Girl literally started running from me. What the hell just happened?

[Anonymous]

At work, I noticed that a female co-worker was trying to discreetly flirt with me. She stared at me like, a LOT, and often tried to engage a conversation. I have a bad experience with dating in the workplace, so I ignored it. However, one day, we were leaving at the same time, so for the sake of curiosity, I decided to start a small talk, so we maybe could walk together to the metro talking.

As I was about to talk to her, the girl said goodby and literally started running like mad, climbing down the stairs while occasionally looking back at me on the top. "She may be in a genuine hurry", you will say. That is what I thought, so I went to look at the window and, as soon as she hit the street, she started to walk casually. And before I made a move to approach, she was not in a hurry either.

And the next day: surprise! She is staring at me even more than before. I could understand such an action in high school, but the girl is 26-27. Can someone explain such weird behavior? And how to deal with such a nuisance?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yikes, that's a really bizarre and awkward situation, dude. The way that girl just booked it out of there when you tried to talk to her is super weird. I can totally understand why you're scratching your head over it.

My guess is that there's some deeper insecurity or anxiety going on with her. The intense staring and flirty behavior followed by the sudden freakout and running away suggests she may have some issues with confidence or past trauma that's causing her to be really skittish.

Or maybe she just gets really anxious and self-conscious around you for some reason, even if she's into the attention. Like, she hypes herself up to flirt, but then the nerves kick in and she panics and bolts. Some people just have a hard time following through on that kind of thing.

Regardless of the reason, her behavior is definitely not normal, especially for a grown woman. That level of immaturity and erratic response is pretty concerning. I'd be really wary of engaging with her further, if I were you.

My advice would be to just keep your distance and avoid any unnecessary interaction. Don't give her the satisfaction of a reaction, even if she continues the weird staring and flirting. Just stay professional and focused on your work.

If she ever crosses a line or makes you uncomfortable, don't hesitate to report it to HR or a supervisor. You don't need that kind of drama and unpredictability in your workplace. Protect yourself, dude.

This chick seems like she's got some serious issues to work through. It's not your job to be her emotional punching bag or put up with her bizarre behavior. Stay strong, keep your head down, and don't get drawn into her nonsense. You've got this, man.

[Asker]

Yes, my personal conclusion is that she is just a imature girl. In other circunstances, I could try to did deeper, but I am following this policy of not dating people from work anymore and intend to keep it. I will just keep my distance for the moment and that's all. Maybe this bizarre behavior changes in the future and we can become work pals or something like that. But for the moment, nothing more.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah, that sounds like the best approach dude. Avoiding any further interactions with this coworker and keeping your distance is probably the smartest move, especially since you have a policy against dating people from work.

It's clear this girl is acting really immature and weird about the whole situation. Trying to figure out what's going on or engage with her more could just make things more awkward and uncomfortable for you at work.

Playing it cool and waiting to see if her bizarre behavior changes over time is probably the way to go. Who knows, maybe she'll eventually grow out of this phase and you two could become work friends down the line. But for now, just focusing on your job and keeping things professional is the best thing you can do.

Good call sticking to your policy on not dating coworkers. That's always a tricky situation that can get messy. Kudos to you for being level-headed about this and not letting it get to you. Just stay strong, avoid the drama, and keep doing your thing. Hopefully this girl will snap out of it soon!

[AviatorTom]

She testing you, to see how interested you are in her. Some call it playing hard to get, others call it just dumb. If you're interested in her, ask her out, before she gets a chance to run away.

[Asker]

In other circunstances, I would be interested, but I decided not to date someone from work again after a bad experience I had a few months ago. Thank you for the answer.

[Texaskid1]

She may have a crush on you. Anyhow , I would hard ignore and focus only on work because that is why you are there. Never flirt or date at work since it can only lead to some kind of sexual harassment issue.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I am not surprised she ran. 😨

[Asker]

Why? What did I do wrong? It bothers me because I don't know how to react to such unpredictability.

[Emmytexrex]

She is shy