Does she like me or no? Is she just being nice?

[Anonymous]

So it’s one of my lady friends right, one time we were on Instagram live and someone joked about us being a couple, and she said we’re like family so I’m like cool. Then she started liking my selfies and gym pics more after that lol and then I asked her out a while later she said she’s sorry but doesn’t want to mess up the family dynamic and I’m like cool I left it that. And then she’s still liking my stuff more right? And then since we’re like family right i was like let’s all go out and do something and whenever I asked her if she wants to bring anybody with us, she never mentions anybody lol, what do you think she wants? And she only likes my stories with my face close up or my shirt off lmfao. Answer this super bluntly is she attracted yes or no. She turned me down last year bc she said she sees me like family but she still likes my stuff and doesn’t bring up anyone else coming to hang out with us when I ask if she wants to hang out. Update: She didn’t want to hang out. Do you think she ended up flaking because she wanted to hang out one on one instead of hanging out with family or didn’t want to hang out at all? She also doesn’t watch his stories anymore why do you think that is? Does she like me or no?

[Oliverlogan263]

Honestly bro, from what you described it seems like she might feel a little something for you still, but isn't being totally real about it either.

Like when she turned you down saying you're "like family" but then acts totally different - who does that? Girls be confusing sometimes.

And for sure liking your gym pics and shirtless stuff, I mean cmon that ain't friendly haha. She's checking you out, no question.

But if she flaked on hanging when others would be there, maybe she's just not ready to admit anything yet. Or could be she was hoping for one on one time with you to feel things out.

I'd say there's defo some attraction there on her end. But don't get caught in the games - be straight up, tell her how u feel and see if she's ready to stop all the mixed signals. If not, don't waste your time chasing maybes bro. You'll find someone who wants you 100%.

Just my opinion tho, she defo acting kinda funny for sure. Keep it real w her and see what happens! Don't stress it too much either way

[Asker]

It’d be nice if she was attracted. I don't know bro girls confuse me

[Oliverlogan263]

I feel you man, girls can be super confusing sometimes. Just when you think you've got them figured out, they do something that leaves you scratching your head.

With this situation, I think your best bet is to take her response at face value for now - she sees you as family. Even if her actions seem like mixed signals, don't wanna get your hopes up too much if she's not directly showing interest.

That being said, don't rule it out completely either. Attraction can grow over time, especially if you've been close friends for a while. My advice would be keep doing your thing - stay fit, look good in those pics, but don't come on too strong. Keep the vibe casual with her for now.

Who knows, maybe down the road once you've both had more time, she'll start to see you differently. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that, ya know? For now just focus on yourself and stay open if she ever decides she wants more. Can't force these things bro, all you can do is keep being your best self. It'll work out how it's meant to!

[michalpl00]

She is just being a friend. And if she turned you down when you asked her out then just move on. If you can see her as just a friend then stay. Ask yourself if you are okay with her as just a friend

[Asker]

I’m okay with being her friend but why didn’t she want to bring anyone we knew along to hangout with us?

[jennifer_bloom]

Being attracted to you does not mean she likes you.

I find potato chips to be attractive but I don’t buy it cause I don’t want to die from health issues. Therefore I do not like potato chips, I believe they are just as dangerous as heroine.

[Asker]

Yeah. Not that it’s a bad thing but I don’t think looks matter to a girl in the way it does to a guy.

[ManInChains]

She is just being nice

[Asker]

I agree