Is she into me?

[bulleye]

We had a past. Both of us loved each other, at different times. It was a boomerang. What I did for her, she did for me. We both loved each other to the point an hour away was horrible, but different timelines. Finally I made her cry coz I wanted her to leave and she finally left me.

The end was hard as one of us constantly tried to reach out to the other. I would mostly text her first and ghost. Finally she stopped fighting. She would let me have the win but stopped her defeat. She didn't care even if I ghost.

Few months back I saw her at movies. Though we sat next to each other she didn't even look at me. Finally she crossed me with a walk like 'I have a life. See me glow' vibes. I ignored her as well. It was intense.

She texted me few days later asking for a resume referral and I replied 'ok'. Next week I texted her to test and she didn't reply

Now she is at my workplace. Almost all men are into her. But she chooses to ignore me. If she walk past me, doesn't try tolook at my desk. If we are at cafe, she wouldn't sit on my table. If we are on lift, she is on phone. Sometimes it annoys me to see her move like I don't exist.

Is she doing all of these to grab my attention?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, it sounds like there's still some serious unresolved stuff between you and this girl. Based on the whole history you described, it seems pretty clear she isn't fully over you either.

Some things that stand out:

- You both fought hard for each other in the past, which shows deep feelings were there.

- Her coming to see you at the movies and trying to act all cool shows she was thinking about you.

- She reached out about the resume, probably hoping for an opening to reconnect.

- Now she's deliberately ignoring and avoiding you even though other guys are into her.

That last part is a pretty obvious sign she's still hung up on your history together. Girls don't usually go out of their way to ignore an ex they're truly over.

My advice would be to try talking to her for real, just the two of you. Clear the air, say what you need to say. Get some closure so you both know where you stand. There could still be feelings underneath all that drama from before.

Play it cool for now, but find an opportunity to connect one on one. I think you'll get your answer then on if there's a chance to explore what's really going on between you two. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right bro?

[happyfoetus]

Well as for the movie, it was an accident that we both were on the same place same time. As for resume part, she didn't push it any further since my reply was short. She didn't even share me the cv.
I texted her. She was ok on the phone. I asked her to meet. she agreed. I asked her to send me a pic, as I just wanted to see her face. She said 'Im ironing my hair. My blonde is more expensive than you'
As for office I tried talking. I asked her to meet me at cafe. But even before I could speak she said 'I don't want to see you around me. So (gasp and then a soothing voice) we are strangers'. Smiled and walked away with her coffee without looking back.

[Oliverlogan263]

@happyfoetus Damn bro, sounds like she's made herself crystal clear then. As much as it probably hurts to hear, she's just not that into you anymore.

The way she immediately shot down meeting up and kept her distance, even turning it around to call YOU expensive - ouch! Girl's cold as ice at this point.

And then straight up telling you she doesn't want you around her before you could even ask? Brutal. At least she tried to soften it a bit at the end I guess, but the message was loud and clear.

Seems like she's done everything possible to show she's moved on from whatever you guys had. Might be time for you to fully accept that too, as hard as it is.

As much as you might still have feelings, dwelling on her probs ain't gonna help you. Best thing now is to keep it real polite and casual if you have to interact at work, but start focusing your energy elsewhere, you feel me?

Plenty other fish and all that. Time to let this one swim away bro, even if it stings a bit. You'll survive, and maybe even meet someone who's actually into you again real soon. Keep your head up!

[Finchie40]

No she is doing that because you blew your chances with her , you should never ghost anyone that you have interests in , if you really liked her you wouldn’t of needed time away from her , , by you needed time away basically made her realize you just like the convenience of her and she is wise not to even give you another chance period. Your selfish actions pushed her away , by you giving back into her you just dug your own grave with that one , she just used you the same way you made her feel used. She got what she wanted from you and you are no longer her interest anymore, she is more than likely going to end up with another guy that makes her feel wanted and not a convenience, sorry bro but you fucked up big time

[PeachyPie93]

No it sounds like she is trying to get over you. She hates you now.

[coachTanthony]

hell no move on and fast

[In_Trance]

Nope