Do you ever wish life was more wholesome?

[Puppystarfish23]

As I'm getting older I'm starting to realise how fucked up life is and how many people around me have messed up, twisted life's. People constantly cheating on each, friends with benefits, toxic friendship, fake people online, everyones on drugs. Nothing feels genuine anymore and as if it's in fashion to be a fuck up..

I come from a very good home and a lot of people would describe me as Innocent and sweet. I'm a very healthy happy 26 year old married woman with a house and loving husband. I have one friend who is very similar to me but she's very young at 21 and thinks she needs corrupting so she no longer feels different from all her friends who smoke, do drugs and cheat. When in 20 years she be so glad she was a "square".

I love watching house makeover , travel and cooking shows because everything else on tv is all graphic sex, drugs and violence.

I'm very into my ture crime but recently I discovered its made me very dissensitized from murder and death so I'm trying to stay away a little now from that stuff.

I wish I lived in a beautiful little village were everyone was kind and sweet and baked cakes for each other like animal crossing or something.

I don't get why people want or have to the time for drama in their life's. Life is so short so make it a beautiful one full of happiness and joy with the people you love most

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Not really, if you’re constantly thinking about all the bad things in the world, of course it’s going to seem like a terrible place. The issue with focusing on things like that is the idea that forms that being terrible is the norm, rather than the very tragic extreme outlier event. Yes, it’s awful when people are shitty, but a lot of people aren’t shitty, you just don’t hear about it as much in places online or on the news because a part of us is drawn to that negativity — specifically a part of our brains that we used for survival during our ape days. That feeling you get when hearing about these stories of cheating, murder, conspiracy insanity, etc. is the same feeling you would get as an ape when you saw a potential predator. And what do you do as an animal when approached with a potential threat? You watch it, you observe it, you make sure you see it and it doesn’t see you.


A more modern example of this: when I was in high school, my class took a field trip to a holocaust museum, a solemn place depicting a lot of testimonies of the bad and the hope people found. At the end of the tour, we were brought to a room filled with binders, the tour guide explained that the binders were filled with letters from patrons, guests, and people who just supported the museum’s efforts, and out of this room of dozens of binders that lined the walls of every bookshelf, two were specifically filled with hate mail, nazi insignias and the like. Those two binders were surrounded by my classmates for the rest of the tour, marveling and disavowing the hatred in there, but the many, many other binders of positive notes and encouragement were almost completely ignored, save by the kids who had to wait their turn to look at the nazi binder so they looked through the positive ones while they waited. And none of us supported that, but we have an instinct in our heads that tells us to look at the negative, so that we might protect ourselves somehow, even if that instinct is no longer valid for such things.


When I learned about that instinct, it was suddenly made a lot easier to learn to look at the good things and even just the normal things and see how many of them there were to celebrate compared to the bad things we’re constantly keeping under a microscope. I hope learning this information can bring you a similar joy someday.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, people are obsessed by all the wrong things, and they will use the “free speech” cop-out as an excuse for their behavior.

[Lynx122]

It would be nice. I still take time sometimes to really enjoy moments and stuff but i feel like my inner child is fading away slowly. It was there for a really long time but now I just feel like I'm preoccupied often and I don't need it as much anymore. But I still enjoy small wholesome things I just have other stuff on my mind as well.

[DryGermanGuy]

"That's what being a boss is. You steer the ship the best way you know. Sometimes it's smooth, sometimes you hit the rocks. In the meantime, you find your pleasures where you can."

- Corrado "Junior" Soprano

[Bklynbadboy12]

Life is what you make it you have to surround yourself with a better class of people and maybe you won't feel that way

[MemeSupreme]

is any of what you said actually real lol

[Puppystarfish23]

What do you mean?

[MemeSupreme]

bc you sound like you don't know much outside of your own world or bubble

I DONT MEAN THAT AS AN INSULT even tho it sounds like one. you just remind me of like a grandma who experienced life in the 1950s lol the way you talk about stuff

[NathanDavis]

it can be wholesome enough

[eagle1951]

every day