware that either the place is not so safe, or that person doesn't care about doing unacceptable things to women.

I would not be scared & run away or anything, but would be a bit concerned.

[Asker]

Sounds pretty logical indeed

[Kayla45]

Every time it happens it’s like my whole body tenses up the moment I hear it. A whistle, a comment, or even just a lingering stare…. suddenly, I’m hyper-aware of everything. It’s a scary feeling sometimes. Who’s around me? Is there an easy way out if things go wrong? It feels like someone took a small, everyday moment and twisted it into something threatening. And what’s worse is the uncertainty. Is this just a comment, or is it going to escalate?

Im more worried about those who catcall with bad intentions. It’s exhausting to constantly adjust, finding a safe space, just to feel a little bit safer in my daily life. Admittedly this doesn’t happen all the time but when it does I do get a bone chilling uneasy feeling in my gut. Just keep walking and ignore them!

[Asker]

Understandable, mostly if it's not very common, the random out of nowhere catcall can catch you lacking and I'd assume can make you feel vulnerable, stay safe tho Kayla

[Anonymous]

The first time I really started getting catcalled, I was 16. I had to ride the bus, and my bus stop was on the corner of a bunch of 'not awesome' apartments. Every day, I had to walk to this stop about 10 blocks from my house and there would be GROWN men hooting and yelling nasty things. I was in my work uniform, a pair of khakis and a collared shirt, and I certainly wasn't inviting the attention...at 16. Not only did it happen on the walk to, but guys would pull up driving on the main street my stop was on, and yell and honk. It was very uncomfortable. Sometimes some of the people I got to know at the stop would yell at these grown men to stop, but it never did. I remember this one time I was at a gas station and this guy across the street just started running over and yelling things at me. Like who the hell would feel safe like that? This is disgusting behavior and it's not okay.

[Asker]

Thats some shitty behavior, has it stopped or does it still happen?

[Opinion Owner]

Thankfully I'm years removed from riding the bus and having to wait out in the open many places, so I don't have to deal with it much anymore. Of all the relationships I've been in, in my life, none started with the guy yelling out at me. This is the part I wish more of that special breed of men that does this, understood about women.

[Asker]

It seems they aren't very intelligent in that area, but to be fair I think they do that to get lucky, perhaps waiting for some hoe to escalate it or something, if I had to guess

[Crimsyjo]

Like some others said... depends on location and time of day. Men working and day time, it's kinda flattering tho I also feel intimidated like maybe they making fun.

If it's night and a gang all in the dark... there's gonna be fear. But hell any type of attention from a gang of hoodlums at night in the dark is gonna be scary!

[Asker]

So it's not an enjoyable situation? Cause I've heard from some individuals that they actually like it

[Crimsyjo]

I do like it! In the first scenario. So long as it's genuine! I mean, even in second scenario once I'm home safe I can probably smile thinking yay that thought I was attractive lol. Maybe it's mainly insecure women that like it haha.
I prefer a more direct comment tho. Like if a guy actually says "woo Yr fit" or "hey hey, looking good!". The tone and hungry eyes leave less doubt lol.
I once had a guy who saw my boobs bouncing in my top as we walking opposite directions and he said something as we passed (can't remember now. But complimentary to my cleavage) and I had zero attraction to him whatsoever but I was still buzzed at the attention.
I can't speak for all women but I'm pretty sure even ones don't admit it do like feeling they are attractive. Just cat calling from a group of men isn't clear enough.

[Asker]

I see, interesting

[PeachyPie93]

I don't mind to be honest.. I maybe feel a little shy but the only time I been catcalled is when I dressed for attention or if I wear t shirts because you can really see the size of my boobs.. so I always liked it when it happened. I don't dress up on the regular and I wear hoodies most days so I don't have problems with men doing anything wrong.

[Asker]

Peachypie dresses for attention sometimes? I never would've guessed 🌚

[PeachyPie93]

Rarely.. :P

[Asker]

Rare sightings lol

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I've never been catcalled before. But I know I've heard it's scary & terrifying because sometimes the person who does it comes over to them or comes back for them (when they aren't looking).

[Asker]

Sounds like some scary stuff, I don't think you are missing out on anything tho PB

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'm always with someone: friend (s), parent, or sibling. So that could maybe play a part. Other than that, I look too young. But even when I dress sexy nothing happens to me (it's cold out so we can't do that anymore).

[Asker]

Well its best to keep your sexiness for your husband so maybe it's for the best, besides it avoids you being targeted for anything also

[PBandJ_Nerd]

My future partner would have lots of sexiness, which is most likely not for the public eye. Lol I don't think we have to be too worried about it.

[Asker]

That's good indeed, sounds like you've got it all figured out lol

[Account]

If I am alone and it is night and I get catcalled and there is noone else around, yes, I feel unsafe. If it is day I get annoyed at the fact that I am not perceived as human.

[Asker]

People can indeed be annoying

[LazerBean]

Not really. If it makes me feel unsafe, it's because I already felt somewhat unsafe

[Asker]

So how would you explain it?

[LazerBean]

If I feel like I'm in a safe environment, then I'm going to assume the guys are just being goofy or whatever. Not malicious or something like that. But if I feel like I'm in an unsafe area, then I'm going to be more inclined to think the guys are hoodlums

[Asker]

So it depends on the area? Fair enough lol

[LazerBean]

Yeah pretty much lol but it's not often that I feel unsafe

[Asker]

I don't imagine Catfishes are as common as movies make it seem, but maybe I'm wrong

[LazerBean]

Probably not, but I guess there are different levels of it and people who are more at risk for it than others

[Asker]

Yea, I guess someone's gotta have an approachable face for someone to wanna bother them

[LazerBean]

What exactly do you mean by catfish? I kind of think what I'm thinking of isn't the same as what you are.

[LazerBean]

Oh catcall, not catfish 😭 sorry I'm dumb, I was wondering what the jump in topic was for

[LazerBean]

But yeah I'd say approachable faces only is a fair rule of thumb. My husband and his friends used to do it when they were younger, and he said nobody was ever mean to them about it. But I wouldn't really call that catcalling either

[Asker]

It only took you a small conversation to catch up with the topic 😆

Either ways I guess it's something that happens in some friends groups growing up

[LazerBean]

I guess so. And of course it's probably a lot different for people out age now than it was when we were teens

[Asker]

Indeed so

[MemeSupreme]

depends how im feeling that day and on the situation

definitely will always be alert bc of it but that's different than feeling unsafe

[Asker]

You look like a forehead flicker tbh

[MemeSupreme]

whats that supposed to mean

[Asker]

Like you flick people's foreheads 😂

[MemeSupreme]

what if someone catcalls me i flick their forehead lol

[Asker]

I wouldn't be surprised cause you are momo 😂

[4ngelic]

depends what you mean by catcalling but if we're talking something disrespectful or blatantly sexual, i feel either a bit unsafe or a bit angry

[Asker]

Sounds about right

[susie22]

I get that a lot, but I don't feel unsafe. Most of the time it's from a basically insecure guy who won't make eye contact and likely doesn't have the stones to make a genuine and respectful approach.

[Kayleigh2005]

Depends as others said, worst is men staring between my legs and not talking!

[Asker]

That sounds not just creepy but disrespectful

[electromagnetic]

I just ignore it. Catcalls are so weird. Just go up to the person you want and talk to them.

[Asker]

The common sense couldn't be more commonly sensing on that one

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Catcalls are meant to degrade you. They don't want an actual relationship with you.

[Asker]

Now you on Leslie's case? 💀

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Well it's true. Those guys just wanna get laid. They don't care about making a good impression.

[Asker]

I don't doubt that's but I'm pretty sure she already knows ha

[PrettyCrumblBb]

You know if you're scared walking alone just act crazy and start talking to yourself and they will leave you alone.

[Asker]

Interesting lol

[PrettyCrumblBb]

I give great life advice

[Justneedtokno]

Honestly, for some men, it depends on what season it is for her?


Also, if it’s at night and she’s alone, then it’s a little scary

[Asker]

What do you mean it depends on what season it is? 💀

[Justneedtokno]

Like When a woman walks out the house and she feels confident, she doesn’t mind getting a compliment, but when it’s overboard and it’s too much and it’s not properly given then she doesn’t want the unnecessary attention

[Asker]

I see, interesting 🤔

[Anonymous]

Disgust and depending on the person yes feel very unsafe they will rape me with Thier friends.

[Asker]

I think this should be mentioned so people know that this stuff is more damaging than working in their favor when it comes to successfully dating or whatnot

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao guys don't think cat calling works! Old Mexican loser fat dads don't think they will get in our panties by doing this!
They want to scare us threaten us make us unhappy cause they are miserable with Thier 9 kids half in jail or dead

[Asker]

Well that wasn't the response I expected 💀

[BetaBucks]

@ChicoFromThe305 lmfao holy shit that took an unexpected turn 😭

[Asker]

It did, I thought she was the most innocent thing then she went off on the fat Mexicans and shit 😂

[BetaBucks]

🤣 sorry bro...

[Toxic_Skyler]

Depends on the time & place & guy & how it was said etc

[Asker]

Yep that's fair I guess

[Smashingdoozy]

Sometimes unsafe, especially if it's a group of guys and I'm alone. Usually i just feel really uncomfortable.

[Asker]

I can imagine, either ways stay safe out there doozy

[Agape93]

More annoyed than anything.

[Asker]

You give me catcaller vibes 😂

[Agape93]

Hey @Abbycado can attest to that

[Abbycado]

Rawrrr

[Abbycado]

So lame lol

[Agape93]

;) hey sweet cheeks, bat those eyelashes in my direction *whistle*

[Agape93]

Lol.

[Abbycado]

Meant my rawwr by the way

[Abbycado]

You feel a breeze yet? Hmm?

[Agape93]

Mmm maybe ;)

[chocolatetwopointo]

yes I don't know what those men could do to me

[Asker]

Fair enough

[PrettyCrumblBb]

I don't feel fearful. Gross out, yes.

[Asker]

Fair enough lol

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Have you been cat called on the street?

[Asker]

I am the streets! alright let me stop 😂

[PrettyCrumblBb]

People walk over you?

[Asker]

Nah I'm like those roof streets

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Those crusty roofs ready to fall off

[Asker]

Is that cause of the hurricane? You asshole 😂

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Noooo I forgot about the hurricane D: how are you and your family?

[Asker]

I'm a bit disappointed tbh, I didn't want my roof blown off but I expected at least a bit of rain

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Your roof got blown off? 😱😱😱

[Asker]

No lol, I said I know that my roof wasn't gonna get blown off by their calculations but legit I didn't see anything, not even rain lol

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Oh well I'm glad you and your fam are okay 😊

[Asker]

Thanks crumble, since your life is perfection I don't have to ask how you are doing right?

[PrettyCrumblBb]

I am doing great but thanks for asking 😊

[Asker]

Lol.

[justagirl9905]

Yes, fear